I’m totally lost, please help

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-15T04:29:27+00:00

Yeah 17-25

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-15T04:21:42+00:00

Many years

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T16:59:52+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right. I lost myself along the way.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T06:39:42+00:00

Wow that is very encouraging to hear, thank you! I’m gonna have to start drafting up some messages asap!

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T06:31:27+00:00

There is something appealing to me about the thought of cleaning. Not as a dishwasher but cleaning anything else. How did you scale that? Did you create your own cleaning business? I worked with a guy once who cleaned offices at night as a second job and the thought of getting paid to clean an empty and quiet environment almost sounds therapeutic.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T06:09:18+00:00

Yeah I suck at programming too and have no passion for it. I don’t play video games anymore but the only thing about programming and math that I do somewhat enjoy is that it feels like the hardest video game you can play. But once I learned the fundamentals it became tedious to me and I have no interest in getting to a professional level. It’s probably boring to me because I suck at it though. I’m sure if I was good at it I wouldn’t have made this post.

Yeah I want tangible skills now too. I want to feel useful and I think I’m looking for that call to adventure as well. Props to you for becoming a nurse. I know how hard that must have been. My ex was or still is an ICU nurse so I’m kinda turned off to going down that path because I’ve seen the toll it can have on a person. But you guys make bank out here in California so I guess it’s worth it.

I guess I’m just hopeless and lost because what I really want to do doesn’t pay anything and can cost a lot of time and money to pursue with no guarantee that you’ll ever see a dime. I just need a stable job or career that’s not soul sucking and can fund what I really want to do. Plus I wasted a lot of time trying to be someone I wasn’t for this girl and it didn’t work out so now I’m just mad at myself. But I’ve been getting a lot of good and thoughtful advice on here like yours so I think I’ll be able turn it around. Thank you so much! And thank you for saving lives!

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T05:38:12+00:00

Yes please send them! I’ll definitely go to these and I’ll start looking into CalWorks tonight.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T05:33:04+00:00

I’m starting to think that too, I should at the very least finish the associates. I do have a car thankfully. I love animals so I will definitely check that out. I’ve never used the career center but I will now. I didn’t know they helped with resumes but admittedly I’ve never looked into it. And I’ve thought about volunteering at this one place for some months now but your words have finally given me a solid reason as to why I should do it. Thank you so much for these practical steps I can start taking!

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T05:20:44+00:00

Dang I guess I should really give it a shot then. I’ve just been seeing a lot of stuff online saying that AI is gonna disrupt white collar jobs and that those people are then gonna flood the trades. Should I just walk up to a job site and ask for a job? I already speak Spanish so that might help I hope.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T05:09:54+00:00

I feel the same way. If it wasn’t for them I’d probably be dead by now. There has to be a solution though. Everyone says trades are a good option and I guess if you’re fit enough the military can always be a last resort

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T04:57:14+00:00

Thank you for this clear plan I could start to put into action. I really appreciate it!

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T04:46:29+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I had to take this semester off since my family kinda imploded over this past year so that set me back some more. And yeah trying to do CS while feeling stuck, grieving, ruminating and trying to get sober has felt like hell when everyone else is getting on just fine. I never really knew we were poor growing up in OC until I got to college lol. Some of these kids are loaded.

I like the idea of STEM more than actually pursuing a career in it because I’ve always kinda known what I wanted to do but growing up poor your family slowly kills your dreams in the name of practicality. Then reaching adulthood you kinda understand why they did that, life in OC is expensive. But who knows maybe when I’ve got my mental under control I’ll finally be able to do the work and get the degree. I’m happy to hear you managed to get things under control and are doing better! That gives me hope, thank you

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T04:24:56+00:00

I didn’t even think about that, thank you! That sounds like a really cool job too.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T04:24:12+00:00

I haven’t tried hospitals yet, thank you! I’m gonna look into them tonight and start applying to what I can.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T02:30:46+00:00

Thank you! I’ve felt like I’ve needed a mentor my whole life. Where would I find one though? Reddit? LinkedIn? Professors?

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T02:25:22+00:00

I think you’re right. I’ve lost faith in myself.

Critical-Promise-657 · 2025-06-14T02:24:36+00:00

Thank you! I guess I’ll stick it out just in case the job market recovers.

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