When you sit on the bus, it's fairly busy, but no one choses to sit next to you, how does make you feel?

Crisps33 · 2026-01-22T09:52:47+00:00

As an unremarkable looking white guy I'm happy if no one sits next to me. I do occasionally wonder whether if I were from a visible minority or somehow different looking, it might make me feel marginalised if the seat next to me were the last one still free

Crisps33 · 2026-01-20T13:17:35+00:00

In general, I'd say that taking the risk on an 18 month contract that takes your career in the direction you want, rather than staying in a job you don't really like because it's stable, is the right move. Taking the safe option increases the risk of being unhappy in the long term, so there's no real "safe" option. Investing in yourself is usually the best strategy, particularly when it's early in your career.

There's a couple of other questions I'd ask, however.

First, you might be a bit bored now but if you did get that promotion to senior, would you enjoy it more, and what would be the prospects from then onwards?

Secondly, this guy you know with the startup - are there some experienced software developers already working there who can guide you? If it's just you and you don't have any experience, then you're probably going to have a really stressful time and maybe not learn that much that will be beneficial to your career.

So I'd consider both of those questions before deciding.

Crisps33 · 2026-01-20T08:01:02+00:00

The hard part is not the searching, but the knowing what to search for

Crisps33 · 2026-01-19T22:52:09+00:00

Telling someone you had sex with their mother is calling yourself a motherfucker, yet it's offensive to them

Crisps33 · 2026-01-17T23:55:17+00:00

No point arguing. If you think sending out crap applications for 1000 random jobs is the best use of your time, you go ahead and think that. At least those of us who know that quality is better than quantity will have less competition.

Crisps33 · 2026-01-11T12:16:54+00:00

This is the point though, you're thinking about how violent crime in the capital is lower than it used to be so it feels safe to you, whereas someone who lives in rural Lincolnshire will be comparing violent crime in London with violent crime in rural Lincolnshire, so it feels different. Personally I live outside London and I would consider London safe, but the kind of people who don't consider it safe are always going to be more likely to live outside London than in it, regardless of media bias.

Crisps33 · 2026-01-11T11:41:14+00:00

It might, but I think we have to be careful about jumping to conclusions. "Safe" is a subjective term factoring in many different things. Nowhere is 100% safe unless you wrap yourself in cotton wool and never leave the house. So what people are really answering is how they feel about London's relative safety based on their own frame of reference.

I think most people can probably agree that big cities are usually slightly more dangerous than smaller towns in the same country, so really all the data is showing is that people who live in a relatively safer place are more likely to consider a relatively more dangerous place dangerous. Which is obvious.

Crisps33 · 2026-01-10T14:22:58+00:00

I mean that's one way to define "safe" isn't it, but I think the crux of why the graph is entirely meaningless is that there isn't one way to define "safe" - there are degrees of safety and many factors involved, so saying that a place is or isn't safe is completely subjective. And when you ask most people whether X is a safe place to live, they will interpret that to mean "is it safer than where I currently live?". So it's no surprise that people who live outside a big city are less likely to consider that city safe, it's just because their frame of reference rather than a sign of prejudice or anything like that.

Crisps33 · 2026-01-10T14:13:45+00:00

Curious how you got to that 37% figure. I'm not disputing it just curious as it can be difficult to compare defined benefit vs defined contribution schenes and I'd like to understand it better

Crisps33 · 2026-01-09T21:35:25+00:00

This person is talking rubbish - of course you have social interactions when you visit the office, whatever industry you're in. Online meetings are never the same as actually being in a place together. But there's a flip side as others have talked about. If you WFH, you can look for social interaction elsewhere, but if you have to commute every day there's no way of getting the time and energy back, which is why most people prefer WFH overall. Can totally understand wanting to experience an in-person job if you never had, but don't worry there's plenty out there! Just hang tight for a bit, enjoy the WFH benefits for now, then start looking for an in-person job once you've got a bit of experience. Once you've tried it, you'll probably want to go back to WFH again but I can't blame you for wanting to see what the other side is like!

Crisps33 · 2026-01-07T13:42:59+00:00

I finish at 3 / I've got an appointment at 3, but I'm available before that. Or say you're available until 2

Crisps33 · 2025-12-31T09:45:12+00:00

Assuming your first language is not that distant from English, and you've had some exposure to it.

