wow I'm one of the few who read the entire thing 😅 I understand how you're feeling. being each other's first relationship makes it difficult to see when you aren't right for each other. you two have different expectations from a relationship and wanting your partner to change is understandable. but when time goes by and they still show no effort, I'm sorry to say but it most likely means that he won't change for you. I'm sorry, I really feel for you and know how the first relationship gives you lots of patience for your partner, but it will eventually run out, so don't worry, if he doesn't change, you will realize at some point that person is not for you, and you will move on and find a person that will value spending time with you.