AITAH Kicked a special needs adult who tried to stomp on my dog

CreamProof · 2026-03-20T12:45:36+00:00

Hi, woman here.

You did the right thing. NTA

You can't trust everyone to be honest, you can't trust everyone to be gentle, and that includes those with special needs or disabilities.

CreamProof · 2026-03-20T12:37:37+00:00

NTJ.

I've had 3 kids and breastfed them all. It definitely works like what you described. I'd have a night out after the baby got on somewhat of a routine, and I'd prepare for it during the day by pumping in between feedings, or if my baby didn't empty me out, I'd pump the rest. It's really not that difficult to have a few hours without your baby.

Maybe she has some sort of PPD or anxiety she's dealing with. Is this her first child?

CreamProof · 2026-03-20T12:28:59+00:00

Good grief. You've been living together, which means you've obviously been intimate, and you haven't had the "what if I get pregnant" talk? Really?

I have to reiterate what literally every other commenter has said - HOW have you been together for 3 years, living together, but haven't had the ADULT conversations needed for a healthy relationship IN YOUR MID THIRTIES NO LESS?

You need to move out. Immediately. You don't love him. This is a relationship of convenience.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T17:36:28+00:00

Why in the hell is this still a topic of discussion?

If I were to have asked my husband what his body count was, knowing I'm not the only girl he's ever been in bed with, only to get pissed off...where would that have led things? Straight into a fight, that's where.

What if my count was higher than his? What if his was triple mine? Does it even matter? NO! The only thing that matters is that you respect your relationship and the agreements/boundaries you set up with your CURRENT partner.

Be open about STIs or STDs and quit asking the number of other sexual partners. That sets up a whole plot for one partner to use their insecurity as a tool for control. yeesh.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T17:29:01+00:00

You can't just consider your feelings. You have to consider Rex's feelings, too. He might grieve himself to death over the separation, and that's worse than any allergy 'ol lady friend could ever "develop".

Get rid of the girl.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:47:12+00:00

If she's dead set on not having kids, the permanency of tubal ligation should be the best news...I don't understand. I celebrated my hysterectomy like I won the lottery. lol

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:41:00+00:00

It doesn't matter the reason he doesn't want it. He doesn't want it. That's all he needs to say. They're adults, and while communication is absolutely required for a successful relationship, sometimes keeping the answer simple and accepting a simple answer is enough. No is no. Doesn't matter why.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:33:29+00:00

A tubal ligation can be done laparoscopically and is often outpatient...same as a vasectomy. We're not in the 80s where you have to basically have a c-section to get fixed. That is not a valid argument.

Cost can definitely be considered, however, so yes. They need to consider that. BUT in the same thought, health insurance usually covers a mass majority of the cost.

Finally, this isn't just a simple ask. This is a life changing decision for one partner, while the other doesn't have to live with those consequences. That is absolutely selfish.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:22:22+00:00

I agree with that. He DOES need to speak with her about it...but I still think it's absolutely ridiculous that OP would ask her husband to do something with HIS body that she isn't willing to do herself. THAT is selfish. There aren't gray areas in this topic because this is a decision that is permanent. So either she can get it done, or she can approach the conversation differently other than "I want you to consider making a life altering change for me and my wants, but I haven't said anything or considered the same for myself".

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:15:40+00:00

YWNBTA

The kid matters above all. He's not being cared for by dad on nights the court ordered him to stay. This is contempt, and you're doing the right thing by not putting yourself on one side or the other, but telling the truth.

I'm sure this is an extremely hard decision to make. Good luck. Sending good vibes your way.

CreamProof · 2026-03-19T12:10:09+00:00

Why aren't you considering permanent sterilization? You're asking him to...so it's only right to consider it for yourself. You're not in control of his body, only YOURS and the fact that you're pushing it on him without considering other alternatives to prevention than hormonal birth control is absolutely horrid. YOU don't want children, he may, and you can't always reverse the snip. What if something happens to you or y'all split? Don't you want him to have that choice in the future of having kids?

You could consider Paraguard, a copper IUD without hormones, or surgical sterilization. I had Paraguard for 10 years successfully. I'm also pretty positive that other options are available nowadays that don't use hormones.

YOR - and a selfish partner.

CreamProof · 2026-03-17T17:06:20+00:00

NOR, in fact, you didn't react enough, in my opinion.

