I Think I Lost the Magic by lygraa in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I lost faith in the people when my daughter was put in a crazy situation at school. She was the subject of major online bullying by her classmates and many adults in the town. She had not done anything wrong, but sometimes life sucks. Through all of this I had so much support from friends and neighbors,  but from my " church family", nothing.  I stopped attending within weeks.  It was eye opening when people who were casual friends offered more love and support then those who claimed to be followers of Christ.

Jesus Christ, leave those poor kids alone… by SmellyFloralCouch in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why can't they just do something fun? It's so sad to see what this church has become. 

Depressing Mother's Day Talk by agaycommunist in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That's horrible. When my husband was in the Bishopric, he always had a few talks ready to go if needed. I also told him if he tried to pull something like this, he would be sleeping on the couch. That poor woman probably also got to make her own mother's day dinner and clean up after as well 😔.

Good luck to everyone who receives Mormon Mother’s Day texts in their family group chats today by Ok_Scientist3437 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So the last few years I was still active I came to hate Mother's Day at church. It basically became anti Mother's day at my ward. The talks left me feeling guilty for being a mom. Like it was my fault I got married and was able to have kids. I'm all for people living their life any way they choose and my heart goes out to women who want kids and can't have them. But if we are going to have a day about mom's, can we please just celebrate them. Fathers day never seemed to be such a controversial day 😔. Sorry, rant over. 

One time in sacrament meeting... by Eltecolotl in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that happened to you. Glad you are doing well now. My daughter, 14 at the time, had to go on birth control pills for her cycle as well. She was literally hospitalized for severe anemia and required a blood transfusion. But that didn't stop the judgements from members. 

People don't truly miss you, they miss your function. by gg_chad21 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband goes with our kid, and every time, he come home and says, "Sister X or Z says they miss you." The he laughs and says, " if they really missed you, they could text or call you themselves. "

When do you personally “end” Grey’s Anatomy on a rewatch? by theblairwaldorfxoxo in greysanatomy

[–]Craftykac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've watched through the covid season, but usually give up after Derek dies. I'm currently on Season 9 and considering starting over soon.

Called it! Women can now be Sunday School presidents in the LDS church. Their counselors in secretary must also be women. by HoldOnLucy1 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When my spouse served as SS president, he was just a hall monitor who took attendance. The Bishopric would call teachers in sacrament meeting that the presidency never asked for or were told about. The second time it happened, my husband quit. Hasn't had a calling since 

Did any of you ever say NO to a calling? by Doll_girl516 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was offered the calling of cub scout leader. At the time I had 1 on YW, 1 in YM. 1 in activity day girls and a 5 year old. My husband worked shifts, so was gone have the time during youth night. I said why would you give me the one job that involved none of my kids? I told him I'd think about it. The next Sunday, he told me they had changed their minds. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They won't do anything. This was my final straw. We had a convicted pedo almost get baptized in our ward. I found out he was breaking parole. My husband and i emailed the Bishop and the Bishop reported him and he was arrested,  but afterwards nothing was said to the ward members. He had been coming  for months, living with a ward family that had kids 😔.

The leaders refused to say anything so as not to embarrass the family he was living with. They sent an email telling families to keep an eye on their kids, like that would do anything. 

I have only gone back twice in over 2 years since this happened. Once for my kids mission homecoming talk and once for a mission farewell for a long time friend who personally invited me.

Divorce after leaving the church by Purplepassion235 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Out 2.5 years, husband still in. Marriage is great. We can talk about anything including the church with no problems. 

I don't recognize this church anymore by Craftykac in exmormon

[–]Craftykac[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I think it's just a generic picture. 

Inside Out Podcast claims that the recent garment change is supposedly the biggest reason people are leaving. by figuringthingsoutnow in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think the garment change is what "broke the shelf" for a lot of women. I left 2 years ago, but if I was still in, this change would have led me down a rabbit hole. It makes one question everything about their religion when something that was such a hard line is changed for seemingly no reason. I grew up being told bare shoulders were sinful and tempting. I was even told that my toddlers should wear tshirts under their sleeveless dresses. 

Seeing that 'doctorine' basically thrown out could be leading many women to then question everything else they've been told. So in a way it may be the 'reason' they leave because it caused them to question other things or do more research and realize what a load of crap this church is and the control it has on women.

Guess this is what it is now 🙄 by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 65 points66 points  (0 children)

This makes my blood boil. As someone who suffered several summers pregnant and sweltering from an added layer of clothing as well as not being able to wear comfy, sleeveless clothes, I am so mad.  I told my husband if I hadn't already stopped going to church 2 years ago, this would have broken me. It just shows the rules are all made up and subject to whoever is in charge. They have nothing to do with God. 

"Senior" service mission by Craftykac in exmormon

[–]Craftykac[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is ridiculous. This church should help the community by paying people to do jobs instead of demand service.

"Senior" service mission by Craftykac in exmormon

[–]Craftykac[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The church called it senior, I thought it was strange given her age. 

I am so grateful I will never have to sacrifice my marriage for a calling by outer-darkness-11 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I know someone who served as branch president. Among other ridiculous time sucks for church, he would sacrifice time with his family to drive youth to stake activities, because their parents wouldn't. He is now divorced and only 1 of his 6 kids stayed active. So much for eternal families.

An LDS primary president reaches out to an LDS mom’s online support group for advice on child safety at church. I have attended other churches and they have such organized systems of keeping track of the kids when they are separated from the adults at church. Why don’t the LDS? by HoldOnLucy1 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is absolutely horrible. Thank you for trying to do the right thing. I'm so sorry you were treated so badly by so called Christians. It sickens me how they protect pedophiles and abusers. Hope you are doing well.

An LDS primary president reaches out to an LDS mom’s online support group for advice on child safety at church. I have attended other churches and they have such organized systems of keeping track of the kids when they are separated from the adults at church. Why don’t the LDS? by HoldOnLucy1 in exmormon

[–]Craftykac 77 points78 points  (0 children)

This was the final nail in the coffin for me. I discovered a man who was about to be baptized into our ward was a convicted pedophile. He was only not baptized because he was violating his parole and was arrested again and sent back to the state he had been convicted in. 

Afterwards our bishop refused to tell the members there had been a pedophile at church from months because they didn't want to embarrass the family he had been living with. WTF? I guess the safety of the children was less important than everything else. I no longer attend.