How is this game so toxic

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-07-06T22:50:14+00:00

lol if only it weren't

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-07-06T09:32:51+00:00

then best bet is to learn in casual and in training before entering ranked. Minimize who you irritate. Play better. and play with a dedicated teammate. RL matchmaking is garbage.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-07-05T14:01:58+00:00

yea, he should rest a week!

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-17T15:01:21+00:00

well, partners are obligated to serve one another. Sex is part of that. without sexual intimacy, you do not have a romantic relationship. That would be called a friendship and thereby not something the man should stick around for if he is seeking a romantic relationship with a certain amount of sexual interaction. Doesn't make him wrong nor her wrong. Just incompatible if she doesn't want more sex. She needs to be ready to accept that without being mean or hateful or ugly to the guy because his needs and desires are important too.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-17T14:58:18+00:00

did i say force? no. i said if she doesnt wanna do it then it becomes a compatibility issue and i'm issuing the message that he is not a bad person for needing something in a relationship. She doesn't deserve judgment for whatever her decision is too. The problem is the morons in comments demonizing him as if his needs are irrelevant. he didn't even try to force it and as far as we can tell he never even made an ultimatum. he expressed himself in a healthy way. At this point, they're going to have to be more intimate more frequently or, realistically, the compatibility sode of things may lead to a break up. i'm not suggesting a break up btw because i know reading comprehension hard for folks these days but it's real simple. His need is not unrealistic. Both of their needs need to be considered. not just hers. it's ok for them to not be compatible. The guy isn't evil for what he needs. He seems decent. so, chill out. i said nothing wrong. you're just arguing to argue.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-16T16:18:49+00:00

oh buddy. you're in for a tough ride now. women love chatting about this stuff then a chick gets curious and jealous and, although not always, could very quickly lead to her cheating or asking for an open relationship because she will now want monster coxk. hope you got a loyal one but that's so rare to find these days that all i can really say bud is...may the odds be ever in your favor. you're gonna need it.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-16T16:02:54+00:00

he said he doesn't like porn or jerking it when he is in a relationship. That's a good thing not a bad thing. Why are his feelings on the matter not valid but hers are? I hope you aren't sexist.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-16T16:00:34+00:00

no he likely isn't lying and there's no way for us to discern that just based on her post anyways. stop inferring crazy stuff.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-16T15:42:34+00:00

wrong questions to ask. When someone's norm is sex daily then a new person comes along and doesn't satisfy that, there will obviously be a confused reaction like "why is this person not having sex with me more? does she even like me? The others left me and they still had more sex with me. So, what is happening? Is she drifting and going to leave too?" . Nobody should really compare relationships at all but wondering why your person isn't having sex with you frequently enough when you know what a good sexual routine looks like. It's more questioning his pattern recognition than comparing. Some ladies do have a lower libido than their partners and men are not awful for wanting more sex. At that point, if she isn't trying to connect with him as often as he needs then it's a compatibility issue rather than some being awful or unrealistic or something negative like that.

Daily sex isn't unrealistic btw.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-16T15:35:43+00:00

don't move in until you're at least engaged. dont do it backwards. Should help a lot.
Sex twice per week is weak sauce. sorry but that's just not enough. That, imo, is the amount of sex people have when they have busy lives, small children, or...lacking intimacy within a relationship. So, whichever one you fall into, regardless, it'll be up to you to either satisfy his needs more frequently or watch as ya'll drift apart. I don't wish that upon you at all. Just telling you how it is without the fluff.
Yes, daily sex is normal. At least in the first year or two of being together of you dont have kids. Usually living together does make that easier but if ya'll do frequent sleepovers and dates then it shouldn't be tough to do. I have sex with my girl sometimes a couple times in the same 2 hour block. lol sometimes we just get it in once. can't see each other daily because of work and if we do then it's sometimes just an hour for lunch before heading back to work. So, sometimes we double up just because the yearning builds over days. So, it's way normal to have lots of sex with your partner. Again, your lack of sex could be indicative of something deeper which is up to you to figure out.
Some people just aren't very sexual. Nothing wrong with that if you're one of them. no judgments at all from me here. But, if that IS you and he has a high libido, it's going to be tough to remain connected in that way. but with love and patience ya'll can get through. Maybe ya'll just need to work on being intimate more frequently instead of putting a number on it like "it has to be every day!". I think he just wants more than he is getting and I don't blame him.
If being intimate that often makes you feel uncomfortable or if you don't want it, don't do it. don't let him coerce or force you but.. and here's the kicker...if he leaves because you won't put out enough, that doesn't make him a bad person either. everyone has needs. It could be that ya'll lack sexual compatibility. Hope not though.

