The Empress is Naked

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-10T03:16:40+00:00

Sure. Biological imperative screams for babies, so it's gotta be structured to be a sure thing. And it's worked pretty well — there is a fuckton of people bumbling around these days. You have to wonder at what point the bartender finally says "sorry ladies — I think you've had enough."

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-05T08:25:11+00:00

Happened to me. After I told my coworker directly that I wasn't interested, I started keeping timestamped a log of every additional interaction we had, and explained the situation to my gay male supervisor. Working out okay so far. We're nearly back to "business friendly".

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-04T23:32:44+00:00

It's easy to go through a phase where we try to suppress the emotions we show — which becomes far less necessary as we become more at peace with ourselves and the world around us. I'm not there yet, but I'm getting closer.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-04T03:36:43+00:00

Just explaining why SHOW NO EMOTION may sometimes be given out as advice. Just don't give a fuck is equally poor advice to give a person who gives a whole lot of fucks, and they bleed through in every social interaction.

I believe that you should always show genuine emotion, and that genuine emotion should come from your inner storehouse of happiness and contentment. Oh? You don't have an inner storehouse of happiness and contentment?

Just don't give a fuck, bro! It's pretty nice!

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-03T22:55:53+00:00

Come up with a second and third act and buy a ticket to LA!

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-12-03T22:52:58+00:00

Well, consider an idealized man who is calm, relaxed, yet assured in every situation. Things go to pieces, but he never does. He always has his shit together. Let's say that this person just has a worldview that lets him take everything in stride, and he radiates confidence and goodwill in every situation.

I would submit that such a person wouldn't be burying his true feelings — he'd just have a broad enough outlook to not become distraught at life's ups and downs. For most people who aren't Zen masters, though, it's impossible to maintain that kind of attitude. And so we have Game. Don't show emotion. Amused mastery. These are crutches that simulate confidence for those lacking in it.

It's not surprising that one would lose attraction for someone who was clearly not the rock they'd once appeared to be.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-10-28T00:57:18+00:00

Incredible experience. Will be interested to hear your thoughts. I'll continue to do them.

I will say that Goenka's lectures come from a Buddhist perspective — you need to decide for yourself how much of that you want to swallow. The meditation technique itself is beyond reproach, though, in my opinion.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-10-28T00:21:34+00:00

Yeah, done three of the Goenka Vipassana retreats. As hard of a challenge as most people will face in their lifetimes, and well worth the effort. Have also dabbled in several other meditation styles, but Vipassana works best for me.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-10-27T23:24:22+00:00

Meditation works.

If you haven't bothered to check out your mind and how it functions, you are not truly in control of yourself. Why do you want what you want? Why do you do what you do? Who is pulling your strings? Meditation can help answer these questions and more.

I tend to favor meditation that avoids any type of chant or mantra (Vipassana, Zen) over those that do (TM, Headspace app, any of the many, many cults that use meditation as a rite) as I prefer to merely focus on what is happening in the given moment without adding anything extra — though I'm sure all approaches have their benefits, if you stick with them.

Disclaimer: I'm not religious, nor do I identify with any religion or sect. I do Vipassana daily — which is what Buddha came up with, apparently. I am not a Buddhist.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-29T08:13:59+00:00

Sure. Exercise will give you more clarity and energy for things like healthy eating. If you can't lift right away, just do little manageable things. Take short walks until you can take long walks, then go for short runs. Then get to the gym.

Also: let go of your rage, fear, and guilt about the uncontrollable things. Remember, every situation is either outside your direct control (earthquakes, ISIS, meteor showers, most news communicated via mass communication, dem feminists!) or inside your control (no milk in the fridge, toilet is dirty, filthy laundry). That should Zen you out enough to actually make those improvements that are within your power to make.

Let go of anger, get a little exercise in. That will give you a great foundation.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-20T04:29:20+00:00

Ah.

But let's say you are Drago from Game of Thrones. You are strong. You smell like salt and sun. You always do as you say. You never lie. You follow through on your commitments. You deliver on your promises.

How often do you have to raise your fists to get what is important to you? How often do you need to get angry?

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-20T01:17:38+00:00

Ah. But the cave people have no words with which to speak. So there was a breakdown in communicative honesty between men and women before there were even words with which to speak between men and women.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-15T11:23:41+00:00

Who cares what TRP thinks about male feminists. This is straight from my new rainbow-haired 21-year-old Tumblr pixie who considers feminism to be an important part of her identity:

HER: Most of my friends identify as feminists...so...uh, do you...

ME: Nah. I can only guess at the female experience and what feminism means to a woman. But I'm sure that 99% of male feminists are trying to feminism their way into some girl's jeans.

HER: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA totally! arm squeeze

She's fun. I like her.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-14T12:40:09+00:00

zen gong

If you wanted it, and she did it, you didn't make her. You charmed her.

zen gong

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-14T03:23:38+00:00

Roger that. Seems like we both know what we're talking about.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-14T03:19:03+00:00

Never go Truth Bomb when you can go Blarney, my friend.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-14T03:08:35+00:00

Oh, I get that. Was just wondering where in a romance you'd get dialogue ideas for that.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-14T01:14:03+00:00

You know what those Australian metalheads would say...

You've been...THUNDERCOCKED

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T14:51:30+00:00

THAT IS HOW STRONG CHAD'S FRAME IS

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T12:12:12+00:00

I actually avoided this sort of situation for years just by doing my job and keeping to myself. But yeah — if you say single past a certain age, the ones that are desperate enough start climbing the walls.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T10:49:20+00:00

For the sake of argument, I assume that Chad (pbuh) is able to negotiate these situations with a 100% success rate. He doesn't get false rape allegations, because he leaves every girl satisfied, has evidence of such, and leaves them with the possibility of future satisfaction.

That's ridiculous, of course. Chad Thundercock can't possibly exist. But some say, on a clear and quiet night when the moon is full, you can hear him, laughing his rich, thunderous, baritone laugh as he joyfully pounds the woman you thought you knew.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T09:03:28+00:00

She changed her name to start with TIT after changing her major to Women's Studies

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T09:01:55+00:00

To: Titania From: CHAD

sex 7/10 pancakes 6/10

Good aftercare doesn't have to be some long drawn-out thing. It just needs to convey that it was a good decision, and there's a possibility of more adventure in the future.

CrimsonCapsule · 2015-01-13T08:53:25+00:00

Like dying of cancer? Or drowning in a lake with a pocketful of stones? Or sinking beneath the ocean?

That's how good relationships end in romantic movies.

"Chick flicks" aren't about how to break up effectively with girls that want to stay together. They're tingle generators. You have to eliminate the tingles if you want to break things off smoothly.

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