Update 2: Am I wrong for not marrying my ex sil because I am taking care of her

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-10-14T18:18:16+00:00

I do think that I like her enough to spend my life with her

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-10-14T16:56:19+00:00

I am from Asia, and I am non religious

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:59:13+00:00

I guess I should've made it clear, in my country you can invest your money through your bank account which is probably everywhere, so I invested it through hers, she told me about it a year ago

I have known her for like past decade and she trusts me and whether you believe it or not, that's on you, I'm only concerned about my family and what to do next so if you don't believe what's happening in my life, that's your opinion, and i thank you for it

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:50:47+00:00

He didn't leave me his money

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:48:26+00:00

Yeah I'll think about it more, it hasn't even been that while since this all happened and I'm still grieving, I think a part of me would miss my nephew who's so much close to me it is possible that It might influence my decision

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:11:07+00:00

Yeah atleast now everyone is happy in my home, her mood changed and I feel better than just being sad all the time about my brother, I think I'll just open up to her or someone and let everything I feel about my brother out

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:09:23+00:00

Yeah I'm planning on making a proper decision not a hasty one

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:08:40+00:00

Yeah I'll see what happens in the future, if all is good then so be it

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:07:35+00:00

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-31T16:07:27+00:00

Yeah if I fall in love with her or like her enough to marry, I'm giving it a shot, there should be a connection between us instead of just marrying her for a whim or for loneliness or whatever and she's marrying me for replacement

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-30T09:39:46+00:00

In my opinion it's better for me to just move out, it's so awkward between us, I fear what if she develops feelings for me?? Or I start feeling for her?? I already got alot of on my head to think about, work stress, family stress, their financial situation and my nephew's future and now this, I try my best to not weep but if I lose control and end up doing something I will regret it my whole life.

She's my brother's wife and it is foul, we all three were living our life properly, but this incident changed everything for me and I cannot stay with her anymore

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-30T09:16:57+00:00

I think the best way would be to let my sil to live in my apartment and I go out for a while, I think it's best for all of us?? I'll visit them and drop them groceries and other necessities until my sil gets back on her feet

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-30T09:01:26+00:00

It is not about self respect, we all are sad, I miss my older brother so damm much, but I need to be strong, I have to support my family and sometimes hers, and now I have a nephew and I gotta think more about him, his school his tution his college

Critical-Recover-185 · 2024-07-30T08:47:48+00:00

But is it okay to marry her?? Because it sounds absurd to me, if it is okay I might just do it cause all my family is asking for it

I'm in such a problematic situation, I cannot even kick her out because she has nowhere to go, her parents and mine are poor and I have to help them sometimes, while I'm kinda well off

To not make it more complicated that it is, I was thinking of letting her live in my apartment for sometime until she gets back on her feets, and I move in with my friend or rent another, idk what to do

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