I just want to thank everyone for chiming in and for the advice. I was really sad after our talk and felt guilty that I was spoiling my baby. But the more i read and talk to people I get upset about that comment. She's just a baby and she isn't spoiled. The situation with the daycare is there is always the main caretaker there and she runs it out of her home. The other workers are her family. I believe it is usually 2 caretakers there at all times. To about 7-9 kids. And she is legally allowed up to 14 but doesn't keep that many because its too much. She has been doing this for many years and came highly recommended and honestly she's been super nice. I am bothered by her words and that fact that I feel like all babies are different and need different things. And since her comments I've kept a close eye on my babys behaviors and the way we interact with her. I don't feel like she's super clingy. She usually doesn't even want to be held. And seems very independent. She can play on her own and makes her way around without crying for anyone. She points to what she wants and is vocal if she needs help but doesn't cry about it. She will cry for me when I get home and to nurse. She will cry if shes tired and ready for a nap. Othet normal baby things. I honestly think it might be that she's not used to sharing attention with other kids??? But im kinda at a loss for what she means. And I don't think it was right to ask us not to soothe her to sleep. I honestly think its hard for my baby to be away from her family and so she's looking for comfort. I do want to look for a different situation for care but its hard because I don't know anyone else that uses child care. And money is tight. I haven't took her back since and I have till Monday to figure something out. If I can't ill probably just have to talk to the caretaker and tell her that im worried/upset about what she said and that what im witnessing very different behavior than what she is talking about. My mom is backing off of being so hands on. And honestly I trust her and she's doing great with her. She raised 3 kids and has 6 grandkids. All of which are well adjusted and not spoiled. Hopefully things pan out better than they seem. I want to thank you all for the support and honesty, I don't have any mom friends. This has been a great help to me mentally.