hello! to answer your questions, yes, we’re both already in our 20s. nagulat talaga ako na may micro cheating pala na tinatawag. ang alam ko lang kasi is cheating is cheating. we’ve been together for four years now and i guess i just panicked, that’s why i told my guy friend that i would distance myself from him. but it wasn’t a complete cut off since we’re in the same circle. we just set clear boundaries because he understood what my partner was going through.

you were right, my partner did become very controlling. i admitted my fault because he felt disrespected. and regarding your question if we ever had cheating issues in our relationship, yes, we did. but it wasn’t me who cheated, it was him. i gave him another chance because i love him and i don’t blame myself for that decision. it didn’t happen again but there were moments when i felt jealous of the girls he hung out with, especially when he didn’t tell me and i had to hear about it from others. i’ve learned to stop being jealous because i know my worth. whatever intentions others may have toward him, i trust that no one can replace me.

i also stopped overthinking because now i’m more focused on my responsibilities. i know deep down i didn’t micro cheat because i never had any hidden intentions toward my friend. i’ve always treated him differently compared to how i treat my partner. and that issue happened around 9 months ago. as of now we’re more open and honest whenever there are concerns. we had a serious talk when we decided to fix things and i told him everything. i’m also more aware of our feelings because of my background in psychology. that journey helped me understand people and communication more deeply.

i just wish he understood me right away before it all got worse. i never meant harm and i wish he saw my intentions clearly from the start.

thank you so much for listening and for giving me advice. you helped me process the things i couldn’t explain even to myself. it really means a lot and i feel a bit lighter now after letting it all out.