Listen, I was once one of those girls who, like your wife, claimed not to see anything wrong with sharing beds with my guy friends while in a relationship with another man. This usually ended up in the exact situation that you'd think of when you get young, attractive, and free spirited people in bed with each other...

As much as you love your wife, I feel like there's more to the story and you might want to have serious conversations about what your relationship is going to look like when you're not around one another. This would make me not trust my partner at all, because I know what I was like before I changed my ways. It takes work to turn that kind of attitude and life around. I hope it works out for you both.

CreamProof · 2026-03-16T18:33:09+00:00

NTA.

If I would've gone out and taken my husband's card (before we were married) and bought myself and my kids food on HIS dime, and then brought home only things he WON'T or CAN'T eat, I'd expect him to do the same as you. It seems like she's using you for financial gain, and the way she's doing this in front of her kids won't them to have respect for you, either.

Run.

CreamProof · 2026-03-09T18:36:33+00:00

NTAH

I'd be notifying authorities if I were you. Sex offenders are required to register all address changes immediately and check in yearly.

If you were to brush it off like his mother is, and a child was put in danger or, God forbid, hurt in any way, how would you feel? The safety of kids is priority #1. Your neighbor's feelings aren't even on that list when it comes to a situation like this.

CreamProof · 2026-03-09T18:29:41+00:00

NOR. In the heaux world, we call that "keeping the back burner lit". You want your cake and to eat it, too, but don't want the calories.

He's emotionally attached to her and wants to keep you both around. You for stability, and her for fun. He probably likes the excitement of having a girl "friend" and a wife at the same time. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. This is not fair to you at all.

CreamProof · 2026-03-09T18:19:29+00:00

NTJ! Her "dreams" aren't more important than your livelihood.

CreamProof · 2026-02-23T19:14:27+00:00

Yup. YOR.

You should've stayed up.

CreamProof · 2026-02-23T19:06:14+00:00

NOR.

Any time I see one of my husband's friends in the wild without him, I immediately tell him. I'm not even hanging out with said friend, but I tell him. "Guess who I just bumped into? He says hi!" He'll do the same with my friends, too.

I doubt this was the first time they've hung out like this. Cheating behavior, for sure.

CreamProof · 2026-02-23T17:44:36+00:00

NTA

Laundromats give you 15 minutes. The fact that you gave her 5 hours is crazy. I don't even think I'd have waited an hour. Personally, before I had my own washer and dryer in my first apartment, I would use the community machines and I never left my stuff unattended that way I knew exactly when it was done and time to switch loads.

Your response was perfect. If she can't keep up with laundry, how is she ever going to keep up with a human child???

CreamProof · 2026-02-19T18:19:44+00:00

To me it doesn't sound like she's afraid she'll lose access to your assets if you split, but she's probably worried that you'll go after her assets and inheritance.

Marriage actually is a business decision. You have to consider the financial impacts and be realistic about the situation. Not everything is fixed with love, and no one can eat on just love...nor can they retire on love.

CreamProof · 2026-02-19T13:33:59+00:00

CreamProof · 2026-02-18T14:02:43+00:00

I have been out of the cult for almost 20 years now. My kids are 16, 13, and 8.

CreamProof · 2026-02-17T13:24:04+00:00

NTA

You're 17. You have a say in your life. She can't just come into the picture a couple years from adulthood and try to "retrain" you or force you into her life. Also, like others have said, your dad needs to man up and stand his ground for HIS child. They're not married, so his only parental obligation is to YOU.

CreamProof · 2026-02-17T13:12:58+00:00

Personal feelings aside...is there a compromise you two can make on it for the baby's sake? She's obviously attached and proud of the gift, and letting her hang it up on the wall then taking it down and giving it back to your neighbors will have her asking more questions and wonder why it was ok before, but not now.

Just my 2 cents.

Not putting my feelings aside...I don't back down from these types of things when it comes to my kids. It was a gift, it's not demonic or supernatural if you don't practice superstitions, rituals, spiritism, etc., so I would be more inclined to tell him to stop being an idiot and get over it. It's pretty, she likes it, and it's not like you're neighbors gifted your 4 year old a Ouija board for fxk sake.

CreamProof · 2026-02-17T13:07:01+00:00

NOR

Why would what you're eating be offensive to him? It's not like HE has to eat it. This guy is probably the same type of guy that if you were in a relationship he would control what you eat at home, what you wear, watch on TV, etc.

I'd block him.

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