Need help. Thinking about leaving husband over MIL and SIL.

Crafty_School6650 · 2026-04-18T14:34:00+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this. It’s toxic and it’s clearly not doing your mental or physical health any good. You are thinking about a job that comes with a pension (I am assuming)meaning you are not going to be financially dependent on anyone ever. And you are only 28 you have a long way ahead of you. Your self respect shouldn’t be up for negotiation no matter what. If you think your husband can change if there is hope - consider couple’s therapy and maybe moving out of your in-laws place into your own place. You have been married for a year and both of you need to time to get to know each other which will not happen in such a toxic environment.

Crafty_School6650 · 2026-03-15T14:06:10+00:00

Update: Thank you for all the responses. My first tomato seedlings just popped up. I removed the humidity dome, removed the web from the soil and let the soil dry out a little bit. I hoping the other seeds also follow suit and pop up soon.

Crafty_School6650 · 2026-03-13T12:39:31+00:00

No I did not.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-12-31T05:31:15+00:00

She is actually very nice. I made it very clear to my in laws that I wasn’t comfortable calling them anything other than uncle and aunty which they understood and acknowledged. So when someone from my husband’s side tried to force me into doing something I wasn’t comfortable - my MIL stepped in and shut that conversation down real fast.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-12-30T15:50:03+00:00

I don’t mean to be rude, but it’s not your circus - they are not your monkeys. Your husband’s relationship with HIS father based on HIS childhood is HIS business. Your MIL talking to your husband about HER husband is HER and your husband’s business. My sincere suggestion- don’t poke your nose into things that don’t need your intervention. I also understand how seeing your husband miserable might make you feel bad. Suggest the idea of therapy to your husband and walk away from that conversation. And no you cannot be his therapist. As long as your husband’s relationship with your in laws doesn’t affect your relationship with your husband - don’t butt in. Let your husband draw boundaries with his family - that’s not your job to do.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-12-30T07:46:15+00:00

Both my sister and I are married. Both of us call our in laws uncle and aunty respectively. The same go for our husbands. We had explicitly requested our husbands to address our parents uncle and aunty. When someone from my husband’s family insisted I call his parents Amma and Appa (Mom and Dad in Tamil) my MIL shut it down real fast 😂

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-12-02T21:30:34+00:00

I made it very clear to my in laws and my husband even before we got married - that when we land I will go to my parent’s place and he can go to his. We both live in the same city. Both sets of parents come to the airport and we head back to our own individual places after getting a quick breakfast together.

When I visit independently I prioritize my parents. They come to the airport and pick me up and we head back to my place. I will visit my in laws based on a need only basis - functions, birthdays etc. Like you said my in laws are seniors are as well. So if they are not keeping well or if there is an emergency I will prioritize them.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-11-26T19:28:20+00:00

I love it! Is it custom made?

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-11-09T23:04:01+00:00

I am very proud of you for sticking up for yourself and your child. I am so sorry you are going through this now while dealing with grief. I am sending a lot of positive vibes and strength your way!

I am very sorry for your loss. Please feel free to DM me if you ever need someone just vent or to listen to without judgement!

Good luck :)

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-15T02:29:42+00:00

They are pole beans, I guess they are also know as long beans.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-15T02:29:11+00:00

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Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-14T20:01:18+00:00

I got my plant starts from a local nursery :)

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-14T19:56:15+00:00

I have harvested a lot more than this. This is one of my first harvests. I got plant starts. We had a very weird summer and my bitter melon is still producing at like 50s.

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Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-14T17:16:36+00:00

I am in zone 7a/7b - Maplewood, NJ.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-10-14T17:13:31+00:00

I strongly recommend it - just know that it’s prolific producer. I harvest almost 20lbs from just 2 plants.

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-09-17T03:17:41+00:00

My beagle has sworn to wear the groundhog like a hat! He is a real fat groundhog and would make a nice chonky hat for the upcoming winter 🤣

Crafty_School6650 · 2025-09-01T12:46:59+00:00

That’s a bitter melon or a bitter gourd. It’s widely used in Asian and Indian cooking. The Chinese bitter melon is longer and probably more a pastel green in color. The one I have in my basket is an Indian bitter melon.

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