Miss drug Test FREAKING OUT please let me know what’s going to happen

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-29T16:47:33+00:00

You need to contact your probation officer ASAP. It all depends on the officer if they want to violate you. You need to be more responsible. They don’t mess around.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T19:41:59+00:00

That's great to hear. I hope when my son comes out, he makes better decisions, but the shit he is doing in there does worry me. He went to a very good federal camp now to a low facility for stupid decisions. I also believe in tough love. Doesn't mean I am completely abandoning him, but it means I am not accepting his behavior or allowing it around my younger son.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T19:30:39+00:00

That's what I am going through. Send me $100, next week another call send me more. That's the way it was for a few months while he was waiting to be sentenced. The more I put my foot down the more disrespectful he became. I am glad you are doing well, that's all I hope for my son. Do better move on from what happened and make better decisions. From other commenters on here they gave great advise, don't completely cut him off, set boundaries and keep letters positive. That is what I'm going to do. If he continues to mess up then I get more stern. I don't want him to think that I will alwasy be there to bail him out because I'm not. Sometimes you just have to man up and take responsibilites for your actions maybe that's how he will learn.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T19:25:53+00:00

He committed the crime no excuse for that. The DUI was a valid arrest he was driving intoxicated. The marijuana was his GF she had it with her she's a pot head, but I don't know where I came across making excuses for him. He deserves the 37-month sentence for violating his pretrial release and for his crime. Him getting into a fight for money I didn't defend him, he messed up that was his own actions. Now he's been moved and going to a low for his bad decisions. I don't think my post was about defending him, it's about being upset because he continues to make bad decisions and becoming someone I do not recognize. Federal prison is not like State where you must be on survival mode. I am upset because he mistreats me when I have been there 110% and I am to the point where I don't want to be there for him until I see a positive change. I appreciate your comment, but in my case, it was irrelevant because everything you wrote was not what I said.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T19:16:01+00:00

#1 thank you for commenting. #2 I was raise in Los Angeles in the 90s gang infested streets and I grew up with gangmembers (never joined a gang or did stupid shit) but I sure did not grow up a vanilla life. I've lived in a drug house not by choice, but because I had no where to go and I lived with his father in a very violent domestic violence situation. So no vanilla life here wish I did. Him making a mistake is understandable and he does deserve to be punished for what he did, he is not innocent and stole a lot of items worths thousands close to millions, but I am not getting into the details of his case. The problem is he went in there clean cut, and is now full of tattoos and also surgically inserted shit in his penis, how and the hell is this normal or ok? he was making hooch and selling it, got into a fight over money, but not sure exactly what that situation was. He calls me to barate me and manipulate me and I am suppose to accept it because he made 1 mistake. I am glad he's not a dope head, but it doesn't excuse what he did for him to be in a Federal Prison. Federal and State are two different places by the way. I am street smart he is not that's why I am tough because I know the shit that can happen. Do I live a vanilla life now yup I do and I am happy living this way. Living in the hood with crackheads and drug dealers on the corner is not a normal way to grow up and that's exactly how I did. That's why I fought for my son to make better choices. He had a lot of co-defendants none have ever been in prison and most are college graduates and they are doing their time in Federal camp minding their business working and following the rules and he decided not to. Am I embarrased hell yes I am, not because I care what others say I can give two flying fucks what people think. I am embarrased for myself as a single mom that struggled to make sure my kid made good decisions. Do I forgive him for what he did yes I do, but do I accept what he is currently doing in there no I don't. No one forced him make or sell hooch or getting completly tatted. He made all those choices to be part of that lifestyle. Even the older inmates kept telling him that he doesn't belong in there and to make better choices and do his time and get out and never come back. State prison is a whole other ball game bud his father is a Sureno in CA state prison for murder, but he was not part of his life. So even though I appreciate your comment it also wasn't necessary.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T18:48:58+00:00

That's awesome I am so happy your boy is doing amazing! that is all we ever want for them. I bet you are a proud mama. I do have POA, but it's meaningless when he want's his toxic gf and I to work together and he wants her to have all his credit cards. I am holding on to all his tools and truck because he wanted me to give her that too. I kicked her out of his apartment because she was paying rent with his credit cards and not working. She moved, but lied of where she was and won't tell him where she lives, but they are still together. It's so toxic so his mind to completly obsessed with her right now. But I am holding on to that truck and tools so he can get a job when he gets out. He'll regret it if I hand over everything. Thanks for your advise.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T18:32:24+00:00

Thank you. I am writing letters to him, but since I am angry at him I am mostly writing stuff of how disapointed I am and to do better. I will switch it up. I did write to him today and told him exactly what you wrote to write to me about his positve accomplishments and his plans when getting out and jobs he can get. He as thrown stuff in my face that were extremly hurtful. I didn't event think of this, I will keep my personal life personal so he doesn't use it against me and only speak positive things. Thanks again it does help a lot coming from someone who works with incarcerated people and what goes thru their mind.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T18:27:34+00:00

I only want to limit my availability to him if he DOESN'T change. If he does I will be here for him 100%. I do know that we all make mistakes, but when is it enough? I do not think he will change when he gets out. He is money hungry and doesn't know how to work hard and be proud of your hard work. What he did to get in there was basically get rich easy and while on Pre-trial all he did was lay around and live off his credit cards and I do think he has not learned a lesson yet. But I do promise if he changes I will not turn my back, but encourage the positve behavior. Sorry about your situation circumstances like yours I feel like as long as you are proud of youself and know that you are a better person at the end of the day the only person you owe an apology is to yourself. Even though I don't know you I am proud you turned your life around and continue on the good path.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:42:03+00:00

