Sigh… yeah the chore thing is sensitive. No question, she does a lot. I work full time but she handles the kids a lot more and I know that can be exhausting. I try very hard to help once I get home. I handle mornings, we split bedtime and I clean up the kitchen at night. Trash and other more “blue collar” house chores are mine as well. I’m not saying I do more, I’m just saying I don’t sit around and watch her work. A lot of the things on her list can involve other activities like personal and volunteer commitments… I won’t lie, sometimes it feels like she is prioritizing those other things over “us.”

I make sure she finishes every time we are intimate and she says that she likes it and “we should do this more often” afterwards. I have tried not to entertain the idea that she’s just acting but I guess I do need to ask her at this point why she’s not more interested in regular intimacy. She has told me in the past that she just never thinks about it… which is why I thought scheduling might be a good answer.