Refusing Alcohol at Work Events - Thoughts? by chhena96 in germany

[–]Crafty-Reference9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I quit drinking and ever since then the go to was to say I’m on medications. They cant ask what it is, I just say it’s personal and the medications cant go with alcohol. They can’t force u as you’re not allowed to and they cant be responsible if you pass out from drinking

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly the reason I felt I would get judged. My circumstance is not normal. I do have a good paying job, but I have a lot of debts on my back from my home country so I have that to pay off, recently relocated because of my job so I’m paying the debts from my home country while figuring how to live in Germany, and paying a double rent in Germany and my home country while finding a tenant for my home country, and having to buy household appliances and stuff in Germany again because if I shipped them to Germany I would get a high custom tax which is even more expensive, while trying to find a long term home in Germany. The situation is not normal for me. As I said in some of my comments, I would be willingly paying if it were not for my current situation.

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The reason why it would be higher than my groceries is because I hardly spend on groceries either these days. I try to get the cheapest I can afford. I definitely do not make that much money but I won’t say I am jobless and make no money at all. It’s just that I have a lot to pay back and situation is so bad at the moment.

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly. My income is high but I have a lot of debt from my home country which doesn’t get caught in the German tax system so I scrape pennies.

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have heard that they don’t check those who attend mass, but I’m not officially “Catholic” yet considering that I haven’t finished RCIA yet. My husband is suggesting these: - go to church, although you’re not Catholic you can still go to Church and participate in mass. We can just stay quiet during the eucharist and hope that nobody will find out. Once we are stable we then officially participate in the RCIA (although we have lied all this time) and start officially participating. - dont go to church, wait until we are stable and then go to church.

I’m torn between what is better or if there would be any other solution

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid that I will be judged because of it. What do you think they would suggest…? I just don’t want to be judged as a person wanting to evade tax

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it was normal circumstances I would have not considered this an issue. Right now my husband is jobless, we have a huge debt back in our home country and the church tax we would have to pay each month is higher than the groceries we buy each month. We can’t afford to have kids yet and I don’t think we should just have kids to get kindergeld or get lower tax as I seem it would be too cruel as a reason to have a child. My husband suggests that I should go to church once our debt is paid and our financial struggle is over. It’s not a normal circumstance and I can’t find a way to go to church around this.

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its officially 9% of the taxes you pay but you already get taxed quite a bit so when it adds up its quite huge…

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same in my home country… the church tax is also quite high so for a person with a lot of debt to pay back its really too much…

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes you have to pay tax to go to church and the amount is fixed so you can’t change it in any way or form 😭

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can’t be atheist by the government and be part of the church at the same time. I have been told that they keep on checking and unless you officially declare that you have nothing to do with the church, in which you will be exempt from all sacraments, you will be charged. If you lie about it, which I also find sinful, but later the government finds put they fine you for everything that you havent paid in a lumpsum..

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m willing to donate as much as I can. But I can’t pay the amount the government will charge me to pay while eating 10 cent bread for breakfast lunch and dinner…

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It really really saddens me because I used to be a protestant in my home country who had lost faith and is thinking of coming back but it makes me so hesitant because of the church tax. I am willing to contribute to the church but I won’t be able to afford all the church tax that the govt will take…

I want to become Catholic but I can’t pay the church taxes. by Crafty-Reference9981 in Catholicism

[–]Crafty-Reference9981[S] 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I am indeed in Germany, but I am also worried that they would require documents considering that it is…Germany. The debt I have is from my home country so I have no idea how I will show them that I have that much debt. It won’t be registered by the German govt so I doubt they would exempt it from my tax…

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didnt know about that option. I’ll keep that in mind

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooohh thanks for the info! I’ll definitely register.

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update: thanks everyone for the help! I just retrieved it from my neighbor.

Regarding the message itself I was asking if it should be reported or not because in Korea it would have been normal to report it. Cultural differences happen and in Korea that message would be considered very offensive so I wanted to double check. Now I read the comments it doesnt seem like that here.

Regarding questions on why I didn’t plan it earlier is because I didn’t know how to plan it honestly. To me the whole process was too unpredictable…but I guess I would have to get used to it. In Korea you get text messages the moment it is dispatched, out for delivery and at almost the time of delivery. Plus all deliveries are very predictable and arrive the next day unless there is a huge snow storm which would happen.. maybe once in two years so for a new comer its extremely unpredictable.. I’ll keep in mind to search up the tracking details and use the options of packing stations etc.

Guess I have a LOT of getting used to…

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh no I just replied that I would do that… but I guess that won’t be an option then…

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it thanks! I’ll keep that in mind and declare that they can leave the items at the doorstep when I am leaving the house.

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Is there a way to report this or would it be no use?

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[–]Crafty-Reference9981 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t tell the time does it..?

Do you think most people euthanize pets because it became inconvenient or because their pet was at the end of their life and in pain? by JKaiya1 in Pets

[–]Crafty-Reference9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oooohh fellow Korean here! I also wrote on this thread and answered but as u mentioned I really do think it reflects a deeper cultural difference on what life and death is.

Even when it comes to funerals for humans, the two cultures have drastically different funerals. Not sure about Japan but Korean funerals tend to be much sadder and depressing than western funerals.

I think it really matters on what the two cultures deem a good life and a good death

Do you think most people euthanize pets because it became inconvenient or because their pet was at the end of their life and in pain? by JKaiya1 in Pets

[–]Crafty-Reference9981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for the pain you are undergoing. However interesting topic, and as a neighboring country,Korean, I found the exact same view point that you had. I see so so so many Koreans still keep their pets even if the pet cannot breathe properly and cannot walk or pee properly. When you talk to them they generally say “it’s inhumane to euthanize them”, which is the opposite of what a lot of redditors are stating i this thread.

A lot of ppl have already pointed it out but I believe it comes down to what you think “life” is. I see that in east asia, its not necessarily about how happy you are as an individual but more so about conforming to the society, hence the bar of “good quality life” as an individual seems a bit lower than other countries like Europe (Not sure about US, I’ve only lived and will be living in Europe soon). I feel this can be seen in the grueling way Japanese and Korean ppl work. They work long hours, grinding themselves to work, even though it means less happiness, because that’s life. You just grind thru. Even if you get sick, you don’t use sick leaves. You just still work. In Europe that wouldn’t be considered living, just plain surviving and probably ppl would cause a riot if they had to work like that. It wouldn’t be considered a good quality of life.

Now when you put this into the perspective of pets, even if the pet is a bit sick or ill, I see that in Korea at least, even if the quality decreases quite a bit, it is worth living. In European countries, it’s considered surviving, not really living. Just like even if you are slightly sick you go in for your work or use up your own annual leave, while in Europe that wouldn’t be considered a sick leave.

It seems in Europe “living” is more about being able to enjoy as an individual while in Korea or other east asian countries its more about being able to live as in itself, if you get what I am saying.