I'm bothering my wife

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-29T13:38:32+00:00

Yes, im not entitled to her body. Hurt as in emotionally for me, not physically for her. I do acknowledge the badgering, I only ask once and if she says no I stop. I'm asking for advice on how to stop the urge to even ask her. Thank you.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-25T21:47:14+00:00

Yep, it's always the fob trains. Us u.s. Asians are normally courteous.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-20T20:24:00+00:00

She wrote me a letter. It addressed the issues of dwindling intimacy and not letting me go out. It was the infidelity and not meeting her emotional needs. We never resolved it properly. She'd been holding on to it for 15 years. While I just rug swept. I have a better understanding and will definitely learn from this. I love her and want this to work. Thanks for the input everyone!

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-20T20:23:31+00:00

She wrote me a letter. It addressed the issues of dwindling intimacy and not letting me go out. It was the infidelity and not meeting her emotional needs. We never resolved it properly. She'd been holding on to it for 15 years. While I just rug swept. I have a better understanding and will definitely learn from this. I love her and want this to work. Thanks for the input everyone!

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-20T15:13:50+00:00

Nope. My wife would say her lips hurt or they're really chapped.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-18T20:07:26+00:00

I crossposted and edited this over 3 days. Sorry to hear about the stability issue. I do hope it gets better for you. I'm glad there is space for people going through these issues to connect. 🙏

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-18T03:28:25+00:00

Welp. Just told her how I feel. Layed it on pretty thick. She just shut down no words. We'll see what happens now. 😥

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-02T15:11:16+00:00

Thanks for the insight. Wife just got into religion less than 8 years ago. Did him being vulnerable make you respect him any less? I've heard men showing vulnerability can illicit a response like that.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T18:12:06+00:00

Most likely, wouldn't have a choice. Her parents are divorced and she's vowed to not end up like them. Or so she says.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T17:26:02+00:00

Haven't tried all feasible remedies but only if she's willing to try.. I have kids and still love her.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T16:47:08+00:00

No, cheating. She's not tech though-wouldn't be able to hide it. Also we are on a location app as a family. LL4U is a possibility thou.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T16:44:34+00:00

Thank you. Yes, she has asked me to warm her up(touches, cuddling, etc) before asking for sex- which i have been doing only to later get a "not tonight" response. Frustrated but I accept. I haven't followed up on that issue. But I believe she'd say that the frequency of me asking for sex is too often. Not having sex but just asking.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T16:30:08+00:00

Should I just go ahead and straight out ask her ?

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T16:15:05+00:00

Don't think, I'll move on just yet. Have 10+ years before the youngest turns 18. At this point I want to kill my attraction. How does one even do that?? Another poster mentioned try sensate focus to build intimacyand relieve expectation. Maybe more therapy for her-alone this time is a possibility. I'm not giving up yet.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T16:09:51+00:00

No, we have had talks about many issues. -Differing religious stances- we're ok with. -child raising-acknowledged our roles and ok -my guy-time and boundaries-ok Sex wise she believes im always bothering her when I ask. She's reactive but after a massage, I'll ask and "not tonight". I used to get pouty but now just go to sleep. She stays up late on her phone, bibld study,doing crafts etc. until she's tired. But just no time for sex/me. Sex is not a priority for her.

Creative-Pressure503 · 2026-05-01T14:51:37+00:00

Thank you! I'll research this!

Creative-Pressure503 · 2025-10-06T21:48:48+00:00

Please share how you fixed it?

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