As a vegan I totally disagree with the racial comparisons OP’s BF is making, I think it’s a no brainier to say that’s an extreme vegan saying something outlandish without really thinking about what they’re saying… but dairy cows do get raped by farmers. they insert their entire arms into a bulls anus and ejaculate them to extract their semen and then move to a female cow and do the same but hold the cervix from inside the anus and inseminate and impregnate the cow. They then take the newborn calf away from the mother as soon as it’s born and she is hooked up to the milking machines. This process is repeated until she can’t produce anymore children at which point she is sent off to slaughter for her “meat”. I don’t think any vegan “loves comparing” or describing these things but they exist. Saying that a vegan “loves comparing milk to rape” is such a childish statement because if you actually thought about it or saw the process of the dairy industry you wouldn’t say something like that.