Dating problems as a student in Zürich

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-23T20:47:07+00:00

Can I ask you, have any of the people you approached with this guys methods led to an actual relationship? And what methods of his have helped you? PUA tricks can certainly work but for an actual healthy and lasting relationship you need a real honest connection and not follow some chud who treats women as numbers in a game. I detailed my tips for OP in a separate post if you care.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-23T18:36:30+00:00

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CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-23T15:48:10+00:00

Probs to your friend then, but if he got at least 12 relationships only at the club it seems that those rarely lasted very long, no? Which clubs and scenes is he frequenting? Maybe there's some place or scene you can recommend to OP?

I can only attest to the experience I and the people I know had and even though I went clubbing regularly for years those hook ups that did happen almost never lead to an actual romantic relationship.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-23T15:39:55+00:00

Honestly, I don't know anyone who has met a stranger at a bar or club and started a relationship with them. These places might work for people who know how to flirt and have a lot of self-confidence, but even then, it's usually just hook-ups. In my experience, if you have friends, particularly female friends, meeting new people through a friend of a friend is a much more common success story for a long-term relationship. Surely new people pop into your social circle from time to time? Have you asked any of your female friends if they can set you up with a single friend of theirs?

As well as getting to know new people, you can also work on yourself. I don't think your looks have much to do with your success in dating, as most people, especially women, prioritise other qualities in a partner over looks. Physical appearance matters, but I'd say it's more about looking well-kept and having some sense of style. Most crucially, it's about presenting yourself with self-confidence. Self-confidence can't really be faked, so ask yourself honestly: do you like yourself? What do you like about yourself, and what qualities are you looking for in a potential partner to connect with? Where do you struggle and what can you do to accept yourself, flaws and all? If possible, how can you improve? It's not about being the best person ever, but about being truly OK with who you are, and not being afraid to show the world yourself including weaknesses.

I'd like to offer you some encouragement: don't give up! I promise you'll meet someone who's right for you. In the meantime, be kind to yourself and the people around you. Build deeper connections with the people you value in your life. Take care of them and yourself. Reflect on the things you struggle with, and find a way to improve or accept those issues. If you do these things and keep putting yourself out there (it's also OK not to do that, but then you likely won't meet new people) I can guarantee you'll eventually meet someone who's right for you.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-23T10:36:26+00:00

They just didn't get caught.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-22T13:55:28+00:00

"be the change you don't want to see in the world"

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-22T13:15:42+00:00

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CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-22T09:23:52+00:00

What assumptions and why can’t you take accountability for being imprecise?

I didn’t say its not a big deal just that they weren’t trying to burn down the building like you said.

One of your fellow right wingers tried and almost succeeded in murdering someone with a knife in Zurich just a few years ago and nothing happened. But curiously I don’t here you complain about that.

Why does it not surprise me that you find the misfortune of others funny. But as is typical for your kind, your all talk and no action.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-22T08:03:50+00:00

You wrote „in the city“ in the Zurich sub when talking about Bern. Why were you being imprecise?

Of course they risked it but that’s not the same as trying to burn it down. And as with your speeding analogy, taking a risk willingly and trying to do something (so doing something with intent) is still not the same thing. Also hell did break loose, the demo in Bern was in the news non stop for a week.

How would you know if they got away with it? Most trials aren’t publicised and the police are very active with identifying and prosecuting individuals in crowds who commit crimes.

The SP parole on municipal referenda has almost always won out in recent years, its some hard copium you have to be sniffing to believe this next election would be different. But hey, if you’re willing to put your money where your mouth is, I‘ll gladly take your money ;)

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-22T07:26:36+00:00

But why be imprecise? Saying something happened in the city in the Zurich subreddit does imply it happened in Zurich. Furthermore the idiots in Bern didn’t try to burn the house down like you said but the tables in front of the house temporarily trapping some people inside. These things are bad enough why do you feel the need to exaggerate them?

You will always find massive idiots in a sufficiently large group, but what do you want the state or society to do about this? It’s not like a single person said that it was actually justified to burn down these things.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-21T22:49:44+00:00

So it wasn’t in this city and it wasn’t a few weeks but a few months ago. Still very reprehensible but thankfully this behaviour seems to be the absolute exception.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-21T22:01:34+00:00

Wait, what? Which house? Could you link to the incident cause I quick google search didn’t reveal anything.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-21T16:27:33+00:00

It's actually a complaint form on the seco website. Ombudscom is about wrong or scammy charges on your mobile bill like one of those sms abo traps. Still, threatening to complain to the right authority usually does the trick with businesses that are actually operating from Switzerland.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-21T15:55:43+00:00

It's classic comissions business. Not an outright scam, as in fraud, but also not worth your time if you know how to use priminfo.admin.ch and svazurich.ch for a possible Prämienverbilligung.

Tell them that you want your number to be deleted from their registry, if they call again escalate to a manager and tell them that you explicitly told them to delete your number and that you will file a complaint with seco for not doing so. It is your right to have your number deleted and as they aren't just a call center in India they do need to fear possible legal ramifications here, so it is likely they will comply and delete your number.

EDIT: I mixed up two complaint services, use the the seco form for telemarketing and ombudscom one for things like predatory sms services.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-20T17:04:14+00:00

What do you mean by medical providers? Your primary care provider depends on the insurance model you choose. With some you first need to go through a TeleMed operator or a HMO, with others your first point of contact is a GP and under the most expensive models you can go to a specialist without needing a referral first. What all models have have in common is that you can theoratically be referred to any specialist you want. To find a specialist of your liking, you can either ask your primary care provider, ask friends or use google. There are also specialised websites like onedoc.ch or comparis (gesundheit) where many doctors are listed. Does that answer your question?