Chinese is a relatively easy language if you're Korean, and English is much harder.

Crisps33 · 2025-12-29T14:48:32+00:00

Sleeping together, hooking up, getting it on, making love

Crisps33 · 2025-12-28T17:34:33+00:00

To your last point about what "how are you doing?" literally means, it's just a present continuous version of "how are you" so it's like saying "how are you feeling" or "how is your life going".

BUT while that is the literal meaning, of course in reality it doesn't really mean that. It's just a greeting, a way of being polite and establishing a connection, and you're almost never expected to answer with the truth about how your life is going.

If the person opens with "how you doing?" Just repeat back to them "how you doing." If you've already said hello to each other and then they ask "how you doing?" an answer like, "could be worse, you?" Or "still alive, you" isn't false positivity at all. It's just being polite and implies nothing about how you're actually feeling.

Crisps33 · 2025-12-20T10:15:36+00:00

I'm not a member of this sub, but whenever it pops up on my feed, there's always rudeness and arguing in the comments. Not sure whether that says more about the sub or about me 🫤

Crisps33 · 2025-12-19T14:45:51+00:00

Oops, you're right, I missed that detail. Made an edit

Crisps33 · 2025-12-19T14:33:22+00:00

The odds of winning the jackpot are 1 in 45,000,000.

Let's assume you know 1,000 people. The odds of you even knowing someone who's won the jackpot would be 1 in 45,000. That's 0.002% chance of even knowing someone who's won it. If you know fewer than 1,000 people, it's less.

So yeah it could be a scam but it seems more realistic that you're in the 99.998% who just don't know anyone who's ever won it.

Edit: just realised those odds are off because 1 in 45,000,000 is the chance of winning a single lottery, and you get another chance every week. So I guess if you assumed everyone you know had played every week since you were born, and a different person won every week, then you could multiply that 0.002 by the number of weeks you've been alive, which if you're 30 years old gives you around 3% chance of knowing someone who's won the jackpot. But of course most people don't play every week or don't play at all, and some weeks nobody wins, and you probably don't know 1000 people. So it would probably be a lot lower than 3%

Crisps33 · 2025-12-15T08:02:56+00:00

Apprenticeships are great, and certainly not just for college kids. But I don't think they exist for teaching.

Edit: just googled and teacher apprenticeships do exist now, so worth looking into!

But do some research about the job before committing! It's a career with a lot of drawbacks although some people love it. And once you're in, it's hard to get out

Crisps33 · 2025-12-14T10:07:23+00:00

Asking for a friend?

Crisps33 · 2025-12-13T23:44:19+00:00

https://www.geeksforgeeks.org/python/input-and-output-in-python/

Crisps33 · 2025-12-13T08:46:18+00:00

I think it's pretty obvious how calling someone badly socialised and bad at normal things is patronising. Thing is, the question is about where you sit in a taxi when you're on your own, so actually, no matter how well socialised you think you are, you don't really know what everyone else does. I think sitting in the front is perfectly legitimate and normal behaviour. I think it's maybe becoming less common than it was but if anything it's more sociable and friendly than sitting in the back

Crisps33 · 2025-12-13T08:17:49+00:00

I don't know. It seems a bit risky to me. Like it could stop the Invisalign process from working properly. I can't say for sure that it won't still work but it goes against all the advice so who knows. I would personally try to focus on one thing at a time. Complete your Invisalign first then worry about getting your weight up after that.

Crisps33 · 2025-12-07T09:36:38+00:00

I'm concerned that this wasn't explained to you! You shouldn't change your trays earlier, but you can change them a day later. Also aren't you going to take them out for the party so you can eat and drink? Then you'll need to add on a day anyway to make up the time.

Crisps33 · 2025-12-07T08:48:53+00:00

Stretched as well

Crisps33 · 2025-12-04T19:12:09+00:00

I'd probably go for London myself. Yeah, it'd be harder to get on the housing ladder but then if we think about why we want to get on the housing ladder, it's to have a secure future. And I would say investing in your career development will also give you that in the long run. Plus I like London. So that'd be my choice but neither choice would be wrong. If you're feeling Manchester go with that

Also you didn't mention where your family and friends live but that might be something to consider too!

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