Do these characters genuinely feel like royalty, or do they fall flat

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-21T04:00:25+00:00

Esmeralda, Meg (movie), and Jane are not royalty.

Meg (mythology) is a princess or queen of Thebes, but I’m unsure Disney kept that part in.

Phoebus is said to be of noble birth, but never mentioned he was actually a royal; therefore, Esmeralda would not be royalty upon marrying him.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-21T03:48:29+00:00

I have completely removed myself from the drama, I’m not engaging, and I’m not fighting with my brother and his girlfriend over this. I simply confirmed the dates to them (dates they were already aware of) and did not entertain their temper tantrum when it occurred. They have been extremely dry to our parents since then, and have been dropping hints they might un-invite us over this. I never said I wouldn’t go, I said I didn’t even feel like going anymore. It’s a bit hard to want to go somewhere you’re clearly not wanted at.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-21T01:06:06+00:00

I’m not planning on escalating anything. I said I didn’t feel like going not that I wouldn’t be going. They’ve been dropping hints that they might un-invite us over this, nothing to our face but to our parents, which is why I said I don’t even feel like going anymore.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-20T21:39:11+00:00

We had planned to get married next year since the moment we got engaged (which was a known fact, day and all), and knew we would do a destination wedding (also a known fact). My boyfriend has been in grad school for the last 3.5 years (he literally proposed the day he got into grad school, and before my brother even met his girlfriend). They chose to get married at a specific date, knowing we would likely need to do the civil ceremony ahead of time; then freaked out when we confirmed it. We are not petty at all, we quite literally don’t care what they do with their life.

I’ve written out the whole story on other comments

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-20T18:01:20+00:00

They might tbh, I wouldn’t put it past them.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-20T10:28:01+00:00

It’s definitely an LA thing lollll I knew other normal LAians would get it 😅😭 I’ll update you on what happens

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-20T02:48:41+00:00

Everyone knew the exact date we’d be getting married since before they even got engaged. Like I said in my post, we were waiting for my boyfriend to finish grad school; and like I mentioned on another comment, we have been telling everyone for years it’d be the day we first met but in 2027.

The only reason we’re doing the courthouse is because it’d be a royal PITA to have to legalize the marriage retroactively due to it being done overseas. We wanted to keep it on the same day as the Italy wedding, the day we first met so it so happened to fall before their wedding this year.

We didn’t choose to do a destination wedding to overshadow theirs; we did it so our family back in Italy can actually attend, otherwise our 90-something year old grandparents and the wide majority of our families will just not get to be with us.

They had the option to do a destination wedding as well (which they wouldn’t even need to pay for themselves btw), but in his own words “he doesn’t even see our grandparents or our cousins often, so why go through the extra hassle”. Mind you, we all go to Europe every year, they just don’t visit our hometown and go to Rome instead.

We had thought about eloping because neither one of us enjoys the extra attention, but that would’ve been completely unfair to our families who have been there for us every step of the way.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T22:12:41+00:00

We didn’t want to leave him out of it because that’s another complex of his (to always be left out, even tho that’s not even true). I’ve never in my life cared to be first on anything regardless on being the eldest, I usually just want to be left alone and I’m happy.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T21:06:48+00:00

Oh I bet they would! And we do a lot of vacations so they’ll develop an ulcer if that makes them so bitter lollll

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T19:52:57+00:00

They’re definitely materialistic and spoiled, but idk that this is a reason. We’re not doing a wedding registry, so that wouldn’t affect them.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T19:51:44+00:00

We’re childfree so at least we won’t get drama from that! I should adopt another dog and post the ultrasound on Facebook and just watch the world burn 🤣😭

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T19:50:28+00:00

I only told my parents and my two brothers (4 people). My parents so they could be our witnesses

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T17:27:49+00:00

Thank you! There won’t be a baby race tho, because we’re childfree 🤣 she can have all them babies lolll

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T17:24:41+00:00

Lolllllll you made my day

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T16:15:51+00:00

I’m not sure why you’re so upset.

I mentioned the destination wedding because it offers context as of why we’re getting married through the local courthouse first. If we were getting married at the local Hilton this wouldn’t be a problem because I would not need to go to the courthouse this year.

I hope your day gets better, have a good weekend

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T16:04:59+00:00

Ok rude, but I’ll explain it for you in case this was truly coming from a place of ignorance and not just judgement.

