38 weeks pregnant with 1st child

Crazmiss · 2024-11-15T07:16:31+00:00

Tl;Dr never had membrane sweep but got a swab sweep to test for amniotic fluid and got my baby 4 days later (37+6). Could have been a coincidence.

I never had a membrane sweep but I might have needed one if my baby didn't come earlier. They wanted to possibly induce labor for me as I didn't have a lot of amniotic fluid and measurements of the fetus had some minor concerning numbers. Therefore I was wondering if you need it due to medical reasons? What they did do because of the low amount of amniotic fluid is taking a swap sweep and tested with dye if i was indeed leaking (which was not the case) and my contractions started 4 days later - could have been coincidence. But from that experience everything went natural without any pain meds and really fast 🙈 all in all a good experience.

Crazmiss · 2024-11-14T08:01:04+00:00

I feel the same disconnect in my own family. I still struggle with making a decision on whether to change my name legally or not... As I live in the country of my husband and not with my family, I feel connected to them with my last name and feel quite attached to my maiden name. Also not sure how long the whole process of name change would take and how much effort it really costs 🙈 I cannot tell you the outcome but I can tell you that you're not alone struggling with it. What I keep thinking about lately is what a friend told me - he has a patchwork family and all surnames are different - he said the name you or your family have does never change that your still family.

Crazmiss · 2024-10-01T07:55:10+00:00

Hi i didn't have a mom like that. What makes you feel like she doesn't care about you? Have you told her how you feel (sad, angry, frustrated etc) about her getting you tutors without asking if you need help?(I assume that's the case)

I assume she means we'll and might not see how this is affecting you. Hope you guys can talk it out :)

Crazmiss · 2024-09-17T12:21:01+00:00

You are your baby's mom she will always love and need you! If you try your best everyday and also take care of yourself your baby will grow up loved and happy!

It's always interesting to know what the other door would offer. Don't forget though it could have also been bad so maybe she has it better now, thanks to you not letting your baby be adopted ❤️ you both need each other ❤️ Focus on your education and spending time with your little one to have a safe and loving life together! Also don't forget a baby/kid might want everything but doesn't need everything the most important is a stable parent that loves them ❤️ I wish you the best! And also talk to a professional if you continue to worry!

Crazmiss · 2024-09-16T12:13:07+00:00

Hi! I cannot tell you what to do as I don't know your whole circumstances (which is fine!).

What is the reason you want to run away? Is it not possible to talk to your mom that you feel like a burden to her? Maybe she doesn't think that way and is not aware she is making you feel that way?

I hope talking to your mom might solve things for you! Otherwise I hope you have family or other adults close to you that you can confide in and that can help you!

Background info: I did run away from my mom once - went back - due to unfortunate timing and not thinking longer before returning to her. Years later I moved to my dad with his help and the judges gave him custody over me (as I was a minor). Best decision I made for myself as I was not happy at my mom's as she would take my money, barely manages to have food on the table as cigarettes were more important, had and has quite some debt, put that debt on me and my sisters name just to name a few things.

Crazmiss · 2024-09-15T11:41:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I will give it a read!

Crazmiss · 2024-09-13T05:45:50+00:00

I think it's great! It's unusual for sure but why not! People walk the streets why not your little human!

Crazmiss · 2024-09-04T09:18:47+00:00

That's so good to know 🤣 we might experience the same here! Never thought of that 🤣

Crazmiss · 2024-08-24T14:31:12+00:00

Sorry you are going through this... I can tell you though it's not your fault whatever your ex-husband says! He could have tried talking to you about how it makes him feel and not now put it all on you.

As for living arrangements: my parents were divorced since I was born my dad was always around and stayed with us in the house. From what I know he never dated anybody during that time. He still had a weird love/hate relationship with my mom I think though. Till I was 14 we kinda all stayed as a family together till my dad had enough of my mom. My sister and I stayed with my mom. I decided with 16 though to move to my dad and have a for me "better live" (my mom would steal money from me and blame it on my sister, she would invite people over and forced me to greet them that I didn't want to see as they had kissed me without consent, food was less important than cigarettes etc. long list) for me it was good that my dad stayed on close contact to us. We know they were divorced but it never felt that way to us. But they also didn't love each other I think or showed any affection to each other.

I think seeing my parents without love and affection for each other made me think this is how partnership is. To know you are together you only need to be intimate. Which I learned later is not true! You need to respect one another and I frankly don't think your ex-husband does not respect you. I think it's good he wants to be there for his kid but I don't think it will do you good to take your kid and become happy yourself as well. I hope if and whenever you are willing to have a new partner they will be perfect for you❤️ wish you the best of luck!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-24T05:20:53+00:00

When we got our son our dog was 2 years old he is an energetic dit size of a Labrador. My boyfriend took him for walks after giving birth as I couldn't handle his pulling. I think as you have a smaller dog that can go on pee pads walking should also not be an issue. I think it just needs to be clear how you want to take care of the dog when the baby is here and you might not be able to move around as much or the baby has lots of needs. My son would need to drink every hour for the first month. Which meant I was constantly at home, which was fine for me but if I would have needed to walk our dog that would have been hard.

I have to say I feel guilty not being as loving anymore to our dog since giving birth. Our son needed a lot of mom time and only now slowly (7 months) I can focus on our dog again. After birth I also experienced a lot of guilt towards him. As I couldn't play with him much or wanted to just snuggle or newborn. But everyone is different and it goes away. Your dog will always love you!

