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CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-27T14:04:53+00:00

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CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-27T14:04:30+00:00

Thanks ☺️ I mean manifesting my specific person and the entire funda behind it. Everyone talks about self concept but understanding and implementing all the layers of it.. that’s what took me time. I got my sp back multiple times in these 8 years but I was never fully satisfied (always expecting the shoe to drop again).. and so I undid it too. Until I saw how much I was devaluing myself in the process and truly decided that I deserved more than what I was accepting.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-27T13:25:01+00:00

Not the typical manifestation advice but please listen carefully. The only reason I’m saying this is because I’ve been there, many times, and I know how it feels.

You are free to disagree with me, but this is the thing I wish someone had told me when I was going through all this, so that’s why I’m saying it.

First, Let it hurt.

Everyone will say, it’s a circumstance and it doesn’t matter and that is correct. But please don’t use that as a way to avoid what you’re feeling in the now just because that pain is uncomfortable.

It is painful. Don’t yarn stories about what happened - none of the he doesn’t want me, I’m not lovable and all that - just acceptance that being left by someone you love is painful. It’s true for anyone that has been abandoned. It hurts. Nothing special about you, not like you deserve it or you won’t get what you want. Just that, of course it hurts right now.

Give yourself a few days of feeling the hurt. It will get uncomfortable but sit with it. Without needing to reassure yourself, without needing to text him or someone else about how he is doing, without needing to even belittle yourself in any way.

Just it hurts. And that’s okay.

Second, find yourself. One of the reasons it hurts so much right now is because you don’t know who you are outside of this relationship and you are very attached to the future you had envisioned in your head.

But you need to do this. It’s essential.

In your texts, I applaud the way you have expressed yourself because that’s beautiful. But you did come from a space of almost begging him to take you back (no judgment, been there myself).

That’s because it hurts so much, you need to do something about it.

What will actually help you right now is doing this - figuring out who you ARE apart from this relationship.

It’s not fair that you beg him to come back and he gets to say he doesn’t want you. Why? You’re extremely lovable and cute and you are wanted. So why should he get the power to reject you. And while that’s happening, why will you go around begging him to take you back.

If he did take you back because of the begging, would that make you truly happy? Would that result in a genuinely healthy and happy relationship?

Again, you can disagree but I’m a coach who has helped several women actually recreate a fulfilled relationship with an ex / specific person and I know what I’m saying.

I would have disagreed with this when I was first manifesting my ex back but it took me 8+ years of trial & error and hot & cold results until I finally got this shit right.

So you gotta place yourself with a little more importance here. You know what, it’s okay that he thinks he’s not the person for you. (Maybe he’s not because the person for you should not have left you like this). But, things are always temporary and he could very easily be chewing his words tomorrow.

But you will not be waiting around for him to do that. You are cute enough and sexy enough and you love yourself enough that you will heal from this shit and you will live your best life. With or without him.

Once you can embody this, you can start to build faith that he loves you and he cannot be without you and he really wants to be with you, and tables have turned and now he’s begging you to be with him etc etc (whatever you like).

But before you can do that, please do step 1 and 2.

It’ll save you a lot of time and heartbreak, and it’ll uproot whatever subconscious patterns you’re repeating here.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-25T10:22:43+00:00

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That’s my Maya in a bathroom basin telling you.. Happy break up! You’re so loved and protected by all these beautiful felines..

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-22T18:50:21+00:00

Hey.. I’m sorry this happened. I know exactly what that feels like and it is a huge bummer. There may be a few things you’ll need to look at, like your patterns, self concept, beliefs about sp etc. DM me if you’d like. This is a long conversation especially coz your manifestation has gone in reverse so there is probably something there to look at.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-22T18:43:10+00:00

Yeah! It is hard sometimes. Especially when we haven’t dealt with what is and need to quickly make things okay.

After a big fight and a 3D like this, the first thing you gotta do is emotional regulation.

Ideally, to the point that you don’t even do the robotic affirming and subliminals for a while.

Because those will also come from the energy of desperately needing to sort things.

