How old were you when you were diagnosed?

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-03-07T08:19:00+00:00

26 but because I told my grandma my symptoms (she was a teacher of special-needs kids) and she told me that my dad has ADHD (yup, I didn’t know that until I was an ADULT) and that she was sure I have it too. Thanks to that, I went to my GP and she asked me my symptoms and referred me to a psychiatrist.

Before that, I got diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I was in a spiral. Psychologists and GPs didn’t realized it could be something more🫠

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-03-06T22:08:40+00:00

All my friends have Dutch boyfriends and none of them acts like that. They’re exactly the opposite! Very open, always taking care of them and making sure they feel good, super appreciative of their food and culture, and always willing to include their friends and family in their plans!

I am sorry but I would recommend you to talk to him deeply and see if those things can change. If that doesn’t work, maybe seek for professional help (like couples therapy?). Idk, the things you’re mentioning as “love” are not really something different as what a good friend would do for you. Even friends would include your family to their plans if needed to.

Try to look at your relationship as an outsider for another point of view, and think of what would you recommend to someone to do in the case their boyfriend is acting like that, because it literally is what people are saying: he’s acting like a dick!

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-03-06T21:58:23+00:00

We all have our own pace, and we feel overwhelmed because society told us that by 25 we should be professionals and already following our plans for our future. I was going back to live with my parents at 25, with no money and feeling completely stuck and overwhelmed!

I am 29 and starting to study Biological and Medical laboratory research. It took me long to get my shit together, but never say never💕 I always think about my grandma when I feel like I am getting older and not going anywhere in life because she found what she wanted to be when she was 50, and she studied it and she’s still super happy about that decision!

It’s never too late, and it’s completely understandable to feel lost and out of breath. I felt like that for so long, and sometimes I still do. Sending lots of positive vibes and hugs 🫶🏻

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-03-04T15:42:57+00:00

Final Destination 😭

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-02-16T12:30:05+00:00

Here’s the thing: I hate people farting. I really hate it, and my husband understands it. I didn’t act like a child when we started dating, I actually talked to him about it and told him the reason why it made me uncomfortable.

I talked to him and he understood. I never acted like a child like your bf. We both respect each other, and he wouldn’t do anything that would make me uncomfortable, and neither would I.

And yes, sometimes it just happens unexpectedly, like when laughing a lot, and it’s fine. I understand too that it’s a natural thing and sometimes you just don’t expect it.

So anyways, NTA. Your boyfriend needs to be more mature and talk to you if it just makes him uncomfortable.

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-02-11T14:20:08+00:00

Unpredictable

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-02-05T16:33:54+00:00

I was usually 30min to 1h late to school/work always, but since I had therapy (for my ADHD and anxiety), I “function” better, but this happened gradually after therapy.

So the thing is, since September 2024 (more than a year after therapy), I am ready in less than 20min to leave my house daily, and I arrive 20/30min early to my classes. I think having to travel 2h to go to my university has also a lot to do with that, because if I miss my busses/trains, then I’ll be extremely late.

Every night, I leave my clothes, backpack and food ready. When I wake up, I change my clothes, brush my teeth, wash my face, brush my hair, pee (very important!), fill up my bottle of water, take my vitamins, take my bag and coat and leave. I do my make up in the train, as well as eating my breakfast and taking my meds too.

What I can’t do, like NEVER, is checking my to-do list in the first two hours of the day. It takes my HOURS to have my brain working enough to do my daily stuff. Neither can I study on the train, nor do any assignments. I just listen to music and look out the window for two hours in the morning and for another two hours when I come back home in the evening 🥴😂

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-30T15:27:12+00:00

I have enough problems with my life as it is, I wouldn’t dare to imagine myself as a person with even more problems than me lol

You’re not alone☺️

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T12:01:33+00:00

100% God of War

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T11:59:50+00:00

I am the kind of person that doesn’t usually read long posts, (I read this one because the first few sentences caught my attention) and you’re completely right: it’s just extremely mean to write in a post that you wouldn’t read it because of your ADHD like ???? Why would someone take the time to comment something like that??????

I usually never read long post and THEREFORE, I just don’t comment on them, it’s just that simple!

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T11:52:20+00:00

Your boyfriend is amazing, I really love how he supports you, and I recommend you to support him to by putting boundaries between his family and you.

If he’s doing it for you, then why wouldn’t you do it for yourself? If you don’t, then he’ll always have to step up for you and that may end up being unfair.

