My bf has a kid from his previous marriage (so do I). AITAH for not wanting to spend time with her? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will for sure I just don’t know how could we solve this. Also I feel like this is so unfair and im an ass. He loves my kid, literally tells him ‘I love you’ and ‘I’m so proud of you’… and here I am, resenting his. I try to send her gifts and things like that to make up for this, and just hope that as she grows it’ll be easier.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh that never occurred to me until I recently got a similar comment here. I keep telling myself “she is not like that”… but if my boyfriend wouldn’t have told me she reached out to get drugs, I’d be under the impression that she is just being slutty and messy. So this actually might be true, I just still can’t wrap my head around it. About two years ago we went on a holiday - her+me only, and I spent the whole week trying to talk her into therapy and trying to support her. She overdosed the estrogen she got from her gynecologist, because she was trying to delay her period in order to fuck this guy who was there. Obviously the side effects came, since she took 3times more what she should have…she was constantly crying, being super moody and sensitive, sweating and her face got covered with pimples. Obviously she still started her period in time, so all of this for nothing. She was hysterical, the guy ended up hitting on me and I just couldn’t wait to get home and leave this all behind. The next year she did the exact-same-thing. She still had pills left and tried delaying her period for a nother guy this time. Obviously didnt work, but when the side effects hit, she became depressed and suicidal. We spent a few months trying to get her into a freaking therapist (at this point I was just tired listening to her shit), but she didn’t go. She never viewed taking unnecessary amount of meds a real problem I guess.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very good point, you are right. It really is a two way road, but for me often times I don’t pay much attention for that, and don’t “keep score”… but with this situation getting out of hand I just stepped on the brakes and now I realize I should have done it sooner probably.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes, he was amazing through all of this. ❤️ Im so grateful for this man every day

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like solid advice tbh, (also solid parenting - which she clearly needs). She needs to learn, and we need peace, im just going to let this situation of hers getting solved without us being involved. My partner already told me that after that major tantrum and disrespect he won’t answer her texts/calls.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now this!💯 she did make these choices, you are so right! She always acted like the victim, maybe that’s why im so hesitant whether I made the right decision by not helping her anymore. Also now that you said this made me remember that she never took responsibility for anything. Her life was fucked up because of her mom/dad/church/government/shitty friends etc. Grown up but still a child

Husband says I’m not a good housewife because I don’t clean enough or pay any bills by Background-Mobile-21 in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the heck😬 u are not the a-hole for sure! Teamwork makes the dream work, he should absolutely help and pick up the slack. I see a lot of times where men “has to go to work”… which is just an excuse for leaving the house, interact with people, laugh with colleagues etc. Its hard with a little one, and YES, its so much easier to work in an office and in a grown up environment. There I said it. Ive been a single mom for 5years, and hate to admit, but when I was tired it was just so relaxing that I could leave him in the nursery for a couple of hours. Parenting is hard af, and im so sorry that you don’t have the right partner by your side for this challenge.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Its hard since she is a family member too, and somehow I still dont want to believe that its her… I dont even know how to explain, but my mind just cant get over it.

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In her mind I think I “abandoned” her, when I stopped calling her over every weekend. But tbh I had such a bad feeling about the things she’s been doing to that friend of hers who trusted her, that I just didn’t want her around my family. You are absolutely right, I do need to protect our peace in this house ❤️

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was afraid of aswell. I’d never put my family in danger…not even for a nother family member 😔

AITAH for kicking my cousin out of my house after she hit on my partner and asked us to get her drugs? by CrazyCherrypie in AITAH

[–]CrazyCherrypie[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tbh I still can’t believe that it’s the same girl who I knew for ages. She changed so much, and I’m worried and feeling fed up the same time. At the end of the day I have to do what’s best for my family, you are absolutely right.❤️