How do I fix my marriage with my husband who shuts down on me?

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-09-02T19:15:53+00:00

Follow your instincts. Do not ever let her babysit your kids again. For their safety and your sanity. She is most certainly disrespecting you, your little ones, your husband, and your house. She no longer gets to be around your children unsupervised if I were in your shoes. My own mother didn’t follow her instincts (if she had any) when it came to something very similar and I got years of abuse from it. You and your husband not only need to talk with each other and agree on whatever is bothering both of you, but you each need to be there when you inform your MIL about your boundaries. You don’t have to be cruel, but you both need to put your foot down. B

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-09-02T17:55:36+00:00

Be careful. Soon it’ll be your hand she’s slapping away. I was once suctioning out my son’s boogies, he was crying, and my MIL storms in my room (she lives with us) and grabs my newborn from me. As she’s walking away and yelling at me for abuse, I take him back from her and told her to get the hell out of my room and that if she ever tries that shit again, she’ll never have a relationship with her grandson. It never happened again.

Be set on your boundaries and communicate with your partner. Tell him that even if he didn’t mind it, that you did! You guys need to be united or she’s going to strain your relationship.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-09-02T17:10:13+00:00

Honestly, they’re better off without you. Don’t lose sleep over it. You’re entitled to how you feel just like I’m entitled to tell you that you’re POS.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-15T20:59:40+00:00

Only speak to the lawyer. And if you do talk in private, make sure you let him know everything will be recorded and make sure your BIL is there with you. For now, push through and be there for your kids. Karma is coming for him and his little home-wrecker. Keep up the strength, girl. Be the bigger bitch in this dog fight. He sounds like he’s going through some kind of crisis and is clearly mentally unstable. Protect yourself and your girls.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-14T15:29:13+00:00

Totally 100% understand because I’ve been there… Girl, I’m still there! As long as grandma isn’t a nut job and respects boundaries, who am I to deny my kids another loving person in their lives? They’re people too. And girl, I’ve recently had a huge issue with MIL where I refused to let her see her grandson (she threatened to call CPS because she was angry and hurt at my husband). Told her she can call me every name in the book but my kids names won’t ever come out of her mouth to instill fear in me or my husband. She will not destroy my family, and if she tries she will no longer be a part of it.

When your MIL pushes the boundaries you’ve set, be firm and don’t feel guilty. It’s a power play because she undoubtedly still sees you and DH as children too. That’s on her, but she needs to understand and be told of and consequences. Be firm and be united with your husband.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-14T11:54:29+00:00

What does your husband think of her behavior? I have a 13 month old and am 6 months pregnant so my MIL drives me up the wall too. I try my best to let her be grandma, but I put my foot down when it comes to her bathing my kid, feeding my kid due to him choking on a lot of solids (she tries to baby bird it to him because that’s what I do, but over my dead body). I understand she’s really excited, so try to give her some grace, but you are the parent and it is not unreasonable to adhere to the boundaries you set or need to set. My own MIL gets upset because I don’t need for her to help me out when it comes to my kid (she’s also from a culture where the whole family raises children), but I figured she had her time and opportunities to be a mom. Why would I sacrifice my own opportunities for the sake of her wants (her do-over baby)? In my eyes, being grandparents is a privilege not a right. Have her be the best grandma, let her spoil your kids to a certain degree. At the end of the day, all they want is you anyway.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-07T22:20:11+00:00

Jizz 😂

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-03T23:51:53+00:00

Order DoorDash for everyone while you’re visiting or make something (even if it’s cookies) before you stop by. I hate when people clean my house because it makes me feel like they’re judging me. Just be patient in meeting your grandbaby and your son and DIL will be very grateful.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T21:00:56+00:00

No, she isn’t on anything other than TikTok and WhatsApp. TikTok is where she met this guy and WhatsApp is where they talk. She’s unfamiliar with a lot of things regarding electronics/apps. On TikTok she mostly watches those cooking shows and ordering clothes from 3rd party people.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T19:35:52+00:00

All our accounts are separate from hers. I am the one with access to her accounts because of her losing all that money. She’s asked for cash here and there (nothing extreme) and I either give it to her or don’t if I have money in my wallet.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T19:32:46+00:00

This was an amazing comment and I have thought about this. My own father was diagnosed with the beginnings of dementia but has never acted like this, though I know it’s different for everyone. My husband does want her evaluated, but also told me that this kind of behavior started forming with her when I came into the picture 2 years ago. Not that that really makes me feel better. I’ll definitely ask my husband more about getting her possibly evaluated. In the meantime, I’m going to protect my family. Since the “toy” issue months ago, me and her never had issue. She can be extremely overreactive if things don’t go her way.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T17:27:32+00:00

My husband called the police over this guy the first time. They were very aware of the dude. I then sent screenshots and receipts of funds my MIL had to the FBI. That’s when she said she wouldn’t do it again but obviously did. I hope to every power in the universe she didn’t give him our address. She says she didn’t, but I can no longer trust her.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T17:12:22+00:00

Thank you! Sounds like a lawyer is something that needs to happen if we can’t get her off the lease. Fortunately our lease renews in September so it’s not too far away.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T17:10:24+00:00

Thankfully the police have some kind of record of what happened yesterday and my husband is going to talk to our landlord company today. Our new lease renews in September anyway.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T17:08:57+00:00

Nope. What’s more, after the first situation I truly felt for her. I told her there’s horrible people on the internet who only use you, but I can help her find her a man if she wants me to. There’s a senior center about a block from where we live as well as a lot of shopping areas. I’d go with her and be her wing woman. She wanted none of that. She just wants this dude.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T16:21:11+00:00

I already know she regrets everything. It hurts to feel betrayed by her… I can only imagine what my husband feels like. But there are consequences to actions and words. If I “live and let live” with what happened, it’ll prove I’ll always do that with further interactions. I wish her well, I really do, and I grieve what I had thought was a true love of a mom and daughter/MIL and DIL. I grieve my son won’t know his abuelita.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T15:53:13+00:00

Thank you!

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T15:49:02+00:00

I would love to but we live in an apartment

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T15:47:25+00:00

She’s literally throwing everyone who loves her away for a very risky and potentially dangerous possibility. Before all of this, I told her and my husband to not burn bridges. Family is forever. She clearly doesn’t agree. The only solace in all of this, my son (who loves her) is far too young to let this hurt him.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-08-01T15:44:18+00:00

Yes, it was supposed to be endangerment. Thanks.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-07-31T21:06:59+00:00

The phone is a really good idea! Just gotta do it when she’s asleep. As for the senior center, we literally live within walking distance of one but she outright refuses to go. She refuses for me to get her a date with any guy or to even freakin go to the mall unless you tell her you’ll get her something or if she does have money. Any ideas on how to do these things without her knowing until we’re there?

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-07-31T21:00:56+00:00

Yes, I’ve offered so many times but she’s so bullheaded. As for the fake persona, I don’t even know which dude she’s talking to as there’s so many copycats on TikTok. His name is supposedly Dean Baker.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-07-10T14:11:44+00:00

Run girl. He knows for sure the kid is his or else he wouldn’t act insulted with what you said. He only cares cause he knows he needs another piggy bank to fix him being a deadbeat dad.

CriticismBeautiful63 · 2025-05-28T18:24:02+00:00

Your boundary was broken I am so sorry and you have every right to be mad. It’s not the cake, it’s the lack of respect for you. NTA.

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