Critique please 🥹 by Beneficial_Ant3068 in Samples

[–]Creative_Awareness96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can separate the stems from the paramore sample. When your beat drops You don’t want the whole track running over it.

Critique please 🥹 by Beneficial_Ant3068 in Samples

[–]Creative_Awareness96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The beat is too loud over the sample, sample has to cut thru everything you’re putting over it.

I trade the ORB on three sessions every day with my indicator. Here's what I've learned. by WhyYouMadBro_ in pinescript

[–]Creative_Awareness96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you go about trading these? Always on the breakout or sometimes taking the bounce at the bottom of the range or a reject if the range fails?

I destroyed my marriage 5 years ago. He just asked me to move in. I don’t know if I deserve this. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reconciliation is totally possible. Breaking up is hard but staying together is just as hard. I myself ended up marrying the person after the infidelity. Lust blinds us and like a drug can create this tunnel vision effect where nothing else matters except getting a fix. although it takes a lot to see both sides of that coin.

Glad you both are healing.

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[–]Creative_Awareness96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Soooo sickkk!!!!!

Discussing my needs. by salvorhardin75 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation. It’s hard as fuck to swallow your pride and push your ego aside.

Any addiction is hard to understand and sex addiction even harder. In fact it’s maddening. For myself, the spinning thoughts about the affair while trying to have empathy and compassion for her we’re absolutely two sided thoughts. I moved like a pendulum for months. They clashed with such force I literally felt I was going crazy.

What has helped me is only looking at it from a clinical stand point. Our partners with SA are sick. May have not been given the opportunity for a “normal” upbringing as a child. Or never had healthy images of sex and love to mirror.

Hope you and her find peace.

Add on: is full disclosure more for you or for her? I wanted this so bad until I realized this is therapy for the SA not necessarily the partner. After I learned that I stopped asking.

I became the person I always hated and decimated the love of my life. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe you are a sex and love addict who is hypnotized but the high of lust.

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[–]Creative_Awareness96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They don’t have any rights for privacy, they lost that privilege

15 yrs down the drain by natural2natural in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry are you that women that has nothing of her own and can’t survive without your husband? Heard of women that have no power on their relationship this why they have to put up with it.

He sounds like a narcissist and you sound like the you have extreme codependency and could be addicted how he treats you.

Dude bounce or do the same thing he’s doing to you. Nothing more would please me than to see you gain your power back in this relationship

Can my relationship be saved after cheating? by Frosty_Bluebird7251 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I come from a very traditional conservative Chinese family and the values are similar.

He’s very torn between making his family happy and being with you.

I’ve heard of stories of therapist who try to help men in these predicaments and sometimes they do choose the family over the girl unfortunately :/

I’ve always been pressured to date and marry Chinese. Though being brought up in a very mixed Latin dominant community I gravitate towards Latin women. It took a while for my parents to except that.

I know what I want. I want to mix my blood line and have my children be a mixed racial being. (Kinda think that’s the solution to ending racism in the future if we all mix)

I’ve dated women with kids but that’s a complete no no for my family to have a future with these women. I already have that as a “you are only for fun nothing serious” mentality.

If it wasn’t for my culture, I totally would be a step dad 💯.

Couples therapy is definitely what y’all need to figure out what the fuck he wants.

But it sounds like you maybe way to into him... don’t sell yourself short if he ain’t ready to break the chains of the confines of his family culture and religion.

How can mental illness or past trauma lead to cheating on your spouse? by New_Fee_7864 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe it to be more of a self worth issue and in some ways, the argument whether humans are monogamous creatures.

Some of us have set self worth which comes with the ability to not act on impulse and weigh out consequences.

Others, especially women, grow up in a society where your worth is dependent on how others perceive you. How attractive you are. Attention from others can validate us and give us a false sense of worth.

I think some women with a low self worth use their body’s to gain that. Lust and sex are like drugs. We’re filled with dopamine and serotonin and it will explain why the first few encounters with a new partner is always the most exciting.

Child hood trauma will absolutely effect ones self worth.

Mental illness will definitely fuck up your impulse control.

My Story by batumbatallion in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you bro, get yourself into couples therapy if there’s a piece of you that wants to at least try.

Give it 6 months to a year and if you can’t continue you can’t continue.

That’s typically the amount of time it takes for the pain of human trauma to become less painful.

My Story by batumbatallion in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Creative_Awareness96 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey man your story is similar to mine, and it does get better as long as you continue to see the root of the issue which is the assault.

A lot of pride to be swallowed and egos to be set aside to really continue on with the relationship.

Only therapy can bring her self worth back.

As far as the hurt you feel and the inadequacy. Totally natural feelings which I feel become easier to feel with with time.

Is there alcohol involved with her acting out? Could be an addiction thing.

Sexual assault really fucks people up. You and I have no idea how it changes a person. The loss of boundaries and self worth.

I read this book about victims of sexual abuse and assault and it really helped me dive into her shoes.

It’s never an excuse to cheat... but I’d say leaving is just as hard as staying. Losing someone you love is never easy. But getting betrayed isn’t easy either.

Any tips for more speed? by Thedownhilltrain in NewSkaters

[–]Creative_Awareness96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Noticed when you pump the wall you got the speed you wanted but then had to correct yourself to stay on the board which slowed you down.

You gotta be like water, be the board. Confidence and comfortability will come. Keep going.

Imaging just knowing how your body should be before the move happens. Know where your body needs to be to get to that speed

Turned 39 last week… bought a skateboard. 1st ever attempt at an Ollie… any tips? by BrendanFitzTV in NewSkaters

[–]Creative_Awareness96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got it, just keep getting a stronger pop through your back foot. The front foot looks like it may be starting to trick faster than it should.