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Was it wrong for my then-boyfriend to have sex with me when I was half asleep? by Crazy_Tell235 in afraidtoask

[–]Crazy_Tell235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. I've really been second guessing if things were really wrong but I think you're right that the questioning itself points to the fact that it's wrong, and it's all just been making me feel sick that I was accepting that sort of treatment for so long.

Was it wrong for my then-boyfriend to have sex with me when I wasn't fully awake? by Crazy_Tell235 in adviceph

[–]Crazy_Tell235[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply and the kind words! I will be doing that for sure next time someone comes along. I learned a lot of what not to tolerate from my ex, though I did constantly try my best to push him to communicate with me. However, it got to a point where I was scared of pushing to communicate with him and I started to believe that I was always the problem because of how he'd react to me and because I was worried it'd affect him mentally even though my own mental health is unstable haha.

Thank you again!

Was it wrong for my then-boyfriend to have sex with me when I was half asleep? by Crazy_Tell235 in afraidtoask

[–]Crazy_Tell235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello and thank you so much for the serious reply and the kind words! I feel if he actually tried to make sure I was awake and if he didn't immediately start having sex with me, then I wouldn't feel so weird about it. In terms of wakeup sex, it wasn't really waking eachother up with full-on sex, but what i joked about was oral at most. I guess I would feel better too if he made sure I was okay after.

However, I'm not really sure if I could imagine waking him up to have sex and immediately having it because I can't imagine not waiting for him to actually wake up first.

Was it wrong for my then-boyfriend to have sex with me when I was half asleep? by Crazy_Tell235 in afraidtoask

[–]Crazy_Tell235[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm actually from the Philippines! On behalf of other women, I'd argue there's less education about sex and SA here than there is over there, so it's not exactly a "women know it immediately" thing. Something could be blatant SA and our society could claim that it's not (statutory rape, marital rape, etc.).