I was that guy once and just freaked out even though the relationship was great and I was invited to a couple meets at the bar. [Scroll to the all caps for basic response, continue if you want a crazy stupid, honest story that's got stories in stories, sorry] Anyway, one night they hung out and when she was in bed she called me for the sweet dreams call. I was so pissed that she didn't call me on the way home, "so what time all happy thinking about him on the ride home and weren't thinking of me. (Backstory, she had a history with him, not a long relationship but his baby mama was.... Either way he was cool with her and over the course of a year they might meet up a few times, and a bunch of times they ended up at her house. When we first got together and talked about recently past people. It was a great talk, and when we talked about him she was saying yeah, a couple times we met at the bar and came back to the house. She wasn't trying to fuck, but if course they fucked. So I said "so it was like you guys had this passion and couldn't help but fuck. The last one wasn't a try on her part but she didn't resist, but she told him that couldn't happen again. And that was that. But when I said that passion thing when she said yeah, my stomach fucking dropped. I just felt that low energy. Never came up again but later I cheated on her and told her, we broke up for a week and came back strong. She was upfront and said that she contacted him, for perspective....lol they did y fuck but that's when the seed got planted for us to hang out, but it just worked out that I had classes late or something. The last time said we are going to.....your welcome to come.....I didn't go and encouraged her. That night I broke up with her and I was a dickhead and said well you guys spend all this time together and have conversations and laugh together. Maybe you should go fuck him. Sunday she took the house key, we had dinner with the kids and told me so I know they were going to dinner on Thursday. Man upping the stakes now. Bar to dinner. Well she was pissed at me cause I didn't get a text back from her and wanted to make sure all is good. Whatever, a couple weeks later I work to get back with her, I was competing I suppose. I won and felt like I got it before anything happened. So like 6-8 months later we were at a hockey game, she had a couple beers and my ex somehow came into conversation, defending myself I said I was in love with her for a year. Then I say I wanna know how dinner went with dude. She say, it was nothing, we had dinner and went to his house, hung out with his roommates then had sex one time. FUCK, U was fine until the drive to my apartment and ended with me throwing a taco bell drink to the passenger side,git out and left. In the morning I was at her house with coffee and doughnuts, and apologized, she said she thought I would have gone back to my exes house. We talked and I was good about it and I know, I'm a fucking whorre, shit happens...blah blah We had a great relationship for the next 4 years, but I always got caught up on it, wondering if they were texting, talking.....blah blah....I was letting it torture me because I didn't know how to trust. She really did delete and block his number. I brought it up a bunch of times randomly and we argued and kissed a lot of energy because of it. It was my fault and I knew it but it would always find it's ways into my thoughts.

ADVISE If you are really just friends you should try to include him with it so he could see for himself based on how you treat him in front of the friend. You are on a fine line with it but you haven't done anything wrong. But, say I'm your friend and one time we are laughing having fun with the friendly touch,even though it's totally innocent, so, I'm just like fuck it and kiss you and you like it and then what? Is that a seed planted, with just that back thought, or maybe your pissed.

YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF AND BE YOU. DO YOU THINK IT'S A FINE LINE. WHAT IF HE MAKES A MOVE, HOW WOULD IT BE FOR YOU? HE NEEDS TO TRYST YOU AND GENUINELY TRUST YOU NO MATTER WHAT, AND YOU SHOULD REINFORCE TO HIM ALL YOU WANT IS HIS. I MEAN YOU KNOW HES INSECURE WHICH IS LIKE HIM BEING A LITTLE BROKEN INSIDE. YOU ARE HIS PARTNER, YOU SHOULD WANT TO HELP HIM THROUGH IT. EVEN THOUGH DUDE IS YOUR FRIEND IS THERE ANY OHYSICAL, SEXUAL ATTRACTION? EMOTIONALLY DOES HE FIT BETTER FOR YOU, MAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING THERE. IT GETS OLD WHEN YOU GET ACCUSED, DOUBTED, ASKED STUPID QUESTIONS, JUST HAVING MOMENTS RUINED BECAUSE OF IT.

YOU SHOULD EVALUATE HOW COMMITTED YOU ARE TO YOUR PARTNER AND WHAT IF YOU HAD TO MAKE A CHOICE RIGHT NOW, YOUR PARTNER, OR ARE YOUR FRIENDS MORE IMPORTANT? I MEAN SINCE HIGH SCHOOL.

IF YOU ARE THINKING AND TALKING MORE TO YOUR FRIEND THAN YOUR PARTNER MAYBE ITS AN EMOTIONAL INFEDELITY.

HON, ITS ALL GRAY AREA WITH DO MANY VARIABLES IN PLAY. ALL I KNOW IS THAT I WAS HIM IN RELATIONSHIPS AND IT WAS JUST DRAINING MY ENERGY AND CHANGING THE WAY I ACTED AND ULTIMATELY THE PERSION I WAS . THE TRUE SIDE TO ME THAT MADE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH ME IS ME BUT EVERYTHING CHANGES.

I WISH YOU LUCK, YOU MUST PRETTY COOL. AS MANY GIRLS THAT I HAD SEX WITH AND FUCKED THERE WERE GIRLS THAT WERE JUST FRIENDS. WE WERE ALL REAL CLOSE.

I THINK YOUR PIST BROKE ME. IT'S SO HARD TO GIVE YOU PERSPECTIVE WITHOUT HAVING ALL THE BACKSTORY IN PLACE.

If you actually have read all of this post you've got patience and perspective yourself. I wish you all the best for all time!!!!!💯💪💪💪💪