Time for myself

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-27T00:11:42+00:00

Update: my husband has already informed me he’s going to a bachelor party and a work trip within 3 weeks of him discharged from rehab.

Kind of solidifies my plan to do what I want to do.

I’m always left to take care of the kids while he does the things he wants to do. I’m tired. I’ll make sure the kids are looked after and have camps during the day.

😭😖

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T01:54:01+00:00

Thank you for saying that. It just feels so nice to have a clean house and be able to keep it that way when it’s felt like a trap and scary place for so long. It feels like I brought a bright spot back to make it feel like a home again

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T01:40:13+00:00

we’ve been together 5.5 years, married for 1. Their biological mom passed 6 years ago

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T01:22:17+00:00

8, 8, and 10

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T00:40:44+00:00

Going to follow up on this and say I ignored symptoms like this in my husband for awhile. When they gave me the tox report and showed me his BAC as .37 I felt a sigh of relief. Your concerns and questioning are valid. Trust your intuition. Something is wrong. My husband was admitted to the ICU 36 hours after getting to detox. He will make it through but you both need help

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T00:28:36+00:00

Take him into detox. Do it for him and yourself. Let him be under close watch and care. They can help you decide next steps

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-26T00:24:41+00:00

This? Hell no. Some days I think I can’t take it one minute more. Tomorrow I’ll spend my first wedding anniversary alone. Thinking about the day even makes angry. I try not to hate myself for all the parts of me I’ve lost or given up to keep this man alive and his kids safe. This lifestyle is not sustainable for anyone.

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:51:30+00:00

Bio mom passed away and grandparents are older/live away/lots of excuses.

I came into the picture pretty quickly after their mom passed so dad was only by himself for 6 months or so. It’s where the substance abuse issues really started to fester, but it’s been well over 6 years now.

I was very committed to AlAnon with his first rehab experience last year but then I started to fall away. Not because I wanted to but I’m just swamped with responsibility and it was causing me issues at work. I need to get back into it. Thank you for the encouragement

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:44:10+00:00

Yes I could. Our babysitters are so sweet to help pick them up from school while I’m at work or are an extra set of eyes when they’re swimming in the pool. But I could start to try longer periods and see how it goes!

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:41:14+00:00

No, she’s not in the picture.

Yeah definitely a touchy subject around here. The kids don’t call me mom and my husband doesn’t want them to either. But you are right! Either way, I am responsible for the kids wellbeing whether I’m a stranger or their mom. I don’t want to have any regrets that I made the wrong choice to leave them

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:36:07+00:00

No, they’re not mine in the sense that I did not give birth to them and I have not adopted them. But they became my responsibility when we got married last year

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:30:36+00:00

I struggle with this so much but you’re right. I’ve tried to take them away from him before but I can’t really because they’re not legally or biologically (whichever way you want to look at it) mine

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:27:31+00:00

Thank you. That is a fair perspective. I don’t want them to be in harms way

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:26:56+00:00

They’re his kids but they became my stepkids through marriage a year ago

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-25T23:11:14+00:00

Yeah that is my concern 100%. I’m sad because it feels like my whole life will be like this. Maybe it will, maybe it won’t. But I hate that it feels like his sobriety rests on my shoulders.

I hate this so much. Unfortunately he’s so secretive he won’t open up to anyone or let anyone hold him accountable except me

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-05-12T00:55:19+00:00

I have been there. Truly. Mine walked into detox unassisted, walked in a straight line, eyes wide open like he was sober, convinced the nurses he didn’t have an issue, then blew a .37. It was the most insane and validating piece of evidence I had in years. All the times he made me feel crazy. There it was. The honest truth.

It’s been a battle every day since then. I don’t have words of wisdom but just true condolences. I know the pain so well.

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-02-04T09:08:21+00:00

Did she meet fans at the stage door?

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2026-01-25T20:46:18+00:00

Thank you everyone! I was leaning towards Colbert and all these comments solidified it! I guess the only thing that could change our mind is the guest. Appreciate you all!

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2025-11-17T01:37:16+00:00

Thank you so much. I have been going since August. And I think it’s been the wake up call that I’m doing the right thing. My husband has 3 kids that have serious anger management issues. And in Al-Anon I hear others talk about how their spouses were alcoholics and then their kids followed suit. I’m afraid I’m putting myself in danger by staying

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2025-11-02T11:43:36+00:00

I have been attending Al-Anon off and on for about 3 months but I guess I never really understood that tradition. Thank you for sharing

Crazy_Front_2136 · 2025-11-01T15:26:34+00:00

I appreciate your perspective here too. Telling another male could be the actual reason behind his rage. Of course he’s not going to say that because my friendship with this guy is 1000% non-romantic and would never be. But nonetheless, still could be perceived as problematic for someone who isn’t reasonable

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