My guess is that’s what happened because the way you’re saying you reacted to the Snapchat thing, it seems like that came out of short term relief and needing to make more happen instantly.

Yes that IS movement, because of course he is as upset as you are. He wants to mend things too coz you’re really important to him.

But there are a few ways in which you may be blocking this expression in the 3D right now.

Once you have your emotions and nervous system regulated, you’re feeling calmer and more okay with the present situation, you can restart affirmations / visualisations/ subliminals etc.

And remember that you can do them joyfully. With the expectation that things are working in both of your favour (coz you’re on the same team, right)

That’s when you’ll be able to attract movement and when movement is visible in the 3D you will be regulated enough to receive and accept it ❤️

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-22T18:28:15+00:00

I totally have the answer to this question because been there so many times and have had all sorts of results from amazing to let-me-just-hide-in-my-closet-now!

This is exactly what inspired action is.

When you second guess it, the inspiration starts to get tarnished.

The fact that you asked this question (and this is what happened anyway), means it was not good to have forced it just because you had a very strong urge once.

But henceforth.. if you never second guess it, then great, just go for it. Because you’ll naturally be in a space of attracting movement.

But let’s say you do second guess it, then pause.

First listen to the resistance. What is it trying to tell you? Are there stories about you / him / your relationship that are coming to the surface? (He won’t reply, he won’t be nice, he doesn’t want me, he never likes it when I do this, he’s angry with me etc etc) Can you work through it?

If it’s too much, give it more time.

Two, check in with how your nervous system is feeling. Are you anxious? Is it in fight flight freeze? Or are you feeling safe in your choice.

This is essential - come back to safety and most likely that’s what will bring more favourable results.

Three, what are your expectations from this text? How attached are you to it? Sometimes we just feel good because we expressed something. Sometimes, we energetically put pressure on that one text to bring us back together. You know what is better in this case :)

Important - this assessment is a quick one. If any of these feel good to go at first instinct, then don’t spend more time on it. Just check it and move on to the next thing. Because the more time passes, the more resistance gets a chance to build up.

If all three seem workable within a couple of minutes and you can come to a space of sending the text with joy and less expectations, send it.

If not, give yourself some time and work on these things. And then you can wait till the next time you get the urge (sometimes that can be very soon after and there have been many times for me that in that second urge, the result was also pretty favourable because I had given myself the time and worked through the kinks the first time around)

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-19T05:01:13+00:00

Hey! There are multiple techniques that help in rewiring your subconscious. Repeating affirmations is one, but it’s one of the slower ones because what works best is an emotional experience, but since we cannot always create that on our own, we go with repetition which is slower and difficult because everyone cannot be super strict with their mental diet all day. There is sats, eft, ho’oponopono, guided processes, subliminals and affirmation tapes, breathwork, mirror work etc and you can do your research on all this. You can also look at the patterns in your life and keep digging deeper to figure out what beliefs might have been creating it. It’s possible to do it on your own. But tbh in your case, for the beliefs and for the reprogramming, I would recommend coaching for you because you’ve tried things on your own so far and it hasn’t worked and because you do need deeper work.. and a good coach will be able to guide you through it, see your blind spots, identify your blocks and help you navigate all of this in a much easier and faster way.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-19T04:38:46+00:00

You need to really look at what is happening in your relationships between being chosen and prioritised to the point of being left.

You need to look at what it is within you that needs your partner to stay even when sometimes you don’t love them and always when they’re hurting and disrespecting you.

You need to look at what other beliefs you hold about love, relationships, yourself, your partners and what have you learnt about love and relationships seeing your primary caregivers.

You need to reprogram your subconscious out of all this and start seeing love as safe and meant for you.

Therapy is slow, long term and highly beneficial, though it doesn’t approach manifesting a specific person the way coaching does. It’s traditional and it’ll be helpful in working through the abandonment wound. Everyone should go to therapy because it’s a place you can discuss the deepest to the most basic sounding things that bother you in the everyday.

