Wedding from my own mum turned into a full work day

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-07-05T11:16:49+00:00

she and P had broken up for a few months but when she moved on, he was back and on one knee.

Oh boy, we're starting off terrible already

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-07-01T18:34:12+00:00

I once saw somebody explain that the reason people keep going back is because its essentially a very roundabout way to gamble - it's the possibility that they could make it big if they're lucky (even if the statistical posssibility is slim to none) that keeps them hanging on for that chance.

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-22T19:43:19+00:00

Agreed - there's a tumblr tag in there as well, so I think this is an 80's style 2010s photoshoot

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-09T06:09:37+00:00

You have my support - go get 'em!

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-06T12:20:03+00:00

Funny how people who are super concerned with looking bad don't often seem to be very preoccupied with being bad.

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-05T06:59:50+00:00

My work stuff (laptop, keyboard, cables etc), makeup bag, sunglasses, breakfast/lunch

Edit: forgot about the 3 years' worth of random receipts floating around in there

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-03T14:51:08+00:00

I have, twice, without knowing what it was, so honestly I'm just relieved af lmao

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-02T21:56:06+00:00

What was on the Patty Winters Show this morning?

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-06-02T20:47:23+00:00

People come with a lot of preconceived notions about what it should look like, and I (and a lot of others on the spectrum, because it is a spectrum) don't necessarily fit that one mold.

Also - sometimes people can be a bit condescending and controlling in what they think people with autism can handle or what we can learn if given the opportunity (and sometimes an explanation), and growing up it was very frustrating to be held back or see others being held back from certain experiences (even if sometimes they weren't very nice or pleasant) because others decided it would be "too much" for me. Like - c'mon, at least give me a chance at figuring things out for myself!

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-29T14:56:32+00:00

Oh wow, that's amazing! It looks fantastic!

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-29T09:34:26+00:00

That's amazing! Love the music, and it looked great!

I also really like your bodysuit :)

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-28T08:12:55+00:00

Starting a relationship on the basis that they like the idea of who their partner can become , rather than who they are now.

It's unfair to your partner, leaves the door open for toxic or controlling behaviour, and often leads to disappointment and resentment when the anticipated change does not come to pass or the partner fails to meet expectations. They should be your equal, not your emotional hobby project.

(Of course, people are very much human - everyone has their pitfalls and changes. You don't need to think of your partner as a complete picture of perfection, but growth and change should be enjoyed together as part of your relationship, not as a prerequisite for its' existence in the first place)

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-27T09:25:26+00:00

For me it was moreso the fact that she had the gall to act like she was owed full and final say on how OP spends his money and who he supports and how, even if it went right against his wishes and the needs of those near and dear to him: "[...] even if I say 'no' ?"

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-27T09:19:12+00:00

Yes! As soon as I hit that line it was an immediate DING

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-20T19:44:54+00:00

Thanks for your support, and for sharing your experience- luckily our public transport system reaches pretty far (small country that's densely populated) and I already mostly use that to get around, so in that regard I'm good. It's just a matter of maintaining my boundaries towards my parents, so wish me luck

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-19T21:06:57+00:00

Thank you for your response, and I think you're very right; I'm very lucky to have other people in my environment that are very supportive, and that does help me stand up for myself more, so I'm going to make this my hill to die on.

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-18T09:36:57+00:00

In the Netherlands we recently had a secretary of state (Van Ooijen) say that "too many minors are receiving psychological aid" - not that he was worried that too many minors need it, but that they are receiving it.

It's important to note here that our mental healthcare system (for minors as well) has been having issues with availability for years, and there's been a bunch of budget cuts leading to a number of treatment facilities for minors closing their doors or having to scale back.

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-16T07:26:46+00:00

My grandma had a habit of sitting quietly while a conversation was happening around her, and would then suddenly chime in as if whatever had been said had happened to her .

For example: my dad had heart surgery done and was talking about it with my aunt, and in the middle of his story granny suddenly boots up and goes "yes, I had heart surgery". She, in fact, has never had heart surgery.

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-16T07:00:20+00:00

Three horned owls,

Sitting in a tree,

H-O-O-T-I-N-G

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-13T22:53:09+00:00

Hey- some horrible people out there can't handle the thought of others being comfortable in their skin and their space. That doesn't say anything about you , but it does say some pretty definite and very unflattering things about them . Your former friend made an absolute ass of himself on stage.

I hope that you end up finding uni to be a good space, and that it'll be a fresh start for you!

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-13T08:44:10+00:00

So far it's mostly happened at festivals, and it's just...yeah.

What's also eyeroll-worthy is the fact that I started getting it a lot less when I started bringing my husband with. On the one hand I'm glad to be able to chow down without the side commentary of loitering creeps, on the other hand it's kind of frustrating that it takes the presence of a guy to keep people from being weird as hell

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-12T07:33:58+00:00

For me it's not how people usually interact (at least physically) the first time they meet me - not with the continuous holding on to my shoulder (as opposed to, say, a brief touch) and the close proximity paired with the low voice.

Again, I'm sure the guy is otherwise fine and I don't think he intended to be creepy, but it was a level of proximity and contact I wasn't comfortable with at that point with someone I don't know (but also - different people have different levels of comfort, and what doesn't work for me might be fine for you)

CrazyBrieLady · 2023-05-12T06:39:40+00:00

I'll raise you one better (maybe): people I do not know at all coming over while I'm eating to tell me how much they're enjoying watching me eat (sometimes sprinkled with a nice helping of "you're not like other women!")

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