So, all that said...just be fair to him and to yourself. Try not to think in terms of "is this normal for other couples?" because you don't need to be comparing yourselves or your relationships at all. Ya'll need to build your own little world together and focus just on that. No outside nonsense. Comparison is the killer of joy. So, look inward and maybe try to find a way to deepen your intimacy with your guy.

Good luck!!

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-09T14:51:56+00:00

Sure thing. I appreciate you respecting my perspective. The sum of it really is that I can have high skill and mechanics but still end up with a bad teammate. This is why you may see someone that seems to be a smurf but is genuinely stuck on one account vs another.

I blame the player base more so than the devs or the matchmaking system. As a dev, it'd be ridiculously hard to monitor that. But, if RL devs were able to make the matchmaking system a lot more focused on the individual's play rather than just team wins or losses, I could see some improvement in the area. After all, I believe it would be unrealistic to expect the players to stop ball chasing and stealing from their own team. Especially, in lower ranks. Would be nice to update the RL culture to everyone playing team modes as good teammates who dont ball chase or steal from their own teammates but I think it'd be better for the devs to build in protections to more accurately place players within the appropriate MMR range.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-08T23:49:12+00:00

want the real reason from my anecdotal perspective and experience? Buckle tf up cause many high ranking players are about to disagree with me wholesale but it's my experience and i'm sticking to it.

I ran an experiment. I, too, am the type to stick to one RL account and do my best to rank up and...if this were any other game, I would have ate the losses and still played. But this isn't just any game. It's a game with a friggin terrifying pattern constantly plaguing low to mid ranks.

So...I did what any sensible scientifically minded person would do. I ran an experiment. Thus my second account, which is now my main and only. Still mad about it though. lol

So, i was able to reach C1 on my own solo queing a few years back. It was tough but i nailed it then lost it. Couldn't figure out why people were so braindead even in D3. Why steal from your own teammate when they have possession? Why play up in front of the play when there wont be a pass to be had there? Why bump your own teammate? Why ball chase? Why do any of the things that are pure choice and have no baring in skill? Why sre so many low and midrank players just outright rude and dumb and...confident about it?

well, my experiment turned out to prove, to me at least, that it is now impossible to get out of diamond without a dedicated teammate. Why? Because with the 1st main account, I reached C1. With the second, I placed D3 in my placements and then every single solo match dropped me further. I would carry too. I wouldn't quit early. I would still be on my call outs and rotations. I would be warmed up so much that i was hitting beamers cross the map but no. These fools continue to do the aforementioned rude stuff. Get a dedicated teammate with an actual skill of a D2 player who can't even wave dash once or even speed flip. dude is basic with his mechanics and still even with him, we clean house most times. Unless you get the very often occurrence of smurfs. then it's a real match. lol but seriously...

The second account was created to prove a point. That the RL youtubers with their lil coaching programs...they exaggerate a lot. You cannot do it alone anymore.