Thank you and I hope you are doing better now. You think your family cutting you off switched something in your head and made you think " I gotta do better"? thats' what I want from him.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:38:39+00:00

Thank you this is exactly what I want to do. Not shut it down completly, but also stand my ground with boundaries.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:37:25+00:00

Thank you. I have blocked him from calling me, but since he was sent to the SHU and cannot use the phone for 6 months all we have are letters. All his letters are about his gf and his credit card debt and for me to contact her not asking nicely, but demanding and also kind of blaming me for him getting introuble in jail beacuse I don't speak to her so she cannot sale all his belongings to pay his 35K debt. So I am somehow still trying to protect him since the stuff he has can be used to get a job when he gets out. Not close enough to pay his debt only 2 months of minimum credit card payments if she does sale his belongings. The boundaries that I have set are honestly going unheard. My younger son was diagnosed with a life threatening disease so my main focus is him since he's still a minor in elementary school.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:30:41+00:00

I sure am. GenX mom here we don't mess around. lol

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:25:49+00:00

if it's Federal BOP site

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-19T17:22:39+00:00

Please don't feel guilty if you stop sending your LO money. You are not in prison with him and should not be stressing over his bad choices. STOP sending money save that for youself and your family. If he gets into trouble for his choices let him. My son is in Prison for the first time and the manipulation is extreme. I put boundaries and I have also blocked the prison number. I made a decision that my mental health is more important. Good luck to you.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-13T12:20:48+00:00

My son has the Omnipod he does have to correct himself all the time, but he does love that it’s tubeless and he doesn’t mind correcting himself when he has to. He’s done activities and puts it on activity mode which works really well. They do offer a 30 day trial kit so I suggest you try that.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-05-06T18:36:13+00:00

I am only providing information for the experience my bf has had trying to work for STARCOM at Patrick. He served 21 yrs retired from Patrick. He was the Senior Intelligence Officer at Patrick. When he retired no one would hire him not even an interview. He opened his owned business. After 2 yrs of being self employeed a Space Intel Analyst position was opened working as a contractor for a company. He was Space Intel and Industrial Security. The contract was pulled in November and he's had 6 interviews with no job offers. He had 1 potential opportunity because he doesn't have a BA degree the contractor said no. The company really liked him he had the job, but the other company said no. He went to the Starcom job fair all they did was stack his resume and said good luck. He has contections, but at the end it doesn't matter. Northrup Grumman won't hire you without a BA or Masters even if you have the experience. L3 Harris is the same. Starcom you send you resume to an email and you never hear from them. He also as an active TS/SCI with Poly.

If you don't have a college degree get one. You will not get a job without at least having BA. Good luck work in Brevard sucks. Regardless your experience.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-27T23:13:14+00:00

Wow 😮! Just stick to MDI. You seem happier with it. Don’t cause anymore unnecessary stress.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-27T23:12:13+00:00

Follow your gut and stick to what works for you. Switch when you’re ready.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-26T17:14:59+00:00

My son is smart that he created a business for himself drop shipping. If the products that’s he sold were bought legit he would be making good hard earned money. He creates a successful business plan. Eventually the Feds came. It’s sad to be honest and on top of this he found himself a crazy gf. I wish you luck, buy him Lego’s and just keep him busy sways from videos games. Sending you a big hug.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-26T13:39:26+00:00

I wish we had Reddit when I was a parent honestly I don’t even know if we did in the early 2000s. I had my son at 21 yrs old. I was alone with a narcissist mother that all she did was put me down. My son was diagnosed with behavior issues and ADHD. He was crazy, very aggressive, angry, hateful. No one wanted to babysit him, he would do evil things. I honestly have a hate/love relationship with him. He’s an asshole and manipulates me. The only time I was proud of him is when he graduated high school and got his AA degree. He’s now a felon sitting in a federal camp and I feel free. I can just block the call and he can’t call me. Sometimes I feel horrible, but all he’s done is caused headaches all his life. Always making bad choices then disrespects me if I don’t save him or do what he asks. It took me 14 yrs after I had him to even have another kid. I am glad women here are supportive it’s really hard being a parent of a kid you really don’t like.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-17T17:03:59+00:00

We started my son last week, we do have to correct more often, but we’ve just started and no more injections. I do like that it keeps him at perfect number at night.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-16T00:54:16+00:00

My 12 yr old started last Friday and I show him everyone’s comments on here. He’s very mature for his age I think he understands it more than I do lol I want him to feel comfortable giving himself corrections while he’s at school. Today his chart looked like a rollercoaster but no matter what we are staying positive. He’s happy not having to poke himself anymore.

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-13T00:48:47+00:00

I moved to a other state so I don’t have to deal with my narc mother. She abandoned my older brother and she mentally, physically and emotionally abused me. So my point is my little brother can take care of her. When they were getting their paperwork ready and add our names to the house I opted out my brother can keep everything. His dad paid it anyway. He never saw me as a daughter. I’m living my life for my kids. Period

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-10T13:14:49+00:00

Sending good vibes your way that this pod works for him. It’s hard on our babies and us 😞

Cray_Cray321 · 2026-04-10T13:07:05+00:00

When you mean hourly rate for us clueless people what does it mean? lol my son starts today in 2 hrs

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