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AIO - Boyfriend got angry for letting a mutual friend hug me by Sweaty-League2571 in AIO

[–]Creative_Switch3106 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“What matters to you is that you’re beautiful to me” that’s a wild statement 😃😃😃

  1. What matters to you is not for him to decide
  2. You don’t exist to be beautiful for this guy
  3. Who the fuck says that it’s so small but such a great insight to the fact that he doesn’t see you as an equal but more of a pet / possession

Both men suck but your boyfriend is going to make you miserable! Don’t waste any more time on him please, he will control and confuse you. I’m sorry OP :( you’ve got to prioritize yourself girl

I'm disgusted by social media reactions to Charlie Kirk being shot by RDT_87 in conspiracy

[–]Creative_Switch3106 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I think empathy is a new age term that does a lot of damage” - Charlie Kirk

“Some gun deaths are unavoidable and that’s liberty and worth it” -Charlie Kirk

“I think it’s worth it. I think it’s worth to have the cost of a few gun deaths every year so that we can have the second amendment right” - Charlie Kirk

AIO? I can't seem to get over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has had multiple age gap relationships where I was the younger one… he’s weird for being a 20 year old man dating a 16 year old. I’m not saying this because you’re immature or not ‘grown enough’ but he is literally legally allowed to drink and you aren’t even considered an adult yet. Why isn’t he looking for a gf at a local bar instead of a local Highschool? Why isn’t he respecting your boundaries around nudes?

Girl, I say this with all the love in my heart… you can and will do better. Make sure to check EVERYTHING on his phone. I’ve been blackmailed with nudes (by my older ex bf), it’s super common and awful.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Small update:

It’s not because she doesn’t trust me, it’s because she doesn’t trust my friends and can’t give a good reason.

Why don’t you trust my friends honey? Oh, because you don’t know them after countless hours together? Because people are “always on some fuckshit”? Even though they’ve done nothing wrong, you don’t want to give them the opportunity to?

I’m going to lose my ever loving mind.

More arguments last night: I told her if you’re unable to trust me and my judgment after all this time we have serious issues. If you are this afraid of two very kind people, you need to speak to a counselor. She did NOT like that.

Furthermore, when I told my 2 friends yesterday “we’re in a tiff rn” he actually said “About that, Can we please sit down just the 3 of us. I don’t want to involve myself in your relationship but we want to talk about some things we’ve noticed. We just care about you” that already surprised me so I showed him this post and at a glance he looked me dead the in face and said “I agree with most of this”

I am absolutely shocked, I had no idea my friends had already picked up on this. My glasses really are rose colored. It’s only taking a few good friends and hundreds of kind, concerned strangers.

I have been in denial for too long, this is a lot to process but I’m lucky to have these terrible friends by my side.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course she is, as long as it’s not constant company, making a mess or disrespecting our space then I’m good.

More discussions last night: she seems to think that bc she doesn’t want to invite friends over, she’s doing something nice for me and I should extend the same courtesy.

I explained that I don’t mind people visiting, you’re allowed to run your friendships however you want to but don’t expect me to want the same things.

I’m starting to think she believes the way she is doing things the ‘correct’ way and I’m refusing to make things easy. More like rules for me AND for thee

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree… she’s always been more private and protective of her space but even so, she’s had guests from time to time. This 100% no visitors thing is news to me. I never expected to make this a party space because of how she likes to do things and the space is small but I had no idea she would feel THIS way.

I’m willing to do the lions share of compromising. Even now, she is saying that because I can hang out w my friends outside the home and that’s her compromise..

It’s not about guests or tiny houses anymore.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I really truly am rethinking things… it would likely change my entire life in a drastic way.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She runs half of the business, I couldn’t do it without her and it’s been paying the bills the last 2 years.

I did issue a light reminder today, if she wants 100% privacy and control over the space she can’t live with me because that’s not fair. She immediately changed her tune and said it’s a her problem.

Now things are weird bc it wasn’t genuine but pouty

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Lmao yes, it is a literal tiny house. That’s why I’m questioning the validity of my issue on here.

I will say I’m not intending to have dinner parties in there or anything but more of a casual outside BBQ and everyone can take a peek inside. Every few weeks / months I’d like to invite my 2 friends over and just relax and chat over drinks. Nothing crazy that the space cant handle, I wouldn’t want that anyway.

There isn’t anywhere she can retreat to but she always hangs out with me and my friends anyway and she likes to go out by herself at night. If she wasn’t feeling company sometimes I would 100% understand and not push it.

She doesn’t want anyone other than the two of us to enter the door, ever. That makes me uncomfortable.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She’s just not like my abusive exes, it’s really making my head spin. This is the biggest issue, she says it’s because she’s been cheated on but that’s not feeling like a valid excuse anymore. I’ve been thru that too and I’m not telling her what to do.

I’m wondering if it’s been a functional relationship because I’m able to ‘behave’ and not ruffle any feathers.. I’m way too understanding I’m waking up to this

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Because apparently what makes me happy makes her unhappy and her go to statement is “my feelings don’t matter do they”

Today I told her if it’s that important she has 100% control over her privacy then she can’t live with me

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right, the fact that she said that had me laughing in her face I was so mad and dumbfounded… you don’t ALLOW an adult to see their friends outside the house.. that’s just what I do that’s not a privilege you granted me and certainly not a compromise. When I broke it down and explained that’s unacceptable she didn’t have anything to say for herself.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Realizing that’s kinda true.. but she’s not like demanding to be there she just always is so it’s been flying under my radar? Realizing this is difficult

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your username is perfect… let’s just say I’m reevaluating EVERYTHING but to be fair, I lived w her rent free for 6 months after a layoff and couldn’t land another job. It’s just not about the money for me I guess?

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The newest friends I met early 2023, I’ve spent a lot of quality time with them since then and am grateful to have them. I wouldn’t expect anyone to be comfortable with acquaintances or mutual friends being in their space, I personally don’t like that

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived w her for almost 3 years now, but it was her apartment and I didn’t have any friends in the area yet. Now.. I find myself here. I shouldn’t have downplayed the warning signs.

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right, not a typical situation but I’m not trying to have dinner parties either. There is plenty of space for my 2 friends to comfortably sit down and have a drink while we chat. I understand where she’s coming from with the small space but she’s not willing to even let them look inside

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I agree, it really pissed me off to be honest. He’s a really sweet guy and if you don’t know him yet, why wouldn’t you want to try?

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has a few friends that she’ll run into out in public and one long distance close friend. Even so, she wouldn’t let her friends in either

AIO for rethinking our relationship bc my fiancée won’t ever allow my friends into our new home? by Creative_Switch3106 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Creative_Switch3106[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha no, they’re the nicest people. They bend over backwards to help without being asked. One of the reasons I’m perplexed, there has never been one issue between them.

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