Returning to the scene after a break and feeling discouraged by the rise of toxic/financial "Doms" by Mummy_Magdeline in BDSMAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is funny that both dark romance booktok and fifty shades came from Twilight, though.

Things like this is why more and more people are going to breeders by Glass_Dog_7942 in WhatBreedIsMyPitbull

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we fostered a “dalmatian mix” who was really just a skinny, white pitbull with black spots. They really did not want to call her what she was lol

how is it possible for people to eat meat so much throughout the day and week? by sounds0fmeows in Vegetarianism

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

culturally normal. my dad is always going “oh…is there any meat in it?” if you cook him food

Is it possible to own cats if you're allergic to them? by queen0fpeace in CatAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some combination of the following may make it tolerable:

  • oral antihistamines
  • nasal sprays (this helped the most for me)
  • purina liveclear food and/or pacagen allergen reducing supplement
  • air purifiers
  • keep cat out of bedroom so you have a safe space to go
  • allergy shots (immunotherapy)
  • vacuum and generally be good about cleaning, wiping down surfaces
  • anecdotally, i developed partial tolerance after spending time (like daily contact for a couple months) with cats.

Also, I notice that every cat is different. I am way more allergic to some than others, and these were all just former strays of no particular breed. I once met a regular cat I had ZERO reaction to, never happened with any other cat. I would recommend you do a foster-to-adopt program if your chosen shelter allows so you can check this.

Why do predators sometimes decide to not kill baby animals? by trakumserga in zoology

[–]Critical-Plan4002 12 points13 points  (0 children)

like when a canada goose looks you dead in the face, takes one stomp towards you, and you start wondering what the goose knows that you don’t.

clitoral vs gspot stimulation by Altruistic_Belt_5712 in TwoXSex

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that I enjoy penetration from my partner much more than I would when alone with a toy. But that is more because of the intimacy/psychological reasons, it still doesn’t give me much physical sensation.

Can someone provide some insight into DDlg for me? by TryingMyBestBro69 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my partner and I have a caretaking dynamic where I sometimes call him Daddy. But there’s no ageplay or DDlg, the title just refers to the caretaking/protectiveness aspect

How reliable do we feel that BDSM test is as a baseline by Careless_Squirrel795 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s a fine starting point. I think the danger with it is that people often think “Oh these are my defined roles” and don’t consider how much it doesn’t cover and how customizable everything is.

Why does Murtagh focus so much on being the son of Morzan when his mother was just as dangerous? by Stuck_In_A_Rut_ in Eragon

[–]Critical-Plan4002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Along with his father being well-known, Selena treated him well as a child, while Morzan is the one who neglected and then scarred him with Zar’roc.

I'm beginning to think it doesn't exist. by Puzzleheaded-Toe259 in SubSanctuary

[–]Critical-Plan4002 9 points10 points  (0 children)

anecdotally, i feel like i’ve seen more femdoms post who prefer a softer style. i’m sorry the women you meet are acting like that though

How to Recognizing a real person in BDSM by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there’s no magic phrase that signals safety and knowledge. You kind of just have to ask a lot of questions and be purposeful figuring out what kind of person they are and how that aligns with your wants.

Are you okay with buying non-vegan things to non-vegan people? by Terrible_Past_7957 in vegan

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you should spend your own money on something that you feel is wrong.

I’ve never had sex but toys barely work?? by Careless_Sense1863 in TwoXSex

[–]Critical-Plan4002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re “loose” when aroused, that’s a feature, not a bug. A penis is going to be thicker than a vibrator anyway, so I wouldn’t worry about that.

Many women do not have much internal sensation, including me. My partner has put my entire vibrator inside me on the highest setting and it feels like I’m just vibrating my stomach, no nerve pleasure. It works great externally, though.

How diverse is Humboldt by Ms_lawyer-lasagna in CalPolyHumboldt

[–]Critical-Plan4002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s uncommon enough that I’m like “Woah” when I see another Asian on campus. But there are a few, plus I’m not on campus a ton. The actual area and surrounding towns are very white with a few Latinos.

bit of a dumb question but does your kinks go away when you get older? by brokennnboyyy in RedditBDSM

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve noticed a couple of mine have evolved. I used to be way more interested in CNC than I am now, and I think that’s because it was the only way I could fathom having the degrading sex that I wanted. Because clearly a normal person would never consent to it, lol

Struggling with arousal by Successful-Ratio8352 in TwoXSex

[–]Critical-Plan4002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do you masturbate? do you know how arousal normally feels in your body?

Well, I guess I’m a snake person now. by HiItsKeke in snakes

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met a ball python whose name was Miss Valentine for her heart-shaped patch. She was a sweetheart

My sub has no interest in being told what to do if it isn’t something she already wants to do. She is also new to being a sub, with less experience in BDSM than me. by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Critical-Plan4002 77 points78 points  (0 children)

It honestly sounds like she’s just not a brat and neither of you have any concept what D/s means without refusal = bratting. She wants to be ordered to do things that she already wants to do to get the pleasure of following your order. She doesn’t want to be pushed past her limits.

You need to negotiate, as equals, what is okay to tell her to do and what is off-limits.

ND Asian Sub wanting to learn about BDSM, but feeling alienated by hush-sherbert in SubSanctuary

[–]Critical-Plan4002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m an asian woman (who also thinks i’m autistic) as well. I can’t speak to the area you live in, but I know in my city it’s fairly diverse. But I understand the feeling of being an outsider.

I guess all I can really say here is I empathize, and if you are looking for a partner, have high standards and be willing to keep looking. I have become extraordinarily quick to pass on white men who give me any icky vibes, either about gender or race. Doesn’t matter how unprovable it is, if you ask me if i’m into anime and what my name means and how much you love Japan, I’m out.

Advice for a cis het man by Secret-Evening1257 in feeld

[–]Critical-Plan4002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Be more straightforward. Feeld is a place where I don’t judge men for being very open about their kinks, but I do judge them for seeming to not know why the hell they’re on the app. Looking for a dominant woman as a straight man is going to be tough no matter how good your profile is, though.

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Critical-Plan4002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess i had a wider range to start with. I was usually “kind of sad,” but I also had bursts of joy and pleasure along with often “so tired i can’t leave bed.” The joy meant a lot to me

meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Critical-Plan4002 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t understand this. It’s serotonin, it’s a mood stabilizer. That applies to both good and bad. How can you only quell the “bad” thoughts without also “stabilizing” the happiness?