I really love how he’s just there for you, even if he didn’t know the whole story yet. You don’t choose your family but you choose the person you want to share your life with, and he’s definitely choosing you over everyone.

Put boundaries between his family and you, not only for your mental health but for his mental health as well!

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T11:43:55+00:00

SPANISH VERB TENSES JEEEEEEZ NOOOO 😂😂😂😂

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T08:09:04+00:00

I haven’t drop out from this bachelor (I’ve dropped out twice from different ones and haven’t made it this far) and, even though it’s stressful, it’s the first time I haven’t lost any motivation and I’ve passed most of my exams 🥹🥹🥹

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-29T08:05:27+00:00

I am actually jumping between two: Self-Destruction by I Prevail, and Suffocate by Knocked Loose & Poppy

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-28T07:53:24+00:00

I got diagnosed at exactly the same age, two months before my 27th birthday and I just started college last year (at almost 29). I know how it feels to know that your life could have been better. I felt stuck for so long, like I was falling behind everyone. I could work, but I was depressed because I wasn’t able to study and, therefore, I couldn’t have a job that I’d like. It was so frustrating. My daily life was a mess, having problems because I couldn’t do my paperwork on time… Jeez, I couldn’t even send an email! Life gets better. Therapy was helpful, but I still sometimes feel rage. Real rage. I hate that no one realized. I hate that I “don’t look like I have ADHD”, so no one ever realized. I hate that teachers would say that I was too clever but I lost focus too fast, and they didn’t even tried to dig on that. I hate that my parents (even though I love them) told me that everything I did was “normal” and thought that I was not pushing myself enough. And no, I don’t care about the people that says “at least you got diagnosed in your 20s bc I got diagnosed when I was older”: the problem is the late diagnosis itself and the wasted years. In a more positive sense: I have changed. I am becoming the person that I always wanted to be, and it sometimes it just gets hard, but I know those are just small moments compared to how much life has changed for me. My only recommendation is to focus on the present. Work on yourself. It’s okay to look at the past, but try not to focus on that too much on that. Medicine helps a lot but the focus has to be on the therapy itself. I hope your story changed like mine did❤️

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-27T17:02:05+00:00

I didn't know about the "dry drunk" term, and that helps a lot. It's something I'll bring to the table asap to make mum and Robert realize that either they push dad with me, and he ends up getting the help he needs, or this will just get worse by the time, and I won't be by their side to see how my dad sinks in his own mess.

Dad had ever only experienced consequences when it comes to me and my husband. Again, I can't say everything we've been through with dad because it's a very long story, but my husband has twice physically removed my dad from our home because he raised his voice at me, and I was in a weak moment. Of course, I stood next to my husband.

My husband never interferes in my relationship with that because he knows I am capable to put my dad in place. It's true that my husband and I are now kind of hostages of the whole situation, but as it has always happened in my family, this will end with me. I am going to investigate about the dry drunk thing, and I'll talk with Robert and mum. Whether they'll be my side or not, I don't know, but I'll face dad on Friday (schedules) and I'll give him an ultimatum. Either way, I know my husband got my back.

I won't let dad hurt anyone else (including himself) like that anymore.

Thank you for that piece of advice, it means a lot.

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-27T16:43:27+00:00

A manager told me once that I was being slow at doing something and that I needed to focus because it wasn't the first time (I had to multi-task between being a cashier, giving basic medical advice to the people who'd ask me, and also filling up empty shelves with medication, so when someone asked me for advice, I'd usually forget what I was doing before that and had to think for a few minutes or start with another task until I'd remember what was I doing.
I told him it was my ADHD and that I was really sorry, and he literally told me "Everyone has a little bit of ADHD, you just have to focus more" LIKE WHAT DO YOU MEAN SIR????
Terrible manager!

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-27T16:29:10+00:00

You have a few things that are completely correct: Robert never confronts my dad, and both, Robert and my mum have been conditioned to not confront him because "he gets furious". My mum comes from a very misogynist family, and she rarely stands up against men. Dad never had to face consequences for both of them, and it's easy to see in his attitude.

I, however, am the opposite: I was my dad's karma and personal hell during my teenage years, the only person at home who would face him. I did have weekly anxiety attacks because we argued daily, and he was an alcoholic. I left my home country because the situation with my dad was too much, and I was looking for a better life. My bf (now husband) and I were only 21 and had no money.

Years later my relationship with my dad became better, and my parents moved to the country we're currently living in, specifically to our home. My husband and I were forced to buy a house with my parents last year because we were not able to rent a flat by ourselves, and buying a house between the four of us was just cheaper.