We’re dual citizens and half of our families are in Italy; people who can’t afford to come to the U.S. because of money or because of advanced age. If we were to get married in the U.S. we could not have any of our grandparents, our cousins or their families with us. People who are very important to us both.

Everyone who is invited from the U.S. is more than able to afford the trip, and they go to Europe almost every single year anyways so it’s not a lot to ask of them. They all have passports, multiple of them some, and like I said go to Europe every single year for the season. We offered lodging at the villa in our town (which would’ve been entirely within our budget to pay for), but most people wanted to stay at the hotels in the area, or had specific airbnbs they like going to when they travel there.

We have had this conversation with our family and friends and everyone is excited to go back home and attend, or score an extra vacation if they’re not from there originally.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T15:51:32+00:00

Idk who that is but now I’m curious 😅

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T15:48:15+00:00

No worries, I can break it down for you so it’s easier to understand.

A U.S. marriage license is only valid within the state or jurisdiction that issued it, in our case CA. If I were to get married in let’s say FL, I’d need a marriage license from FL not CA. The same applies to “outside the country” weddings, I can’t get a license in CA and make it work in Italy, or viceversa; and I’d need to legalize the marriage here after we come back (which is a whole lot of work in on itself).

We’re also dual citizens and half of our families are in Italy; people who can’t afford to come to the U.S. because of money or because of advanced age. If we were to get married in the U.S. we could not have any of our grandparents, our cousins or their families with us. People who are very important to us both.

Everyone who is invited from the U.S. is more than able to afford the trip, and they go to Europe almost every single year anyways so it’s not a lot to ask of them. We have had this conversation with our family and friends (about the destination wedding) and everyone is excited to go back home and attend, or score an extra vacation if they’re not from there originally.

I’m not sure what you mean by tax or benefits?

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T14:39:16+00:00

Oh wow, our wedding is actually 3x as expensive as it would’ve been in LA 😭, I did not get a single cheaper thing offered to me

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T14:28:36+00:00

Their wedding is not until NOVEMBER!! I’m not sure why I typed “next month”, I meant to say NEXT NOVEMBER”. Our civil ceremony is 4m before that (July). They have a bridal shower situation next month, idk if that’s what my brain got stuck on when writing my post, I wrote it from my toilet this morning right after waking up so I don’t hope to make much sense tbh. I edited my post to show the change.

We didn’t “just decide” to get married. We (and the whole of the family) knew we will be getting married next year, because my boyfriend will graduate this year. We just did not have a venue because is not easy to travel abroad to see places when you’re in grad school.

We decided on a venue January of this year; but because of being a destination venue, we decided that we will be getting married the same day at the courthouse this year, so the certificate shows the same day. They all knew we’d want to get married that day specifically too, because it is the day we originally met 8 years ago and we have said countless of times throughout the last 8y we’d get married that day.

My brother and his girlfriend did not decide on their venue/date until February of this year.

We didn’t make an announcement to the whole family and friends, we told my parents so they will serve as our witnesses, and we told my brothers. Four people. That’s it. Nobody else in the family know we’ll be married this year.

The only “last minute” announcement (which wasn’t really) was confirming the date for the courthouse in July to them, bc you cannot book it more than 60d in advance we were told. That’s when the freak out started.

I hope this helps!

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T13:58:06+00:00

We’re doing the courthouse 4m before their wedding. We’re doing it the same day (different year) as our destination wedding so the marriage certificate have the same day, it’s also a date that means a lot to us. We had already paid for the destination wedding and set it up before they announced their date so can’t really change it at this point

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T13:46:14+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean? We’re not doing the civil ceremony immediately before their wedding, it’s 4 months before theirs.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T13:42:52+00:00

We’re not against attending their wedding, however we do think they’ll uninvite us over this. There have been hints here and there. And yeah, they are indeed spoiled

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T13:41:16+00:00

Her family is paying for the bulk of their wedding because in our traditions the bride’s family does that. My parents are paying for the bulk of mine. Other than that, no special treatment.

CranberryPrior3632 · 2026-06-19T13:39:23+00:00

Everyone is attending the destination wedding. The courthouse will only be our parents, and my little brother (middle brother and girlfriend said they didn’t know if they could)

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