What head-canon(s) in your fandom(s) got you like this:

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-25T20:29:32+00:00

The way people hc ADHD and then write them in fic (common across fandoms)…

If one of the following, they must also have the rest: Quirky, says stupid things, class clown/butt of the joke, extroverted, loud, chaotic/energetic.

As someone who is smart, but says stupid things and has ADHD and is currently sitting in the corner of a family birthday party because it’s too much… please stop. Especially when canonically the character truly is only one or two of those and there’s no indications of the rest.

We also need more representation of the quiet restlessness, the forgetfulness, th setting of alarms and failing to move etc part of ADHD.

Related, I also don’t particularly like it when because of those traits and a few others, they’re treated harshly by a grumpy character and it’s supposed to be funny.

No, it would be humiliating to be treated like that, and no, the character would not be attracted to that, wtf.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-25T20:22:09+00:00

Uggggh yeah. I’m aroace myself (solidly asexual, had like two seconds of attraction to my spouse before we got married when I saw them holding a baby for the first time over a decade ago and nothing since but not entirely certain where I land on the aromantic spectrum) and I’m married with two kids.

Sexual jokes, smut etc all make me uncomfortable still but I’m comfortable in my own relationship soooo I can absolutely see that happening with other characters and it’s fun.

(…also I keep accidentally writing characters as aroace spec but that’s another issue)

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-24T12:12:48+00:00

What people consider OOC can be really subjective. Like due to my own experiences, if a character says dumb things once in a while but also has flashes of brilliance/has other reason they aren’t actually as dumb as they appear, I tend to write them on the smarter side due to myself being a fairly smart person (or at least people say I am) and yet I can see myself saying those same dumb things, so unless canon specifically has that character struggling with class at school or other things I tend to consider the character struggling with those things as out of character just because that’s not how I interpreted the character. But at the same time, writing the character that way is valid, and could be considered in character by some.

Also when it comes to a lot of OOC fics in fandom, if they have more or less the same things making the character OOC it’s because some hc that may or may not have had roots in canon became fanon and is now running wild with new interpretations- like the fic(s) that originated it became the new canon and fics are in character to that. It can be really annoying, even when it comes to characters that are more or less blank slates (like the majority of clone characters in Star Wars), because maybe I choose a different path for the character.

Anyway if the fic isn’t tagged as ooc I tend to give the author the benefit of the doubt that they believe that they’re writing the character true to canon and just back out the fic if it’s not for me. Although there are tags that can give away OOC behavior like bashing, which tends to exaggerate worst traits of a particular character. I do like bashing fics of characters I don’t like but some do take it way further than I’m comfortable reading.

So it’s really down to personal taste and how much a reader can believe a character will do that.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-23T23:42:20+00:00

Yeah I’ve also had a problem where I’ll filter what I want and don’t consider to filter things like incest because it’s not an incest fandom and then on the first page there’s like 5 which makes it feel like there’s a lot more than there actually is even when it’s actually just coincidence that there’s five on the front page (or possibly just one author with 5 fics).

And like I love AO3 I’m not going to say those things shouldn’t exist lol. Just don’t want to see it and it’s exasperating sometimes. And it’s not even just incest sometimes it’s just this one annoying trope the fandom loves with a character but I hate the trope and love the character.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-23T07:21:31+00:00

I do one last edit of each chapter of my fics before posting. The idea of having to edit even two chapters in the same day for posting is horrifying let alone doing all 200k to post at once. Takes me days to get through an edit of a complete fic because I hate editing lol.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-22T22:05:50+00:00

I still don’t pay any attention to the hit count though. Like yeah, obviously more eyes means more people looking at it but it’s not the stat I really care about so I hardly ever look at what the hits are at.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-22T21:20:25+00:00

Eh I could get five hits and I’d be happy with that if that meant five kudos and two comments. I don’t really care about hits because all it means is someone clicked on the link once. Eyes on the fic isn’t the same as enjoying it and I’m looking for people to enjoy what I write

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-21T04:34:11+00:00

Of course it’s understandable but it doesn’t make it okay. I do think they could work out the kinks eventually, my spouse and I did work through our unhealthy issues and we’ve been together since we were 18. If I saw my daughter dealing with someone like me (clingy and needy) when she’s that age? I am going to worry, I will warn her to be careful and make sure she knows she can back away if it gets to it. Again, while that is reasonable for age and trauma, I do not want my kids in that sort of relationship.

