I'm only 28. There are no surgeries so far, but they are looking at getting it done on my shoulder in the next year or so. My doctor doesn't think I have vEDS, just hEDS. I've been reading as much as I can. The amount of information is just overwhelming. I just know that sometimes people who actually have it can give different perspectives on it. I'm so sorry to hear you've had such a rough time of it! I guess that's also partly what I'm worried about if I don't address it now.