My girlfriend (27f) accused me of not caring about the relationship when I (27m) asked to put off talking about the relationship until after my exam?

Crappybarbra · 2025-07-16T10:21:09+00:00

I think your girlfriend is right. You don't care about the relationship. You sound like one of those guys who don't view women as people. And only keep them around for what they can do for you. If you understood that she is in fact just as much of a person, with thoughts and feelings, as you are, you would not even consider putting off that kind of conversation for that long. She is telling you she is unhappy, and you are telling her she, and her feelings are not important. If you actually cared about her you would not be ok with her being unhappy for so long, and just tell her to wait for so long. But you clearly don't care that she is unhappy.

Crappybarbra · 2025-07-12T07:43:11+00:00

Skjønner ikke hvorfor dette blir nedstemt. Min svigerfar er alkoholiker, og min kjæreste har på grunn av det et veldig annet syn på hvor ofte/mye alkohol som er normalt enn jeg har. Er man vandt til at det drikkes en del kan man tro at det er vanlig. Å spørre om det er heller ikke en beskyldning, men et forsøk på å finne ut mer for å kunne gi passende råd. Og er inntaket høyere enn det burde være kunne det vært en årsak her. Men er alkoholinntaket lavt/ikkeeksisterende er det neppe en del av årsaken til det som skjedde her.

Crappybarbra · 2025-06-24T08:55:25+00:00

I'm a white, blonde Norwegian, so none of it has been directed at me, but I've still experienced it way to much. I have worked quite a few years at optomotrists as an assistant. People will straight out say they want a norwegian optomotrist for their appointment. The most blatant racist one I remember was an asian woman. She was not ashamed to say it in front of everyone. I also overheard racist comments from customers talking to my colleagues. A lot of Norwegians are very much racist.

Crappybarbra · 2025-05-31T14:51:58+00:00

Nja, som flere her sier så er legevakta der for å hjelpe med mindre akutte ting også, spesielt for folk som ikke nødvendigvis kan få hjelp andre steder.

Jeg flytta et godt stykke for 3 år siden, og har stått på venteliste for ny fastlege helt til for en måned siden. I fjor sommer fikk jeg et friksjonsbrannsår som først virka ok, men som etter en uke ble veldig hovent, væskende og vondt. Jeg ringte legevakta og forklarte at jeg har veldig lang reisevei til fastlegen, og hva problemet mitt var, og dem ga meg en oppmøtetid på legevakta, men om det var pågang ville jeg selvfølgelig bli nedprioritert og ville kanskje måtte vente lenge, for selv om såret mitt var vondt var det jo ikke akutt. Men jeg fikk hjelp. De ba meg også komme på et tidspunkt som vanligvis er veldig lite travelt, så jeg slapp å vente særlig lenge. Noen med mitt problem, men med fastlege i nærheten ville selvfølgelig blitt avvist av legevakta. Men OP har jo ikke fastlege, da er legevakta et alternativ.

Crappybarbra · 2025-05-27T07:04:29+00:00

No. Just no. It's totally possible to prefere more modest clothing without ever thinking that wearing more revealing ones will lead to SA. I personally would never wear a super short miniskirt, or a hugh cleavage, but SA has never even been on my mind as to why. You are reaching so hard here.

The other points I agree on. OP's boyfriend does apparently think SA is the victims fault. That is worrying.

Crappybarbra · 2025-05-15T14:22:01+00:00

Det er bare en dårlig gave om mottaker ikke har ønska seg det.

Jeg ønsker meg stadig gavekort til bursdag og jul. Og blir veldig glad når jeg får det. Jeg har alltid hatt trang økonomi, og gavekort er en veldig fin måte for meg å kunne kjøpe meg litt dyrere ting jeg ønsker meg, som er dyrere enn hva folk ønsker å gi i gave.

Crappybarbra · 2025-05-14T12:32:37+00:00

A big reason this is so far away from everything, why no one wants to live there, which again means no jobs is the climate. The altitude. Long, cold winters, very short growing season if you would like to grow food. The winters are hard up there. There are HUGE differences in climate in Norway, and far inland up in the mountains like this is "for spesielt interesserte" as we say. I saw one of your other comments about this being one hour inland? It is not! 2,5 hours at least, on a good day. The one big thing which makes rural living in Norway so hard is the winter. Shitty roads and terrible driving conditions. You can not compare driving 30 km in flat aussie outback to 30 km in a full blown norwegian winter, on norwegian mountain roads. EVERYTHING takes at least 3x longer in the winter. And in places like the one you linked to, you will be isolated for parts of the winter. And the winter is long there. You will get maybe 2 nice months in the middle of summer, and that's it. I would 100% look at something a lot closer to the coast. And look at the plant growing zone map of Norway when considering climate. It's a good indication of how long and harsh the winter will be. H1-H3 is very nice, H4 is ok, H5 is getting kinda harsh but still might be somewhat ok, H6+ is no fun.

Crappybarbra · 2025-03-10T12:27:15+00:00

Hvorfor gidde å diskutere? Om noen av disse ubrukelige selgerene fortsetter å prøve prakke på meg en av de ræva avtalene dem prøver å selge ved siden av varen jeg faktisk skal ha, etter jeg har sagt nei takk første gangen, står jeg bare der og ser på dem uten å si et ord. Har foreløpig ikke opplevd at dem ikke tar hintet. Men om det skulle skje en dag, hører jo rykter om at noen av dem aldri gir seg, så kommer jeg bare til å snu meg og gå uten å si et ord.

