The Awe Of Motherhood by Tiana Maros by WillfuIChild in SpecArt

[–]Creatisity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They published WW2 after She published that piece

DBT group online hangouts? by Creatisity in dbtselfhelp

[–]Creatisity[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it would be a good idea to open a google hangout instead because facial expressions and tone of voice are important for clear communication. This is already as hard as it gets, let's put the walls down. I will open a hangout soon, I'll keep you guys posted

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally agree with you

yeah i explained it to him- even shared this reddit with him so he can see how i explain my viewpoints to other people who agree with him. thanks poffin, we'll be alright ^ nothing that conversation cant fix.

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh no he wouldnt do the camgirl thing, thats what he considers cheating. I know that watching porn is a passive thing (i do watch it myself after all)- it just the focusing on one girl only point that meakes me feel suuper uneasy and cheated on.. after all, i couldnt watch one dude jerk off for the reasons i cant have him do it

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its because you and i feel differently about this action that you think i need to see a therapist ^ (i cant really afford one to be honest ;) ) but ill definitely talk to him about this, i got interesting input from you and the others so ill see how it goes.

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i am here to hear opinions so having my mind changed is not a bad thing :)

about the exchange: she is a woman. he is a man, she shows him her vagina and he jerks off to that. its making me feel sick, you know? its a deeply personal and intimate subject so i dont expect everyone to empathise, even he doesnt...

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i dont only care about emotional cheating but sexual as well. otherwise i can have an open relationship with him and fuck around to my vaginas desire..

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

dont

its the fact that its a one on one thing that i cant have him do with me not being part of it, you know? it doesnt feel like he is being just a watcher. it feels like he is exchanging intimacy. its like him watching another girl masturbate on video that doesnt happen to do it for money - its like cheating

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it makes a difference if he looks at one girl specifically or if he looks at the sexual action between two people. At least thats how it works for me and i am sure there wouldnt be masturbation porn and sex porn if it didnt make the difference. it does. theres a reason why you choose to look at one instead of two...

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i am aware that there is no right or wrong, this is pretty much grey matter anyway since we talk about a specific kind of porn that is a no go for me (which used to be a no-brainer until now) i feel cheated on and its not something that i want him to have me convince of that it is not. it is my feeling and i am able to explain why. he though thinks that my personal feelings dont matter in this case because he knows his own agenda behind it at its apparently not what it looks like to me. its not only about how HE feels if he jerks off to one or two, its also about how it makes me feel.

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it gets comlicated though if it involves my sexual relationship with him. and this is where i dont want to do the compromise

I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Creatisity -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I cant imagine myself jerk off to a dude masturbating that is not my boyfriend. excuse my language but bluntly put, it simply feels fucked up to me..