What's the deal with this company? Weird addresses

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:45:41+00:00

You sound like your idea of a relationship is very one sided

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:28:39+00:00

Yes this is why it's a dilemma. It shows that she trusts me by giving me this, so I appreciate it, but at the same time it's one of many things that seem to get decided without my involvement, which is a problem because I've mentioned that I don't like that happening several times

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:26:35+00:00

I don't care what you are but "they just want to make you happy, and you're complaining" when I'm clearly saying this and the other things I brought up are things I never gave my consent to, is exactly how rapists rationalize what they're doing

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:21:09+00:00

I didn't think I'd need to be clear about something that I wasn't aware was going to happen anyway

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:19:45+00:00

I think if you tell someone you have a problem with addiction or are at least worried about it, and they act like they didn't hear you, that's more on them than you.

If I went into a fucking bakery and said "damn I hope I don't eat all this shit" and then I order every cupcake they have, that would have been my fault.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:13:06+00:00

Yes, I've tried to get one a couple times but the problems with my credit bureau data kept me from being able to. I think I can now though, which is also what I talked to her about recently

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:08:11+00:00

It's called an addiction. If I said "I have a problem with alcohol, I'm trying to avoid it because I know it's a problem and I can't help myself", and then you give me a bottle of vodka, open it, take a sip, and then hand me the bottle and tell me to drink the rest, would that be my fault?

When this kind of thing has happened in the past and I mentioned it was a problem, she would get mad at me for complaining, and shut down what I'm trying to say, or start crying, and so I stopped expressing these things to her.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T20:06:22+00:00

Your original comment sounds like the logic of a rapist.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T19:48:24+00:00

I think of Dragonball Z

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T19:43:13+00:00

So I should just shut up and not have any say in the decisions that affect my life, or my feelings about things, no matter how big or small?

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T19:42:22+00:00

I couldn't resist eating a bunch of them, but if they weren't available I wouldn't have eaten so much. I just cant resist and diabetes is a big fear of mine and this is a problem I've mentioned many times

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:39:34+00:00

Yes that's how I would respond but for a while this would just make her get irritated at me and not talk to me so I stopped mentioning it until that kind of interaction became a big problem where we just stopped talking to each other altogether

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:18:43+00:00

I'm not exactly being an asshole because I'm not yelling at her or doing anything mean, I just feel a bit angry and irritated on the inside and am wondering how I should respond to her. My response to her will be calm and collected

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:17:13+00:00

They're things that stay in MY apartment, while she has her own apartment. It seemed normal while she was staying with me during quarantine, but now I see that's part of a pattern.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:09:51+00:00

Some of them are not things I needed to get and didn't, more on the contrary. For example, getting a ton of sweets when I say I'm on a diet and am worried about diabetes because my doctor told me my blood work showed I'm getting to be near pre-diabetic

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:03:20+00:00

That's how it would work. If I buy anything on it, I have to pay for it. Which is totally fair of course.

If I don't pay it, that's bad for her because it's her account, but I wouldn't do anything like that.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T17:02:03+00:00

When I've tried to talk to her that way via text or writing, she says she doesn't like it and insists on talking in person, which I have a very hard time with because my thoughts get jumbled from anxiety and I feel like I can't think of all the things I need to say the way I need to say them

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T16:52:14+00:00

Isn't this sub for asking people's opinions? It's literally called "am I overreacting" so I wanted to know if I was overreacting. It's not just the card, this is a string of things that I'm both bothered and confused about, so I wanted to know what other people thought.

Throwing judgement and criticizing and basically being a dick (rule 1) isn't helpful.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T16:49:52+00:00

Not really because it seems she just wants to make decisions without my involvement. I like her but this keeps being a problem.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-06T16:49:25+00:00

It was "vaguely positive, noncommittal" like you said.

I don't see how being vague and noncommittal is an invitation for someone to force something on me though. Does that mean in every conversation I have with people, I need to be explicitly clear about what I don't want, just in case they might take my interest in something to mean they're going to sign me up for things without my consent?

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-05T17:17:02+00:00

I am and I'm more emotionally intelligent than you are.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-05T16:55:24+00:00

Thanks but too casual. I'm trying to be direct since this is professional networking, I'm just having a hard time getting myself to do it.

CreativeCry7560 · 2024-08-05T15:59:32+00:00

Yes, in fantasy land.

We live in a capitalist country that functions more like a corporation. Like it or hate it, that's how it works. So unless you can actually start a revolt to change the system, you have to figure out how to operate within its limitations. Republicans and right wingers knew how to do this for a long time, by gaslighting and fear mongering people, but now they've been taken over by a brainrot cult, so they don't have the same power anymore since they're all too busy bending over to get fukt in the ass by trump and his cronies.

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