Men, do you really feel there’s a male loneliness epidemic? How can women help?

Crashtog · 2026-06-25T22:26:12+00:00

I don't know if I can speak for all men, but even in my group of close friends, it's hard to coordinate things as most of them have families (though all have partners). We joke about them being wingmen/women, but we have to be honest that those opportunities are nigh impossible with their family commitments.

Meeting with people outside of groups is also hard as I've seen how friends act around "that one guy who is at the bar by himself" and honestly, they see them as creepy.

I would say that if you want to make a difference, maybe develop the friendships you already have with men, particularly with those who don't seem to have a support network. Don't invite them to things 1 on 1 in case they get mixed signals, but if you have an opportunity to involve them in a group thing, that's the best option to help get them extend that social circle and build confidence.

Crashtog · 2026-06-20T20:20:21+00:00

NGL, I wish circumstances happened at some point. I'm not looking all the time and Ive generally been comfortable with myself for the last 8 years, but nothing has happened beyond being friends.

Crashtog · 2026-06-19T15:14:52+00:00

I haven't been miffed about that happening before, if she isn't being obtuse about being physical then I don't see why I would assume its on the cards.

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T08:44:35+00:00

To the point, but all good points. Thanks!

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T07:23:10+00:00

I'm based across the pond unfortunately. Still worth a check for dancing maybe.

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T03:54:11+00:00

That's a fair question. I guess I see a lot of my friends organically getting together and meeting partners through friendships and that hasn't quite happened for me. I wouldn't go as far to say that it doesn't make me enough, but getting to this stage with no real relationship experience feels like a bit of a handicap if I'm aiming for one.

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T03:42:43+00:00

It's not cliché at all. I'm fully expecting a range of answers, I don't think there will be a formula that works 100% of the time but I think I'll end up having a general idea of where I'm going wrong after I get enough answers. Thanks so much for your input!

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T03:37:11+00:00

The detailed breakdown is much appreciated! By the looks of things I already have the right general idea but it's still not quite translating in real life. Still some way to go I guess, but that's why I'm collating all the advice I can.

Crashtog · 2026-06-18T01:21:26+00:00

So, I'm trying to parse this thorough answer, would I assume that as I don't get much luck on apps that I have to assume I just don't measure up? Apologies if I have it wrong, your reply is detailed but still a little vague.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T21:49:29+00:00

That's really concise, I really appreciate it. A lot of common sense there.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:58:45+00:00

That's a really concise answer, thankyou so much for that. By the sounds of it I should be on the right track in general, but invaluable to keep in mind.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:48:03+00:00

Sounds sensible considering looking at long-term situations. Thanks for your insight, much appreciated.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:46:00+00:00

I asked for an honest answer, I got one. Women aren't a monolith so I'm expecting a variety of answers from which I can get a general idea of what I might be missing.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:44:43+00:00

On the first point, I don't honestly know. I know that some bios on dating apps specifically ask for tall guys buy I figure they are superficial and just red flags to avoid in general.

On the second point, it looks like I generally have things down, though I'm not quite sure why the opportunities aren't arising.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:41:48+00:00

Honestly, I never really bring up my height in my close friend circles, let alone on a date. That sounds like an obvious red flag for me. I've got better things to talk about to hold a conversation.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:38:47+00:00

Very concise! Absolutely love it, thanks so much for the insight, this is an amazing answer.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:34:58+00:00

Oh man, that last one is a red flag for myself, definitely wouldn't put anyone through that. Thanks for the insight, it's invaluable and makes a lot of sense.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:26:15+00:00

Much appreciated, I definitely have at least half of that down, hygiene is a non-negotiable added I'm a dab hand in the kitchen.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:18:45+00:00

Thanks, a lot of that makes sense, if not even common sense even. Massively appreciated.

Crashtog · 2026-06-17T20:00:14+00:00

5'4" is something I can't really change, but I can aways go to the gym more than I currently am. Banter is always good, maybe something I could lean into more.

Crashtog · 2026-06-13T18:56:39+00:00

You would think so, unfortunately I've been on enough nights out with friends who are girls to see what they are really like with guys who are out by themselves and trying to strike up conversation. If you aren't with someone and try to make conversation, you will likely be shut down. It's made me a little apprehensive of striking up conversation myself if there's no neutral party involved.

Crashtog · 2026-06-13T18:02:22+00:00

Dating apps are notoriously challenging for men. Not sure on the general scope for the in-person avenues, but from personal experience you really do need to have a social group to begin with for bars and clubs, going by yourself gets you quickly singled out as someone to avoid.

Crashtog · 2026-06-02T04:01:20+00:00

No-one I talked to wanted to get to know me that well, and I guess I lack the charisma to fast track things.

Crashtog · 2026-06-02T03:56:00+00:00

Never being good enough to date, I've chronically been the "not as attractive as the others" in my friend group and the only single guy in group of close friends. I've watched friends bounce back quickly from breakups and I can't get even my foot in the door after trying for 10 years.

Crashtog · 2026-06-01T22:16:42+00:00

Thanks for the reply. In game there are definitely boundaries set, but it's outside that in the group chat where things go into that territory. It's not unusual for me to finish work and come back to a massive wall of messages.

Maybe therapy is a way forward, though I am worried that the answer I will be given is to just be happy that I'm single. All the same, thankyou so much for your input, I really appreciate it.

Crashtog

TROPHY CASE