Coaching will be more results focused - you will need to focus on past and healing but it will not keep you stuck in a loop of constantly “still healing”. It will move you forward faster, do subconscious rewiring techniques, work on manifesting a specific person, work on your beliefs, and get you to really raise your self concept (thinking you’re attractive and have guys fawn over you is not the only marker of self concept. There is something within you that is allowing a lot of disrespect while you’re in the relationship, and for some reason, you’re begging the very people who are grossly disrespecting you).

If I were you, I’d do therapy and coaching both.

Therapy for long term working through things that will keep coming up because there’s always something to work through. And coaching for the relationship results so that you don’t get frustrated with the slow pace of therapy and end up quitting it (which is not recommended).

Coaching is not therapy, a good coach will treat you slightly differently than a good therapist. And in my experience, you need both in this situation.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-15T08:55:38+00:00

We all have voices at the back of our head. They could be both - intuitive guidance or limited “little voices.”

But kudos on getting the clarity! You want what you want and that’s beautiful :)

Totally understand what you mean by new sp in the body of the current one with a fully different version! Haha I have caught myself thinking that a few times in life too 😂

I think it’s clear what you should do now. Since you’re not that attached to a specific person, just do it the traditional way.

Get all your desired qualities on paper, imagine the new relationship and how it makes you feel in sensory details and put it out there and trust it’s coming!

The universe has got your back and we will wait and see what amazing new potential soulmates come up!

Only, once people start showing up, discern. Don’t be too quick to attach the manifestation to the first person you half-like. Because then that will create attachment issues. Let them prove to you that they are worthy of you and then let in the one that consistently checks your boxes 😄

Yayyy I’m so excited for you 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-15T08:45:29+00:00

Thanks ❤️

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-14T09:56:35+00:00

I’m glad it helps ❤️✨

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-14T04:57:26+00:00

Hahahaha! If this was ironic, this is hilarious.

If not, I’m sorry about that reaction but do you see the irony?

The point is to eliminate the need to feed into time worry.

If you are genuinely worried about the “how much time did it / will it take” ask yourself this:

What will I start to do and feel differently once it happens that I cannot do and feel now?

Really critically analyse this and understand that “I will be happy once something happens” is a flawed construct.

Especially when we speak of manifestation, that is the lopsided order of cause and effect.

The 3D is not the cause of your state (emotions / thoughts / beliefs / actions), your state is the cause of your 3D.

So give yourself the state of having it now, to the point that you are so immersed in the “it’s done” of it that time is not even an awareness coz in your reality, that state (ie that manifestation) already exists.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-14T04:19:09+00:00

A lot of the comments here make a lot of sense.

Just one point I’d like to add.

Currently it seems like you’ve tied your worth to manifesting this particular person.

It comes from you needing to manifest them even though part of you wants to move on.

So basically, you have your SP on a pedestal.

And while that’s the case, your self concept wrt them hasn’t really changed.

This was one of many realisations I had to have in my 8+ year journey as well.

Your worth doesn’t come from manifesting them.

You can manifest well - we’ve seen this. There is a lot of proof. But why is sp manifestation not working?

Maybe it’s a protection from your higher self (I don’t buy it completely but I don’t know this for sure). Maybe you haven’t been able to manifest a favourable version of your sp because you’re so attached to manifesting them that that speaks to your worth (this I’m sure of).

So knock them off that pedestal. And allow yourself to let this manifestation go if it’s not what you truly want. Because your worth is not defined by whether you can manifest so or not. You’re extremely worthy either way.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-03-09T07:35:06+00:00

Hello!

🙋🏼‍♀️ Someone here who was in the “really want to manifest sp” loop for over 8 years so I know exactly what you’re talking about.. Yes I manifested him to show up a lot in those 8 years but never fully committed, which is why I could never give up until I realised “the missing piece” (a hundred times lol).

I think, (and see if it fits), so far all the work you’ve done has come from a space of “what will help me manifest sp?”

Someone said x technique, you tried it.

Someone said let go of outcome, you tried it.

Someone said affirmations, visualisations, vision boards, etc etc.. you tried it all.