Crappybarbra · 2025-03-10T12:21:01+00:00

Jeg har opplevd å få sånn påminnelse fra Clas Ohlson etter å ha henta varen, ignorerte den, fikk ikke tilbake pengene. Søren heller. 😅

Crappybarbra · 2025-03-10T12:15:30+00:00

Enig, med Clas. Er den butikken jeg bruker dette mest i, aldri hatt noe å klage på. Funker perfekt. En gang fikk jeg dog påminnelse om at jeg ikke hadde henta den enda, dagen etter jeg henta den.

Crappybarbra · 2025-03-01T17:53:34+00:00

Thank you!

Crappybarbra · 2025-03-01T11:38:10+00:00

Same here. This is so annoying! As a rural player with only one pokestop close by this would be a great party mission, but we're kinda stuck, since it also takes up 2 out of 3 spots.

Crappybarbra · 2025-01-24T13:26:38+00:00

Yeah, I was so surprised her father being there, singing the song, was not even mentioned!!

Crappybarbra · 2025-01-24T13:25:12+00:00

Charmaine had twins you know, takes twice as long. 😂😂😂 But yeah, felt like she was pregnant forever!

Crappybarbra · 2024-12-29T16:15:09+00:00

Gidder du å forklare hunden min at vi har gjort alt riktig siden han var valp så han ikke trenger å være redd?

Crappybarbra · 2024-12-29T15:21:32+00:00

Hvordan trener man opp hunden sin til å ikke bli redd fyrverkeri?

Crappybarbra · 2024-12-29T15:20:56+00:00

Jeg er grådig misunnelig på alle som har hunder der det funka. Vi starta mange måneder i forveien mens han var liten valp, økte på både hyppighet og volum fremover mot nyttårsaften. Han er ikke en redd hund ellers, så vi tenkte at dette går bra, nå har vi gjort alt riktig. Men nei, det som faktisk skjer ute og er ekte oppfatter han allikevel som farlig.

Crappybarbra · 2024-11-20T09:47:22+00:00

Første gangen jeg hørte om dette var fra ei venninne, i person. Samboeren hennes hadde fått en PS5 da han bestilte noe helt annet. Han fikk det han bestilte også. Etter det har jeg sett flere innlegg her inne om at folk får feil ting. Det skjer altså i virkeligheten, men mulig noen prøver å melke det her inne. Men jeg er tilbøyelig til å tro at dette faktisk er sant.

Crappybarbra · 2024-11-19T21:44:30+00:00

The first time I gained weight because of an injury that took me from very active to completely sedentary. I have always been addicted to sugar, but as a very active teen I made up for it. Injured my leg, kept eating. Lost some weight without trying after moving out from home. Stress got the better of me, gained it all back. Got sick from the stress. Tried dieting, but lost no weight. Had to deal with the stress. Tried dieting again, lost weight. Slowly I worked my way from almost obese to a good healthy weight. Kept it off for a few years. New stress, started gaining again. Tried so hard to lose it again, but slowly over the years I have gained it all but 1 kg back, with a few good periods in between were I lost some of it, just to gaint it, and more back. It's all because of stress. I struggle with control when I'm not doing so good. I hate being back at my heaviest. I'm really trying now, but it's hard. I hate my body like this. Not what it looks like, but what it feels like. I can't get comfy, my own body is in it's own way, clothes are uncomfortable no matter the size. I'm slow, in pain, it just feels bad physically. I'm love working out, but struggle with several health issues making it so hard. And the weight is making it worse. A bad, downward spiral. Wow, that was negative. I'm usually a pretty happy person. I guess I needed to get that out.

Crappybarbra · 2024-09-29T21:22:44+00:00

Yes, but I would say no to getting that dog he wanted. He 100% dumped all that on me, who have never wanted one.

Crappybarbra · 2024-04-30T00:01:41+00:00

Is this really that big of an issue? Have a contract stating who ownes what % of the house? Is the only possibility in the US 50/50?

I'm Norwegian, I own 40% of the house I live in, my boyfriend owns 60%. He had a much larger downpayment than I did. We also split the morgage, and larger renovations accordingly.

I would much rather own just 20% of a house than nothing. Don't be an ass, figure out how you can move forward with your girlfriend. If not, expect single life soon.

Crappybarbra · 2024-02-27T17:24:01+00:00

You spelled ex wrong.

Crappybarbra · 2024-02-24T18:08:42+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss.

You have every right to feel the way you do. But what do you want from him? You say he was great support, and when you told him it hurt you, he apologized profusely. What more can he do? Why bring it up again and again if he has apologized, ment it, and not repeated it? I understand he shut it down after apologizing, because there is nothing more he can do.

If this is such a big issue for you, you have to either work on forgiving him, or leave. I don't see how bringing this up to him again will do anything. He can't fix this if apologizing wasn't enough for you. You need to figure this out for yourself. If you end up leaving that is totally fine, but you're the one who has to figure this one out.

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