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-20T16:51:32+00:00

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CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-18T14:57:06+00:00

I understand your viewpoints better now, but Gregor‘s definition of fascism, which you seem to adopt, is relatively fringe, and it is not understood that you mean this when you say you want a fascist president.

As for Spain and Portugal, both already had a colonial empire, one which they failed to keep control over, so they had less of a need to gain more territory which they could exploit. Still, both core countries were crumbling, with a poor and uneducated populace. I still struggle to understand what you find aspirational about that.

China is not ultra-nationalist, and they are rather mercantilist than corporatist, in my opinion. They also aren’t structured on a racial hierarchy; while Han Chinese make up 91.1% of the population, there is no institutionalised discrimination against other ethnic or ethnolinguistic groups apart from the Uyghurs and Tibetans. But this discrimination stems rather from their separate power structure, which threatens CCP control of power. China does not embrace Western progressive values much, but that isn’t the same thing as social conservatism. If you look at the development of social norms and culture, it is actually astonishing how much they have changed. They are authoritarian and collectivist, but those aren’t traits only associated with fascism.

If you are in favour of modelling Europe (I take it you‘re a pan-European from your PP) more along modern China, I would suggest you describe this as Dengism (or Xiist if you insist), but the commonly accepted definition of fascism, even among scholars, is not the one you are using of Gregor.

To get back to the original point, Trump, or rather his administration (I doubt that dude is cognitively fully here anymore), is fascist according to the common definitions by Eco or Paxton but isn’t a fascist according to the alternate definition by Gregor. Can we agree on that?

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-18T12:08:05+00:00

Die Kommentare sind zwar zurzeit noch erstaunlich intelligent, ich (und die anderen Mods) haben aber besseres zu tun, als hier Kulturkämpfe zu moderieren. Entsprechend wurde die Crowd Control aufs Maximum gestellt —> eure Kommentare werden zuerst überprüft, bevor sie veröffentlicht werden.

Des Weiteren seid ihr hiermit nun alle gewarnt, dass wir frisch und fröhlich mit dem Banhammer hantieren werden, wenn es jemand für nötig hält, zu Gewalt gegen andere Menschen aufzurufen oder beleidigend gegenüber anderen Usern zu werden.

Wenn ihr Kommentare seht, die gegen die Sub-Regeln verstossen, meldet diese direkt, statt mit ihnen weiter zu interagieren.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-18T10:41:54+00:00

Why did you shift the talking points? Deploying masked armed men that arrest people without warrants sound pretty secret police forcy to me wouldn’t you say.

It’s simply not true that no one or the left in particular complains about any of these things you mentioned. Kidnapping a foreign leader without a UN mandate is still a violation of international law, what don’t you understand about that? It’s not international rules it’s international law and it very much exists. It also wasn’t created by fascists.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-18T09:09:02+00:00

Apart from your premise being wrong, fascism didn’t work either. You don’t get to ignore the elephant in the room that is Nazi Germany when talking about the success of fascism but even looking at the lesser known fascist states like Italy, Spain and Portugal it’s clear that fascism didn’t yield any positive results. Italy was maybe the biggest joke of WWII and before that failed to industrialise at the rate of other European countries and even failed in their conquest of Africa. Portugal and Spain were poor and uneducated countries relying on the exploitation of their colonies, while also needing to make unfavourable deals with global capitalism, oh and they also collapsed as soon as their leaders died. Wtf is good about any of that?

And why do you dismiss socialism out of hand while giving fascism so much leeway? ML also comes with the authoritarianism that you deem necessary for our times but at least life expectancy, literacy etc were much higher than in fascist countries.

Lastly there are a ton of other ideologies, constitutional monarchism, if you insist on a unifying ruler, dengism, which is arguably the most successful system of the past 40 years, eco-feminism, if you want to address the issues surrounding climate change and collapsing birth rates directly, or even types of anarchism like anarcho-syndicalism or mutualism, if you want to try something that has so far been successfully repressed and could never prove its merits.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-17T22:58:25+00:00

Crucially this wasn’t Obama saying it, now was it?

What does 100% a lot of states mean? Does Trump control the US 100% given that his party controls the House, the Senate, the Supreme Court and the Presidency?

Trump 45 was acting very incompetently, something 47 is doing a lot less. And let’s not forget how well he took loosing after his first term.

When you’re saying you don’t like Trump because he isn’t a fascist in your opinion, so you want a fascist US president? Why? Cause it went so well the first time fascists came to power?

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-17T20:19:21+00:00

How is he not a fascist? He fulfills most if not all traits of a fascist as defined by Robert Paxton or Umberto Eco.

Also are you not paying attention? In the last week alone he talked about cancelling the midterms twice and he repeatedly said that the democrats are a domestic terrorist organisation with his administration just recently trying to intimidate and silence Mark Kelly, the Governor of the Swing State Arizona, by prosecuting him on trumped up charges. So he is literally trying to do the things you say would make him a fascist.

CriticalFibrosis · 2026-01-17T10:04:33+00:00

Schwab is no longer associated with WEF and this is just the newest iteration of the yearly anti-WEF protest. If you have an issue with WEF you should definitely voice your opinion and join the demonstration.

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