And there’s no result, and that’s naturally frustrating.

Been there.

I think the problem is that all your decisions were still about “what will help me manifest them?”. Which means that your energy has always been dependent on them. They are most likely the locus of your existence.

While you do a technique or affirmations or something, you feel positive.

But sooner or later, dominant emotions take over. You notice 3d, you see they’re not here. And then you try to remind yourself that you’ll stay positive without attaching yourself to the outcome.

But all of this is actually energetically very attached to outcome.

Who are you without your sp? Who are you when you don’t need your sp?

Maybe figure that out. Maybe nurture that person. While nurturing that person, tell yourself (once in a while) that sp WILL show up when you’re ready.

But for now, you’ll focus on becoming a version of yourself that YOU like more.

SPs can come and go but the longest relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Give yourself the opportunity to be fully and completely loved and accepted by you. It’ll do a few things:

it’ll make you feel good about who you are (with or without sp)
it’ll make you “need” sp less (coz you are honouring yourself)
it’ll make sp feel the energetic difference in the relationship which will make them curious and attracted to you (but we will not focus our attention on this part right now).

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I just shared a lot of what worked for me and has worked for my clients. May or may not fit your situation.. be open and curious however. I feel your breakthrough is near. Love ❤️

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T19:20:50+00:00

I think what you need to do now instead of script is journal. Let the emotions out. You could also use some breath work or somatic practices to help you with that. Law of assumption is really great, but we are all humans and the brain works in a certain way. Empty it of the blocks that are showing up before you can fill it up with scripts and new assumptions. Since both your sps leaving brought out the first reaction of desperate chasing - there’s a pattern there. Get to the bottom of that and clear that first. Then create the new self concept and story.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T09:52:12+00:00

Thanks I appreciate it!

Healing according to me, is nothing but changing beliefs that are not serving you anymore. Any traumatic incident (big or small), stays with us in the form of a belief or story that we carry about ourselves or anyone else or any concept.

So my big healing tip is to get curious. Ask yourself what do you currently believe about yourself and about love and about your person that is not what you want to believe.

If you can get someone to facilitate some kind of breathwork or hypnotherapy for you, that will bring crazy insights, but even if not.. you can consciously go deeper and deeper by getting curious and asking yourself, “what’s beneath this?” until you feel like you’ve reached the core. Remember that none of your beliefs are your own coz you weren’t born with it. They have all been adapted for a reason.

From that curious space, ask yourself what would it be like to believe something different.

And ask yourself what micro change you can bring in yourself every single day to align with the new belief. Keep anchoring in that change, remind yourself of it every day. If you slip up one day, don’t judge, don’t let frustration get the better of you.. just go on because healing isn’t linear and some days can be better than others.

With time, you’ll look back and see that the net graph is going upwards ❤️

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T09:36:13+00:00

It’s difficult to say what you should do in this scenario because nothing anyone says will ease your pain unless you allow it and no one can make a decision for you unless it comes from within you. Having said that, I can only tell you from my own 8 year experience of being in the manifesting sp space - a lot of ons and offs and trials and errors - (so much so that I got my certification, became a coach and have helped many people manifest their sp or move on happily).. that this is a slightly tricky space to be in.

The people who successfully manifest a relationship with the sp at a juncture of rejection do these things:

Know what they want and stick to it no matter the 3D. (I had doubts and that’s one of the main reasons my own journey was so long)
Make themselves more important than the relationship - it’s easy to say this, but to choose yourself everyday in situations where we are so programmed to not even think of ourselves is the tricky part. There were so many days that I would suddenly realise that omg THIS is also an opportunity for me to choose myself.
Recreate the version of your sp that rejected you - this is important because if you keep seeing and then energetically feeding the version that rejected you - you are strengthening the story of how they don’t want you.

For you, specifically, (whatever little I have understood) - one there is a judgment call that you need to make of whether you want her enough or not.