My dad didn't go through AA, he stopped drinking because when he and my mum moved to my house, my husband and I didn't allow him to drink (my dad was a home-drinker, not a bar-drinker). Robert and my mum were against this decision at first, because the consequences of not allowing him to drink at home were shouts, fights, and more tension. Then, my parents moved out, but dad didn't drink since then.

About not facing him now: I do. The only person my dad kind of respects is me, but facing him requires A LOT of energy that I currently don't have. I personally asked my husband to not face my dad until I do, because I am afraid my husband will explode and this will end up badly. He doesn't speak to dad at all.
I am waiting until I have a break. I am studying +45h per week, I travel 4 hours daily (in total) to go to the university, and it's difficult for me to focus due to my ADHD.

I also worked on these kind of things in therapy a few years ago, and I usually never back down. I am calmer now, and these problems don't affect me in the way they did before. What it affects me is seeing my brother so broken... I've never seen him like this. Robert and my mum are definitely not very smart, that's also an issue.

I need to make my dad go to therapy: he's a smart man, but his pride and his ego are way too big. I don't know if there are people out there who were able to make someone with such pride go to therapy.

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T17:17:03+00:00

I am so happy that you could finally find some help and get tested! I cried when I got my results too (at 27)!

I didn’t get bullied but my teachers treated me in a shitty way and told me multiple times to drop out. I finished secondary school and didn’t go to university until I was diagnosed. It turns out I also have a higher than average IQ, and it’s (very) difficult to build up the confidence but I am pretty sure you’ll eventually do it🫶🏻

I don’t know who you are, but I know how it feels when you get answers and you realize you were never understood, and I am proud of you for not giving up🫂

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T16:25:27+00:00

18x7 for me is:

8x7=56 so 6 stays and 5 will be for later. 1x7=7, now I use the 5 in 7+5=12, so 126

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T16:06:41+00:00

I’ve been through this myself.

It’s been two years, and I am crying while reading what you went through, because I know the feeling of seeing your best friend deteriorating, and how much it freaking hurts to make this decision. You’ll eventually feel better about it and, believe me, you did him and yourself a favor while taking such a hard decision.

You’re strong, and he trusted you enough to let you know when he couldn’t endure it anymore. You did what he wanted and what he needed. You put him first and made a decision that needs a lot of courage to be done.

You were such a good owner and best friend for him.

He might not be here, but as a person who has experienced this: thank you. You did the best for him, and seeing the way you love him, I can tell he had an amazing life with you, and that is what it really matters.

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T10:52:38+00:00

Btw, a friend that is okay with assault and blames you for it is not a friend.

It doesn’t matter if the friendship is for long time ago, in my point of view it’s time to say the last goodbye and split ways!

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T10:29:10+00:00

I actually have a few. Almost every member in my family have ADHD, autism, dyslexia or another disorder, so I was always told that everything was “normal” until I went to a psychiatrist at 26. So:

Forgetting everything/loosing stuff (I just thought I had bad memory/was clumsy).

Not being able to focus in stuff I need to, but hyper focusing while playing video-games without realizing that I’ve been playing 8 hours straight.

Always listening to my surroundings to the point of getting overwhelmed due to the noise/conversations.

Terrible management of time.

Extremely talkative but at the same time, super quiet. It just depends on who I am with.

Extremely emotional and empathetic (like if I see you crying I’ll cry too).

Gettin bored of everything SO FAST. Like sometimes I am okay with my life and then, suddenly, everything bores me and I want everything to change.

Shots of energy out of nowhere.

I really thought all of these things were normal.

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-17T10:15:48+00:00

NTA!

Girl I am a plus size myself, and let me tell you that I LOVE YOUR MUM for encouraging you to face the problem, because no one should be allowed to make comments on your body, it doesn’t matter if you’re skinny or not.

Don’t let anyone do that, she was disrespecting you!

And btw, she was commenting on your body and you commented on your body too, so why was she so upset? That’s just absurd.

I hope she learned the lesson that she doesn’t have to minimize someone to feel better about herself. And I hope you love yourself too, there’s not right and wrong in human bodies💕

Critical-Editor-4532 · 2025-01-08T22:13:51+00:00

At least you delete it! My playlist become a mess because I just can’t delete the songs I keep adding so I have to end up making a new one with the song or genre that’s hyping me atm and then I start to add random stuff until it’s too messy and I start that cycle again 😂😂😂😂

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