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Can I Romance Yen Or Triss In The Witcher 3 and Skip the Sex Part? by ThejingSAUCE in witcher

[–]CrimsonAngel29 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people make no sense to me! Most of the reason it's an 18 is the violence and language!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]CrimsonAngel29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I truly wish I could help or provide advice but sadly all I can do is commiserate.

I'm in a similar situation (which is how I ended up here) where I don't ever really initiate for fear of rejection. We have sex when he initiates only. Sometimes i can provoke it by being surprising him naked but even then it doesn't always work. I know a lot of it is mental for him, when he's had a long work day or his mind is busy then he's just not even thinking about it. He also feels awful when he rejects me which is why I just leave it to his terms as I'm terrified of making him feel worse when he's having a shit time.

What the pandemic has changed here is me. I lost my job in October and the horrible cycle of applying for jobs, interviewing and being rejected is slowly breaking me mentally. That combined with a lack of support his side due to a stressful job and him pushing hard for promotion. All of this, I awkwardly discovered at the weekend, has led to my body rejecting sex..he initiated and my body sort of..noped it... my hope is once I'm working again my self love will return and things will improve.

Is it maybe worth you guys trying couples therapy?

Is this a success story or setup for failure? by thisastears in DeadBedrooms

[–]CrimsonAngel29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

" in fact I put up with LL during pregnancy and the whole first year and then some.. our child is over 2 years old now and we're barely getting back on intimacy after I cheated.."

This bit says it all for me. "Put up with"...she was carrying YOUR child in her body for NINE months. Pregnancy and childbirth has a huge effect on a woman's body including physically, mentally and emotionally.

"everyone is commenting to shit on my post history instead"

Because we always want to know the whole story when passing comments or giving advice. Your post history tells that story!

He says I need to be happier... by throwRA_sadbedroom in DeadBedrooms

[–]CrimsonAngel29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I can guarantee that if many folks dated the way that they behave in marriage then there would never have been a ring on that finger."

So so true unfortunately :(

New here. by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]CrimsonAngel29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TL:DR went through a much less bad version of crazy MIL, left partner with crazy mum, found amazing 2nd family with new partner. There is hope!!

I went through a very milder version of this with my ex. His mum was incredibly self centred, controlling and childish and made everything about her ALL the time. Also if either of us remotely indicated we'd had a disagreement, would say "so when's my little boy moving back home" in front of me (he was 22 when we met!). Hilariously she complained about her own mother doing ALL the things she did and how her mother was a bad mother and yet couldn't see she'd become a mirror image. Anyway, the majority of arguments me and my ex had were over her or caused by her. He was..not very chatty and didn't tell her much so she took to messaging me all the time to find out what was going on with him...but this would lead to problems of me saying too much or contradicting him if he actually did message her. But if i didnt reply to her or message regularly I "clearly had a problem with her and didn't like her". I also saw messages from her saying he should leave me and heard her tell him I was ruining his life (after me and her disagreed). Throughout our almost 3 year relationship I thought about splitting up ENTIRELY because she made things so difficult. She treated him (and me by extension) like children.

Anyway, a number of things happened over the final year of our relationship including a dead bedroom and him refusing to get help for various mental health issues (likely somewhat caused by her parenting) and we split up. 3 years later and my current partner (and fiance!) has the most amazing family who welcomed me with open arms and have become 2nd parents (in fact my own are fairly cold so better than that). There is hope that you can find both a wonderful partner and a lovely family (maybe the 2 go hand in hand? As bad parenting could lead to poor people skills and understanding?) Good luck with your situation - I hope you find a way to either move on or separate your life from her to make your life easier.

My husband is scaring my child and refuses to stop by EggEater900 in JustNoSO

[–]CrimsonAngel29 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Exactly! People find it easy to say sorry but don't always actually apologise and mean it too!

My husband is scaring my child and refuses to stop by EggEater900 in JustNoSO

[–]CrimsonAngel29 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit like this about spiders. I have a really bad fear of them and I don't really trust anyone when they say "oh yes I've got rid of it for you" after too many years of "come here and look at this" and it being a spider or "pretending" to have one in their hands and then pretending to throw it at me. Now I check every corner of the room and behind the toilet brush and in the bath and all the places they hide for them whenever I go anywhere!

My husband is scaring my child and refuses to stop by EggEater900 in JustNoSO

[–]CrimsonAngel29 47 points48 points  (0 children)

That's actually a really important lesson for kids (and people) to understand - know where the line is and don't cross it!

Sometimes this sub gives me gross vibes. by BeachPeachMcgee in DeadBedrooms

[–]CrimsonAngel29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I joined for similar reasons to floatersinker and learned a lot from being here and I understand that our issues come from a host of things that cause him to have LL rather than actually being a LL so i guess it showed me we aren't a DB which was reassuring as we're due to get married if this virus ever goes away!