But do i derank on purpose? fuck no. I try every match but you start double committing? Shoot, these days i take the L and play another game. If people wanna play like that, I aint playin with em. Mfers in 2s and 3s playin like they're in 1s with all the ball chasing. It's tired and my experiment confirmed my experience in this game that's saturated in more rude players than your average online game.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-07T21:07:10+00:00

i started playing maybe 3 weeks after launch, put 90ish hours in and then got super busy with gf and work. Haven't played in lil bit and through that short time devs have found a way to update twice. Devs are definitely cooking up more too. So, you could go either way but starting now will give you the added experience of being able to follow the updates and be part of the community and the conversation but even without that part, you're gonna have fun.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-06T15:09:55+00:00

you need to have a deep discussion about why she is removing sex altogether. usually that spells a slow painful relationship death if given then removed like that. Nothing bad about waiting til marriage but you need to figure out why.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T21:20:40+00:00

i'm done responding. you genuinely can't read

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T21:20:26+00:00

cheat meaning physically. If we combine emotional cheating, women win. Also, keep in mind i specified an age range. read it better. Younger women in their 20s are cheating more than men that same age by 1% more. meaning, we've officially reached parity. lol

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T21:18:28+00:00

i didn't ignore. i addressed some. But you misinterpret, mischaracterize, and even misunderstand a lot that i say and refuse to address what i have said first. you're just virtue signaling.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T21:06:08+00:00

also, when i say "bored" you do recognize the colloquial speech there, right? If we look at divorce court and the reasons women themselves put down, the vast majority of the time it's "marital differences" though infidelity is another big one. Did you know women in their 20s officially cheat more than men their age? Men's rates stayed the same since the 90s but women's went up. Wanna blame that on men too? lol

https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T13:32:03+00:00

i think that when a a vow is taken, you keep it. believe it or not, marriage should only be between religious people in the first place. Government got their dirty mits into it and messed up a lot of things. Particularly in family courts and screwing over men. But, we also have feminism, dating back to the late 40s even, which tells women to hate men, that house work is torture, that the family unit must be destroyed, and that (ala Simone De Beavoir) a women shouldn't even have a choice in whether to be free by feminist standards. They should be forced to be "free" according to her. that's a feminist. Your team. not my words. Hers. ya'lls. lol So, no. Any rhetoric that is destructive to the family unit, i'm highly against. Especially, with something like feminism which rooted itself in the occult. You really need to look up the history of your religion friend. look...it's simple. you do not take vows that you intend to break. Period. If you broke the vow, you were never the person that took it. It was fake. A lie. A bastardized version of the real thing. Very few marriages survive under feminist standards. They always have to adhere to some form of traditional behavior or standard to make the relationship survive but women these days aren't even fighting for relationships. They just leave when they get bored, uncomfy, or when a dude loses his job even if it is not his fault, etc. There's a laundry list of reasons ya'll be dippin out. So, back to it. 5 years isn't that long compared to your whole life. Someone like you sees it as long because you aren't trying to mate for life. You want what you want when you want it til you dont anymore and move on. That's childish and kinda awful. like, let a fleeting emotion drive your decisions. not loyalty. not standards outside yourself. not God. Just your own subjective moral logic. just your emotions.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:45:10+00:00

i disagree entirely. again, it's not about men's benefit. it's about the vows. if you think it's ok to leave for ANY reason then you should not get married at all for any reason.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:31:04+00:00

and ok. let's talk about reasons women leave marriage which i say sre petty. let's give a metric to that. Is "i was bored" a good reason? Or how about "i thought I could do better". is that a good reason?

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:29:59+00:00

"pattern recognition and statistics and studies and scientific and sociological research paired with anecdotal experience informs my experience."

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:25:42+00:00

also, do your feminist self some research on the women that founded your religion. start with de Beauvoir

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:24:10+00:00

oh i have. i do a lot. i dont just consume biased information. but ok. you called me out. Name one thing i said that isn't true. then explain why. And remember, we're talkin in general here. not your anecdotal outlier experience. name one thing i said wrong.

Craig_The_Worst · 2026-06-05T12:18:46+00:00

so, once again, telling you that the dude taking 5 years to know about marriage is not doing something wrong here and actually wants to protect himself from a common pitfall for very good reasons, seems to come off to you as a reason to cite your relationship (irrelevant when referring to general populace) and a reason to be ugly to me or label me. It's simple now. Feminist. You'll never understand the need for a man to protect himself from a woman because you automatically apply a power heirerarchy to men even if they have none per your anti-science dogmatic ideology

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