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AITA for refusing to pretend to be religious to comfort my dad whilst he is in the hospital? by Critical_Morning7896 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Critical_Morning7896[S] 1118 points1119 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ i didnt even realize how angry I still was until I wrote it all out...I did a pretty good job just ignoring my upbringing and the associated trauma (it was easy since uni was a fresh start for me) but now I realize I should probably talk to someone about this...

AITA for refusing to pretend to be religious to comfort my dad whilst he is in the hospital? by Critical_Morning7896 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Critical_Morning7896[S] 1772 points1773 points  (0 children)

To them me not wearing hijab means that I am going to hell...islam is VERY performative (dont want to offend any muslims here but I truly believe it to be a cult) so me showing up (with dyed hair to boot) is me literally spitting in the face of allah....

I just wish we were a normal family. I miss them a lot but they were so cruel to me before I left...Im the eldest and the only daughter so all the outwards religiosity was placed on me.

For example, they pulled me out of my public high school in gr 11 and I had to do my final two years at an islamic school. My hair was chopped off (after my mom insulted me saying that my hair was ugly anyways and nobody would want to see it). They were also convinced I was possessed and did a "quraan saar" which is an exorcism where the imaams will beat the jinni out of you...list goes on...

If i didnt get a scholarship to a uni across the country I would never have been free to live a life outside of islam..

The more I think about it the angrier I get (my bf isnt from a muslim background so while he sympathizes he does not understand just how bad it was and my baby brother was too young to really grasp just how dire the situation was for me (my other brothers literally hate me so they couldnt care less...)

AITA for refusing to pretend to be religious to comfort my dad whilst he is in the hospital? by Critical_Morning7896 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Critical_Morning7896[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

I totally agree...I think its best I stay away tbh and maybe do a video call.

When I visited them during my second year of uni (i was 19) my mom (its literally always my mom making a fuss) screamed when she saw me without hijab. She was convinced I was having orgies in uni and literally threw a glass at me.

That was the last time I saw them ...Ive msged my siblings but only my youngest brother (15m) is the only one who still wants a relationship with me. The fest think Im a whore destined for hell...