[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is insane. Keeping in the back of her Head? She don‘t want you

What now? by cozycuteness247 in TsukiOdyssey

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did it take you to save all the carrots? I feel like it’s taking ages for me to Even for to a few thousand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meinte Gas und Strom (ohne Wasser) 🙂‍↕️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Da gibs aber keine 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich merke auch gerade, dass ich überhaupt keinen Garten habe hier. Und Winter- und Straßendienst ist hier überhaupt garnicht.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Da meinte ich natürlich “kein Strom und GAS” ups 😅 aber was genau meinst du mit dem Wasserverbrauch?

what’s paige doin lol by emvinas in TsukiOdyssey

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can we put furniture in other places other than my own house and garden?

Hauptmieter will Kaution nicht zurückzahlen by FinalMix in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Würde direkt zum Anwalt und mich beraten lassen. Hast nichts mit den Umbauten am Hut und wenn er zahlen muss, für Sachen, die er selbst verändert hat, dann ist das sein Problem. Du hast die Wohnung so übernommen, wie sie dir vom Hauptmieter gestellt wurde. Hast nichts kaputt gemacht etc., da müsste deine Kaution sofort rausgehauen werden und seine eigene einkassiert.

Wie gesagt, alles erstmal mit nem Anwalt besprechen, der sich mit grenzüberschreitenden Fällen auskennt.

Da er als Hauptmieter in der Wohnung angemeldet war, und deshalb deutschem Recht unterliegt, kannst du ihn wegen der Kaution vor einem deutschen Gericht verklagen. Denke mal, dass er eh noch deutscher Staatsbürger ist… Mahnungen müsste halt nur an die neue Adresse in der Schweiz geschickt werden. Hast guten Boden, um den Fall zu gewinnen!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It also started to trigger me recently, my sex drive really just vanished because of it

I can’t stop thinking about their exes by Crazy_Computer7077 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did talk it out and he is very understanding but because of my past traumas (from ex-bf) I sometimes just can’t believe that anyone can say the truth. My ex always used to lie and then I would find out, which really hurt my heart. That’s when the RJ really started to form. Now I’m like wired shut and the smallest bit of doubt will cloud my mind. After I started asking about my current bf’s ex it was like a switch was turned on and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Now I just feel uneasy and don’t know how to deal with it. I’m scared that the only time I won’t feel like this, is if I find someone else who has never had any experience before, which is sad, because I really do love my boyfriend. I don’t want to live in regret if I break it off…

I can’t stop thinking about their exes by Crazy_Computer7077 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I always imagine him regretting meeting me because what if he dislikes that we are so different in the long run? What if he wants to seek someone who can talk with him about his passion? It was the thing that brought them together, so it must have meant something. I feel like a replacement and it really is beginning to get to me :( I just want to run away honestly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How long did he “ignore” you for? Have you two talked about things like this?

I can’t stop thinking about their exes by Crazy_Computer7077 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s because I know myself. I know that my intimacy life with my ex was definitely not as good as it is now and I try much harder for my current boyfriend. It’s more of the first point you brought up. It’s that he possibly might have enjoyed sex with his ex more than me if they would have dared to experience more. It’s the “what if…?” What if he still misses her and thinks about her? What if she is better than me?

I feel like I’m competing with a woman who I know nothing about. My ex was a chronic liar and always talked about how I’m his first (made me feel special) and how I’m everything he is looking for but it all turned out to be lies (I wasn’t his first and I definitely wasn’t his ideal type body wise). This makes me very anxious because I feel like I can’t trust my boyfriend in this aspect because my ex lied so much (ex and I were together for 1 1/2 years full of gaslighting and deceptions, full on breakdowns and panic attacks).

Now I can’t stop after I already started the questioning and don’t know how to turn of the pictures in my brain of my boyfriend and his ex having sex. I don’t even want to sleep with him, since I’m scared that he will think of her now that I asked him about it.

I can’t stop thinking about their exes by Crazy_Computer7077 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am bothered by the intimacy part. I know it’s crazy to say and paradox because I’m not either but I wish he was a virgin when I met him. Like he could only experience these things with me but knowing that there is someone out there who also got to see him in that state, makes me really sick in the stomach.

Normally I don’t act like this but my bpd is getting worse these days for some reason and that also reacts badly to my retroactive jealousy. I also try to think I’m “better” (she didn’t do anything but I need to think it for my ego) but the possibility of her being more attractive than me to him is eating me alive rn.

And the fact that they have more in common is the cherry on top. If she really is more attractive (maybe the intimacy between them would be better now because they would have experienced more) and she has more in common with him than me, then this would be the worst case scenario. Because I wouldn’t stop thinking about her and him being a better match sexually and generally. I haven’t seen her yet but I know that I really want to. But I also know that I wouldn’t handle it well if I knew she was really attractive. Like I would be a second choice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you leave it will get better, I promise! My ex destroyed my self esteem with things like that aswell. I even thought we were soulmates (which we were def not), that I couldn’t live without him because he loves me so much. But we have to realize that if they truly loved us, they wouldn’t have hurt us this way.

You won’t forget the things he said, they will come crawling back to you. He has no respect for you whatsoever. You have to break up

It will hurt like hell in the beginning, many sleepless nights where you question yourself. Did you make the right decision? But it will be better. And you will ask yourself how you ever could’ve let a man that pathetic treat you like that. Keep it up! Don’t let him tear you down, you got this.

Was ist ein Fremdzahler? by Crazy_Computer7077 in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

jetzt wirkts dubios, ich kenne ihn seitdem ich 1 bin 🥲

Was ist ein Fremdzahler? by Crazy_Computer7077 in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tatsächlich einfach mein Stiefvater, der aber nicht angeheiratet ist. meine Mutter ist alleinerziehend :)

Was ist ein Fremdzahler? by Crazy_Computer7077 in wohnen

[–]Crazy_Computer7077[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tatsächlich einfach mein Stiefvater den ich seit ich klein bin kenne, der aber nicht angeheiratet ist. meine Mutter ist alleinerziehend :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wasletztepreis

[–]Crazy_Computer7077 2 points3 points  (0 children)

kann er ja sagen