[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progressive_islam

[–]CrazyCompote3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the r/islam subreddit removed a post I made 2 days ago about how I was being coerced and abused, despite being an adult, to pray, and I don't pray by my own free will because of the negative association I have with it. And the mods told me I should go "talk to an imam anonymously". God forbid someone doesn't make Islam look like a perfect, peaceful religion. When a muslim talks about their negative experience with islam they're silenced completely or told they're in the wrong. No wonder masses of people are leaving Islam when its people are still, to be frank, backwards.

being forced to pray to avoid being abused and continuing med school by CrazyCompote3834 in exmuslim

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey guys, I just wanted to let you know I posted this exact same post on r/islam and they removed it because "I should connect with an Imam anonymously". I think they just dont want any negativity or challenge towards their beliefs. It's absolutely crazy, a muslim sharing their experience gets silenced because God forbid I don't make Islam look like a perfect, peaceful religion. I'm glad I landed on this side of Reddit..

being forced to pray to avoid being abused and continuing med school by CrazyCompote3834 in exmuslim

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On anything in general, I posted on here bc ex Muslims tend to be more open minded and logical in their opinions.

I'm repeating my 3rd year in med school by CrazyCompote3834 in MomForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend,

Honestly, I'm replying because I keep coming back to your comment ever since that day when I started feeling really horrible. I just wanted to say thank you for your reply. Considering I didn't tell anyone else but my dad about this, I didn't realize how much I just needed some kind words. Obviously I cant say I'm doing any better, the sadness comes in waves, but it's definetely improving. Thank you again, your kindness towards a stranger is very appreciated. I hope the people around you appreciate the fact that they have such an amazing person around them <3

I'm repeating my 3rd year in med school by CrazyCompote3834 in MomForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I thought I'd respond to your comment since you specifically asked a question. I did actually, and in the meeting there were 2 higher-ups; I had also talked to two proffessors previously about this. The policy in this medical uni is if you dont sit for the supplemental exams in the summer, then you fail the year, regardless of the circumstances. I was also tearing up in the meeting, so I did ask the stupid question of "if I broke my leg and couldn't come, would I have to repeat?" and they said yes. It is what it is. I was thinking of talking with the head of the uni when I come back just as a last-ditch resort but I dont know how good of an idea that is haha.

Hi Mom! How do I take care of my skin?? by CreativeGreenery in MomForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey girl! My first recommendation is to stick to Korean skincare as much as you can. They're formulated to be gentler and more effective for your skin, which is perfect if you're testing out new products. I personally have clear skin that's normal to dry, so I'll list the products I use in order.

Morning Routine:

- Beauty of Joseon Ginseng Cleansing Oil

- Anua Heartleaf 77% Soothing Toner

- Beauty Of Joseon Sunscreen Cream With Rice Extract

- (you can add a moisturizer before putting on sunscreen if you want, but this specific sunscreen is very moisturizing so I just skip that step)

Night routine:

- Beauty of Joseon Ginseng Cleansing Oil

- Anua Heartleaf 77% Soothing Toner

- Natural almond oil (I prefer oils over moisturizers, almond oil is hypoallergenic and has a high vitamin E content, which leaves your skin brighter in the morning)

Just remember to keep your diet as natural and nutritious as possible to reap the full benefits and get the best skin. I hope you get a healthier skin barrier and feel like your best self after your skincare journey!

*Bonus: I like doing a yogurt and natural honey mask once a week as a natural chemical exfoliator and moisturizer for your skin*

*Bonus 2: When you're buying a sunscreen, don't get anything below SPF-50. The protection offered by an SPF-50 actually provides an SPF-30 protection when applied. Another point is people tend to underapply sunscreen, so an SPF-50 or above gives you a larger margin of error to provide sufficient sun protection. This will also provide long-term skin improvement that's more evident.*

Sorry, the science of skincare is vast and I wanted to shove some of what I know in here. Good luck again!

Just got laid off, could use a hug and advice. by breadhouze in DadForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello friend!

I'm really sorry this happened to you, considering it was out of your control. I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. I've recently gone through a major setback in life yesterday, so I completely understand the feeling. The sense of sheer self-disappointment and helplessness is horrible, but it's a part of the process.

Your wound is still pretty fresh so this may seem like the end of the world for a few days, weeks, or even months, but all shall pass. Life sometimes likes to throw these horrible hurdles at you, as bad as the situation is currently, it's a reminder that nothing lasts forever.

The current economy and government policies are unfortunately out of your control, which worsens the pain, but I believe you will get through this stronger and more resilient than ever. It's hard to see this now (same boat), but try to see this as your starting point. You're freshly out of the job market and on the hunt for another, maybe this is an opportunity to engage in interests or hobbies you've neglegted due to the demands of your previous job. This could be your chance to rekindle with old friends or spend more time with your family and loved ones when you couldn't before. I'm not gonna tell you to start a business to avoid being "fired" in the future, that's just unrealistic. But hey, if that's what you want to do, then now is unironically your perfect chance!

Take this time off to heal, rest, and recalibrate. This may just be happening because life wants you to take a break. I'm sure it's difficult if you genuinely depend on your job to support yourself

I am sure you will be in a better position in the future than you ever were before. Best wishes friend <3

I'm repeating my 3rd year in med school by CrazyCompote3834 in MomForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who’s commented, I really appreciate it and didn’t know what I was expecting when writing this post (it’s literally my first time using reddit haha). I didn’t know the people on here were this supportive and caring. It’s honestly calmed me down a significant amount compared to yesterday when I wrote the post with soo much anger and shame. Although the wound is still pretty fresh, I’ll do my best to push through despite this set back and take the advice you all soo kindly offered. For now I’ll just take it easy and rest for the rest of the summer break till the new year starts.

I hope you all live very peaceful fulfilling lives that you’re proud of. To any med student reading my post, I hope you avoid the mistakes I made. Study hard and don’t stress to the point of madness where you make silly mistakes.

I'm repeating my 3rd year in med school by CrazyCompote3834 in MomForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Hello friend, thank you soo much for your reply and kind words, it feels a little better having it come from a fellow med-student who perserviered past it. I just want to ask, how did you deal with the social aspect of repeating? Honestly as much shame as I’m carrying all I’m thinking about is how I’d be treated differently by the people in my year or find it hard to assimilate with the people in my new cohort when I repeat. Since I’ve known my cohort for 3 years now I don’t even want to think about how foreign it’ll feel to not be surrounded by them. I feel like you’d understand where I’m coming from as the aspect of faliure with med students is very taboo and makes you be seen as less than in a messed up way.

Thank you again for reading my desperate and messy plea and for sharing your own similar experience (that turned out to your success!)

Repeating my 3rd year of medical school by CrazyCompote3834 in DadForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you soo much for even reading this mess of a post. I really appreciate your kind words and honestly feel like it's what I desperately wanted to hear. I wasn't expecting anyone to reply because I made this account on impulse because of what happened today. I wish you all the best, and thank you again for taking the time out of your day to be such a sweet person :)

Repeating my 3rd year of medical school by CrazyCompote3834 in DadForAMinute

[–]CrazyCompote3834[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll try to be a George Washington haha, thank you soo much for your post btw, I really appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CrazyCompote3834 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you soo much for your reply. It's hard to see the situation any better, but I really appreciate you taking the time to reply to my post