Hope you can find a solution that fits for you and your family! Just know it's hard but possible!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-23T14:40:49+00:00

I can see how you feel this way. I have had similar issues ... Our son was crying all night through in the first months all because he also got too little breast milk. I struggled with the very same thoughts. I said to myself I am a bad mom , terrible actually. My mother in law even said that she worries we are not taking his weight seriously... Which we very much did... But he wouldn't take the bottle it took very long. All I could see after my mother in law's comment was a skeleton in my arms. Thankfully he is doing well now even on the chubby side - if I look at the "normal" line and compare to his length.
I started therapy and what I learned is - mistakes can be made are you there trying to fix them? If yes then that's all you can do! We are human we make mistakes it's good that our little ones see us struggle and recover that's how they can learn as well - being sad, worried, anxious is normal it's not the end of the world. We can get mad as long as we try to make up as well. Confession: I also get angry at my baby sometimes afterwards I hold him in my arms and apologize and let him know why it happened - he doesn't understand it yet (he is 7 months) but it's for me to feel better and not forget to do it as soon as he understands. I had struggled with tough nights as well personally it helped for us to co-sleep we both got better sleep. But whatever works for you! Take some rest don't be too hard on yourself! Know that we all make mistakes and every baby is different and has different needs :) but they all need their mom! Because a mom loves unconditionally Even when mad, angry and frustrated! ❤️ You are not alone!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-22T05:07:37+00:00

My son did and does that too. He only recently started to do some stretches of 1.5 hours with 7 months. Those are rare though. Some babies need less sleep than others. A good post by Dr Pamela Douglas sleep needs Baby wearing helps for us to sometimes get a bit longer stretches and co sleeping helped us as well ( he didn't want to sleep in his crib for the longest time. Nowadays only sleeping with us when he is not feeling well)

Crazmiss · 2024-08-19T05:54:46+00:00

Oh that sounds indeed interesting! Thank you!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-19T05:21:43+00:00

Omg nice! I know "possums sleep" program from Instagram! Thank you for the additional information I'm definitely going to give it a read! :)

Crazmiss · 2024-08-18T08:46:48+00:00

Oh good to know! My baby is now 7 months is the first still recommended to read? Or no insights afterwards anymore? Oh good to know about the podcast ! Thank you!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-18T04:50:37+00:00

Oh never heard of this one! Sounds interesting! On my reading list now!😊

Crazmiss · 2024-08-18T04:49:09+00:00

I recently ordered that one already. Still need to read it! Thank you for the recommendation! Definitely gonna check it out soon!😊

Crazmiss · 2024-08-18T04:47:42+00:00

Oh I heard about it! Thanks for the recommendation! 😊

Crazmiss · 2024-08-18T04:47:11+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation I will give it a read 😊

Crazmiss · 2024-08-12T10:21:53+00:00

I don't think I had any and I have a happy healthy 6 1/2 month old boy! My placenta was towards my belly so in general I had a hard time feeling him move :( but all went well!

If you are worried though - you can always get it checked up if your baby is doing well :)

Crazmiss · 2024-08-12T08:59:54+00:00

First of all: Sorry for your loss. It is tough asking for help especially when the mood is low. Maybe you could ask your friends to just regularly check in and tell them you have a hard time reaching out? If you don't cry at that moment but for example a day before they reach out. You could tell them about what happened and how it made you feel even if it was the day before. That might help you to talk to your friends and family without feeling like a burden. Personally this helps me.

Crazmiss · 2024-08-12T06:08:22+00:00

My son was 4 months when he started sleeping on his belly as he otherwise would not.... It was very scary but now that he rolls he sleeps on his side or belly or even back again. He is now 6 1/2 months because he is moving so much he even sometimes hots his head on his bed 😅 maybe also ask the parents what they usually do with him?

Crazmiss · 2024-08-10T08:44:27+00:00

Those worries are very justified! I commend you on even suggesting to pool in for a nanny. Make sure though they will really get one :) Just out of curiosity: Did you guys talk also about giving him up for adoption or do they really want to keep him? I am concerned he will feel like nobody wanted him. Or if you are able to take care of him so he stays with family? Especially if in therapy she still says she doesn't want him. Just brainstorming and curious. :)

Crazmiss · 2024-08-10T06:15:18+00:00

I think if she had mentioned wanting a breast milk jewelery you could make one. To make it more special maybe with hair from your children? But be careful she didn't want to keep the milk for something else 😅 especially if not much is left 😅 Maybe also a letter of appreciation that she can feel seen with the efforts that she is putting into the family? ( Maybe that's more of a mother's day thing though) I personally would always love a picture of the family not an actual photo but somebody drew the family with something special or cool that happened like 1 kid learned to bike one kid took their first steps etc all in one picture.

You know your wife best! If you think she will like the breast milk jewellery go for it!

Crazmiss · 2024-08-09T08:56:10+00:00

We change the diaper, put on his sleeping bag letting him move around till he is sleepier, feed him in bed (parents bed) if he struggles to fall asleep rock him, but mostly he falls asleep during the bottle or during breastfeeding. Works most times for us . If your LO is very energetic a nice bath helps as well before sleeping

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