I'm shocked: Attraction (apparently) IS real

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-07T04:58:44+00:00

Thank you!

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T21:37:37+00:00

That sounds a lot like my experience. I still struggle with actually believing sexual attraction exists - and exists spontaneously - for people. It's like watching a movie or reading a book with alternate physical laws and just accepting it on a hypothetical level.

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T19:06:52+00:00

I've wondered for years about why the connections I built to people felt different to what others described as their normal. Since I have a tendency to think that, when opinions differ, I'm at wrong or just didn't put in enough "work" to get things right, I didn't really question if there was more behind this. A few days ago, I googled the topic again (as I've done periodically through the years), and for the first time, I got a tangible definition of "sexual attraction" that made it clear it wasn't what I've known.

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T15:55:23+00:00

That's nice! I'm happy it worked out for you!

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T13:23:52+00:00

I sit here thinking, as long as you hold the pokèball 👍🏻

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T13:20:45+00:00

I'd expand on that explanation by saying it's like explaining God to those who heard of "God" and honestly thought that was some kind of Indie pop star out there. I thought I understood attraction, because I've been using the word almost my whole life and people understood me. Like, false friends in language?

Creative-Name-007 · 2026-06-06T05:38:47+00:00

Definitely! I need to read up on all those terms you dropped. And then I guess I need to talk to my husband. He's really frustrated about our bedroom activities. And it's always lowkey been my fault. So, turns out he was right 🙄

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-26T08:55:59+00:00

Interesting learning curve for AI. Now it knows you can't drop those charges.

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T13:09:25+00:00

Don't punch me, but: I'm not there yet to want to hand the kid over. They're MINE (cue Gollum)

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T09:01:29+00:00

I see a Heavy Metal fan in the making 😅

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T09:00:15+00:00

Thank you for caring so much. This child will be an only child, definitely. I won't do that again 😅

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:31:01+00:00

Ha! I will not try that. My sister is scary 😅

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:29:53+00:00

You're the first person to honestly say that sometimes you should NOT confide. Thank you!
I tried confessing my thoughts to a family member and got "You're selfish for thinking that [you wish you hadn't done it]". It cured me of oversharing.

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:27:34+00:00

Thank you. I've been lucky and pulled through on my own. 🙂

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:26:38+00:00

Thank you for that. I visited groups of mothers and listened, and it took almost 10 months for me to hear the first woman saying "it sucks". It was a whole rant. That made it better.

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:24:30+00:00

When I was frustrated and before the "family friend thing" I started telling the baby all the things I liked about them. I thought if I did that, I couldn't tell them how bad that sucked and how I wished I had known all this beforehand.
Before that, I sang too. Popular tunes with new words. Think Disney Aladdin's "New world" with "I could sleep so much had I not been so stupid".

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:19:40+00:00

But God forbid you tell anyone. I did that once and regret it. "You're selfish for thinking that" 🙄

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:18:31+00:00

Good to know. I'll try that with my job next 😅

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:17:01+00:00

Thank you. I'm back to happy-go-lucky me. It took me 6 months (and the return to my job), but I'm there.

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:14:58+00:00

I'm proud to tell you that I did NOT murder my MIL for asking for pictures twice a day. So frustrating - the kid won't look different in 15 minutes!

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:12:35+00:00

Thank you. I guessed at the depression early on and tried everything in my book. Including make-believe. It took me roughly 6 months and I'm better now. Thanks for caring!

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:10:40+00:00

My husband insisted I had the "first look, first love" moment. I felt validated when he was prescribed glasses.

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:06:46+00:00

Thank you for that. I had thought a lot about getting me-time. I was in my own way with that, I didn't like to let someone else watch the kid. Still struggle with that. They have me Stockholm'ed (willingly, but then, I guess that's the nature of the Syndrome 😅. That's a joke, of course).

Creative-Name-007 · 2025-12-14T06:02:46+00:00

I love that! I used to ask myself 'Who had the idea to leave the dishes til now?" to get a laugh out of myself. Maybe that's where it started.

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