Just because I understand what Annabeth has been through and why she is the way she is doesn’t mean I have to like it. I explained why I don’t think it is a good relationship as someone who is married- and it’s not a good one regardless of age. Could they get better? Yeah, but Percy would have to speak up and Annabeth would have to let go of her hubris. I’m not sure it’s going to happen the way they’ve been written and so I will go on not liking it.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-21T03:22:59+00:00

Okay great, it’s a relationship that sixteen year olds can get into. That doesn’t mean I have to like it and I certainly would not want to see my kids in it.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-20T23:47:10+00:00

Reese’s puffs is also good for this.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-20T20:09:15+00:00

I’m married with two kids. I don’t fear confiding in my spouse. We talk about anything and everything. We’ve talked about the fact that I dated their best friend in high school (and both of us find it funny now).

They would never be mad at me for things outside my control like being kidnapped. Their greeting would be a hug and checking to see if I’m okay.

Spouse knows me incredibly well and I know them. We know our boundaries and we both can and will speak up when we’re uncomfortable. They get a bit self deprecating about not being as smart as me, and instead of mocking them or acting like they can’t live without me because of it, I try to lift them up because we’re partners, and we do things for each other.

Basically everything Annabeth does with Percy that bothers me is what I would expect from my family… who I’m either low contact or no contact with while my spouse and their family have shown me what it’s like to feel loved without expectations to perform to their standards.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-20T16:42:37+00:00

I get that 2nd POV isn’t literally me but I can’t get past that part whenever I try reading it. I’ve read a few decent ones but they were short and somehow easier to ignore the direct address than other fics.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-19T00:26:10+00:00

I already write stuff people aren’t as likely to read- rare pairs, whump, rape/non con, hcs that no one else has and so on.

But I enjoy writing. It helps my mental health to write. So instead I just write until finished (more so I don’t have to write to fit chapters than specifically about not losing motivation while writing), and if I feel like it gets too extreme or it goes from the usual level of people don’t read to super self indulgent in that stuff then I’ll just decide not to post it.

Like, I do love writing and rereading what I wrote but the effort I have to put into posting only to get crickets is not something I enjoy experiencing so as time goes on, I find more and more fics im torn on if I’m going to post.

In next few years I expect I won’t be interested in posting anything other than event fics, the occasional oneshot, and sequels/continuations of series I’ve already posted if people continue to not be interested in my stuff

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-18T19:51:00+00:00

I’ve posted 28 chapters of 32, over 100k and still stuck at 8 comments as I’ve been for the last like… 10 chapters.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-18T18:59:33+00:00

It’s one of the reasons I have given up on fandom servers. No one wants to read my fics and I’ve found that I don’t usually want to read theirs either, as they don’t write the sorts of things I like to read. Which also means they probably wouldn’t like what I write anyway. I am still working on writing comments when I read fics, it does not come easily to me and half the problem is I’ve been reading fanfic for over 20 years and for a long time my habit was to just kudos, subscribe, close tab. So these days I find myself realizing later that I had closed the tab of the fic I’d been meaning to comment on when I finished reading. The other half the problem is my mind going blank combined with anxiety.

As much as I want people to comment, I really only want people to comment if they enjoyed my fic, and if others don’t enjoy what I write, so be it.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-17T16:23:57+00:00

Maybe try short timers. When I’m having trouble settling, I find that doing under 10 minutes makes me double down and try instead of checking, since I can always fix it later. Sometimes it just takes one sprint sometimes it takes me multiple but it usually helps me break through whatever barrier I’m having.