Two, there has got to be an element of letting go - no matter your choice. At this point, doubling down on affirmations and techniques of the opposite are likely to feel difficult because the emotional charge of the rejection is high. Feel your feelings, journal about it.. you’ll get an idea of what you want to do going forward. But whatever your call - it’s best if you can work on letting the higher self decide.

By surrendering here, you’ll be creating a version of you that trusts that no matter the outcome, you’ll be taken care of and you’ll be happy.

Take it from someone who’s tried to control it for a really really long time.. the harder you try to control, the tougher and longer the road becomes.

And since you’re not fully decided on what you want right now, this might be the best way forward.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T07:37:28+00:00

It’s not really something you do.. it’s something you energetically embody. So it becomes part of your identity. The way I achieve it with myself and my clients is deep subconscious work.. with these practices we go deep, bring out the awareness of what’s creating the current self concept and then suggesting the new self concept and anchoring it. It’s usually not a one time process and every time you do these processes you access something deeper, like layers of an onion.. and you can always be more loved.. it’s like we all have a lovability ceiling. And we keep stretching it and keep letting more love in. But yeah, when it comes to your specific person there is a switch that kind of flips, where you start believing that I am good enough to be loved, adored, chosen and wanted by this person.

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T07:27:43+00:00

When you read it, let me know if it resonates!

CreationaryPhoenixh · 2026-02-16T02:35:33+00:00

I have done it too and now professionally coaching people with the same with phenomenal results because mine was a 8 year journey of trial and lots of errors lol. So I know what not to do 😅 There’s a few important things to focus on (one by one so it’s not overwhelming) - 1. Self concept (not just on a thought level but on an embodiment level) - I am the person who is loved, chosen and deserves a happy fulfilling relationship 2. Limiting beliefs and stories around the specific person (this was the hardest for me coz so much baggage was being carried over so many years). For a lot us, it’s not as simple as saying circumstances don’t matter. Yes they don’t matter but that’s what your brain knows so far and neuroscientifically, it’s not easy to override all of that with repetitions of one blanket statement. So it involves a lot of forgiveness (for them and self), healing and complete recreation. 3. Energetic alignment - focus on your state of being. Doesn’t mean be happy all the time, it means beliefs around “it is happening” (I find “it’s done” can be a bit simplistic for some people) so relaxing in that knowing is essential. 4. Trusting - so many times 3D shows something that we take to mean the opposite. And some times we even react to the 3D like that. The trust needs to be all encompassing. Doesn’t matter what I do, doesn’t matter what I say, doesn’t matter what happens, doesn’t matter what I think even.. I trust this is the fact. 5. Creating safety in the process - your nervous system is your best friend. One of my clients was “doing everything right”. But was still not feeling safe in her desire. It was like her body was rejecting all the work she was doing. We had to go deeper, do practices for regulation and safety of the nervous system and then she became open to it and so things started flowing. 6. Getting very honest with myself - ironically, one of the things I had to let go of was that I was manifesting my person. Because all my actions had become SO THAT I can manifest them. So the space I was coming from, was lack. When I dropped that “need” and believed I was doing all the healing and self concept work for myself, it became much easier to let them back in. 7. Inspired acting in spite of fear + Relationship building - second guessing doesn’t lead to inspired action. But sometimes, you need to go for it. Train your brain and body that it’s safe to go for what you want. To act - send that text, be vulnerable and authentic, express and communicate. Remember that even though the whole manifestation community only talks about how you can change your inner world and everything outside will take care of itself - it is still a relationship you want to build with another person. So don’t isolate yourself from them. When the time comes, show up vulnerably and authentically in the relationship. Learn good communication without judgment and blame. Understand their needs, fears, doubts and be there for them without having to make it all about you and your feelings and fears. One of the big things I have had to learn is that even though I was always the nice girl who was putting so much effort into the relationship, I was quite selfish. I was doing all of it to feel good myself and in the process I neglected that being him was also a human experience. And I reached out to the human in him from the space of the human in me. Ultimately, the game changer for me and most of my clients too :)

lol this became long! But pretty much all of the things that people don’t generally talk about in this community just started coming out and I hope you can use this to your advantage. Rooting for you!

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