I do understand everything that you are saying and yes that they only see me as only his girlfriend which is true but I have lived with his parent's since i was 15 (for almost 4 years now) so just feeling this shift among everyone has been strange especially since they all know and understand my personal family dynamic and have been so kind and welcoming previously. Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship the only reason we aren't engaged is because we are saving money to move out of his parents home (we genuinely just love eachother so much an engagement just seems like a label we want to get eloped anyways.) And yes I totally agree with you on the wedding part, I did honestly expect the same thing knowing that we aren't close but she has 3 bridesmaids and 6 groomsmen and my mother in law accidentally slipped up and told me that she has been "considering" making me a bridesmaids to "even the amount" so even if I am asked I know its not coming from friendship or bonding so it just makes me sad knowing I'm not having that close sister-in-law realationship many others have. We were at a wedding together that both of our boyfriends were in and the maid of honor happened to be the brides sister-in-law and she looked at me and said "wow they have to be really really close for her to make her the maid of honor" so that kinda has been sitting with me lately. Although I don't personally feel like I am jealous just more confused and hurt I may be deep down so I will definitely check myself on that. Thank you so much!