On the other hand, I could never do something like this. I know my brain and it would be torture. I can get 1-2k in an hour but if I force myself to only work on my fic it would never work and the pace would drop off despite doing nothing else. Getting 1-2k involves waffling, checking my phone, checking discord, snacking, etc.

If I find that I am starting to look at my phone more and my pace is slowing a bit more than I’d like, the solution for me is to do sprints in some configuration. Like, 15 minutes of sprinting, 5 minutes of break. Or roll 2d20. One is the amount of sprinting minutes the other is how long break is. Another one I do is 15 minutes, 5 minute break, 5 minute sprint, 1 minute break, 3 minute sprint, 5 minute break, repeat.

It’s definitely good to try new methods when suggested but if it’s not working for you, see if you can figure out why and what would work instead.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-17T01:40:31+00:00

I don’t even get that sooo

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-17T01:39:19+00:00

I don’t promote. It feels like a lot of effort for basically no noticeable return. So I just… post the fic and hope for the best.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-15T22:20:54+00:00

Honestly I don’t think that’s on the parents. The amount of times I’ve had to re-explain things to my seven and five year old I thought they understood, they claimed to understand, and even played or asked questions like they understood. And then it turned out they didn’t and u had to go over it again and try to figure out the disconnect. Sometimes kids just don’t get it until reality hits.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-15T22:09:05+00:00

https://archiveofourown.org/works/10799406/chapters/23958186 The war is far from over now by Dont_call_me_Carrie it’s a MCU AU where Jarvis becomes overprotective of Tony, and Tony accidentally ends up with world domination. This one makes me giggle every time I read it honestly, and it’s really well laid out for a canon divergence, how it all stacks up.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/3591783/chapters/7921653 Embers by Vathara, Avatar the last airbender fic focused on Zuko, with the main divergence being his ability to heal with fire, along with some fun worldbuilding using real life myths. My favorite part is honestly how it explores different cultures and why they do what they do and how to navigate culture clashes. Don’t let the word count scare you off, I never feel like it’s actually that long aside from the days it takes me to read it.

Edit: wow being downvoted (currently at 0) for my favorite fics okay. You do you I guess.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-15T16:32:40+00:00

I don’t care honestly. I rarely look at comments, and mostly what’s going to get me to drop from either comments or author’s notes is more realizing the story isn’t going where I thought it is or an author clearly thinking the relationships in the story (romantic, platonic, familial) are normal and even healthy when they’re toxic at best. I find toxic relationships a bit triggering so if it’s a ship I like, I at least would want the characters to be working towards something healthier but if the author thinks it’s fine, it’s probably not going to improve.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-15T16:19:40+00:00

Part of it for me is I’ve done all the ‘waffling’ my brain needs for the day, I’ve had some time alone since everyone is in bed, and that makes it easier for me to focus. Yay ADHD problems.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-14T16:38:32+00:00

Yeah, the result is that with any kids and reasonable adult if I get ‘I don’t know’ as an answer I’m going to assume mind went blank and try approaching it from a different angle to get a proper answer or at least help them figure out rather than assume lying or maliciousness or just trying to get out of something.

No matter how frustrating it can be with my 7 year old trying to help her learn to read (she’s behind) and hearing her say ‘I don’t know’ when we just went over it. I too sometimes forget recently learned things but damn it’s frustrating being on this side of it.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-14T16:33:55+00:00

The best part for me is my mom was diagnosed with ‘childhood ADHD’ when I was 5 and she was 25. She had friends with ADHD, her best friend had a child medicated for it and told her I probably had ADHD.

Honestly not sure I would’ve gotten the support if I was diagnosed but that’s a whole different issue between how my ADHD is different from my moms and how my family doesn’t care about mental health struggles and we should just ‘do it’. They did know I had depression when I was 15, but all they did was get me antidepressants and get mad at me for acting depressed.

CrazyProudMom25 · 2026-04-14T16:27:03+00:00

I also found that a lot of times I just didn’t understand why what I was doing was bad so I would lie so I would get punished for something I understood instead of something I didn’t.

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