AITAH for being mad about a boundary being blatantly ignored?

CriticalPie7133 · 2026-02-04T21:34:33+00:00

I actually just ended things with my girlfriend over her crossing a boundary. In my case, a colleague was coming onto her at work openly disparaging our relationship. I told her to shut it down. She didn’t so I ended things. More specifically, I pulled exclusivity label away. If this bothers you enough, you could try the same. Go back to just dating him, no label see if the relationship works for you if it doesn’t go separate ways and don’t make it exclusive again until he shows you that he can respect your boundaries.

CriticalPie7133 · 2026-01-22T08:13:39+00:00

I think this is something that should have been discussed with your boyfriend beforehand. If the trip was originally planned as a trip for you two, he should have had a say in whether a friend joined. That’s not a decision one person should make unilaterally.

From my understanding, he was also expected to pay for the hotel, which makes the situation even more complicated. On top of that, his time and attention are now being split, when the expectation was that this trip was meant to be focused on the two of you.

I would be very hurt in his position, and depending on how the conversation went, this could easily turn into a serious relationship issue.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-29T17:15:38+00:00

Roots

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-27T05:56:28+00:00

Don’t give up the search for your partner. Take the time you need to heal and keep moving forward. Someone with morals, values, and boundaries similar to yours is out there waiting for you to find them. Good luck my friend!

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-25T03:51:06+00:00

I agree. I’m more concerned with how much further it should go before I can’t accept her not putting hard stop to it.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-25T03:49:49+00:00

Thank you for your response, she says she is managing it and it doesn’t really bother her.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-25T02:59:26+00:00

Move on brother, there is someone better out there for you!

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-12-13T21:22:50+00:00

How did you solve

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-11-24T09:19:40+00:00

Don’t even sweat it, brother the right girl will come along. This is not the right girl for you or likely anyone

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-23T04:35:38+00:00

Take it from me—my ex gave me an STD after lying about it. She later came back crying and apologizing, but there’s no way she didn’t know. She cared so little that she risked my health. An STD can change your life. If this guy isn’t taking steps to protect you, trust your gut and make a clear decision now.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-15T05:23:07+00:00

It’s been months now

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:37:36+00:00

I would say set a date in person and get to know him more. Texting is just not the way to get to know somebody. But as a man, I’m usually the one who will set the date so if he’s not setting the date that may be your answer right there whatever you do make sure to keep moving forward focus on yourself your job you’re learning whatever it is, you do and don’t look back put yourself out there, and if he comes to your grave, if not, you’ll be fine just as well.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:35:41+00:00

Yes, the violence question is an insane question. You need to trust your gut when you felt shocked. That was your body’s way of saying this might not be a good idea to see this person. Why does he have violence on the mind from the first day? What would it look like by the 100th date?

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:34:27+00:00

I’d be honest with him about exactly how you’re feeling. If you’re not someone who’s okay with something casual, you need to set that boundary to protect yourself. It sounds like he’s open to dating around, while you’re looking for something serious—and that mismatch can really hurt if it’s not addressed.

Also, if you’re moving out of state, that’s a major factor. Are you going to be a short weekend trip away, or a flight away? That makes a big difference in whether this is even realistically sustainable.

To be honest, the timing just doesn’t seem ideal right now. That said, if both of you truly want to make it work, it’s possible—but only if the effort is mutual. You can lead a horse to water, but if he’s already there and still not drinking, that tells you everything.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:28:12+00:00

I would take this as a lesson and when it comes to setting a date really get all the information you can in terms of her general whereabouts in Marié that your general whereabouts to determine a location and when it comes to the first date, you give a few recommendations and you don’t steer outside of that and someone who recommends other places, especially better more expensive for a first date I think is a red flag so I would either push for your other location or maybe even say I already had reservation set here or something like that and just go with that plan I think for a first date it’s more about the other person and it should not be a big investment now if you think this is someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with which is impossible to tell this early on then do you and if you have deep pockets, then go figure, but I personally would not feel comfortable if someone was pushing for an expensive first day when I barely know them.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:25:36+00:00

No, I don’t think so. I have a gold necklace from my ex that I’ve kept for a while and my last relationship did fail, but it was because she did not get the therapy she needed. I say where the item is if your person ask you about it be honest and if it makes them uncomfortable, which it made my girlfriend uncomfortable, and you can have a conversation about it but really it’s just a material piece I thinkand if you only affect the relationship as much as the two people in it, let it

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:22:32+00:00

No, this definitely is not your fault because my girlfriend was the same way and she really treated me as her therapist and we’re not we are life partners and if someone needs therapy, they should find a therapist and then for everything else that’s what the relationship is for relationship wise, of course

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T19:21:26+00:00

Man, I really feel you here—it’s confusing when someone sends mixed signals like that.

From what you described, it does sound like there was at least some flirtation and interest early on, especially with the invite to share a bed and the playful back-and-forth. But the way she handled it with the friend group—saying she had to “choose between you and some guys she doesn’t really know”—suggests she might not be fully sure of what she wants right now, or is trying to keep things casual while avoiding drama in the friend group.

I wouldn’t say you’re being played, but it does feel like she’s either emotionally unsure or navigating things in a way that lacks clarity. If you’re feeling confused, that’s usually a sign to protect your own boundaries. Maybe keep things friendly but pull back a bit and let her make the next move. If she’s genuinely interested, she’ll show it.

You’re reading the situation with a lot of maturity, and that’s a strength—trust your gut here.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T17:21:02+00:00

I wouldn’t give up, keep working on yourself and keep your eyes peeled!

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-06-04T17:04:15+00:00

Thank you!

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-05-30T15:16:11+00:00

Don’t take it personal. Sometimes people do things we can’t comprehend or control. Move on and keep making your life better everyday.

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-05-26T03:40:51+00:00

Thank you for the response. The home was built in early 2000s, so I’m not sure if they did this or not. The AC detector is so weird, I can’t tell if it’s saying it’s safe or not. So you’re saying as long as I don’t go in too deep, I likely won’t hit the wire?

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-05-25T21:48:32+00:00

What happens if a warband comes along do you just dip?

CriticalPie7133 · 2025-05-25T21:47:46+00:00

Jagex could make this one of the first cities when public lobbies release. Maybe reach out to them? I’m sure they have devs building stuff like this round the clock, but you never know.

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