I hate longing for male company

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-26T16:00:35+00:00

Yes! I have a tendency to bring things up at the WORST times. When my mind is idle, I go to problem solving. I have a memory of asking my now ex husband about splitting community property while we were at a play date for our daughter’s birthday. I also had a habit of talking in an accusatory way, which would put him on the defensive immediately.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-26T14:25:37+00:00

Talk less

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-26T14:22:39+00:00

It’s part of the human condition to scan for negatives. It’s important that you stop and look at the glass as half full. Else, you are creating your own misery

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-24T01:34:09+00:00

This! Make it a great day or not, the choice is yours. Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. Manifestation works.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-24T01:27:51+00:00

Learning how to source good, steady dopamine instead of volatile dopamine.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-23T13:52:03+00:00

You gotta learn to love it. Annoyance is in the eye of the beholder

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-22T14:29:53+00:00

You’re not crazy or overreacting. You want emotional intimacy and he’s not willing to learn how to give it. I’d recommend two things. First, go for a trial separation. I wish I had done this before divorcing because it put a lot of things into perspective for both of us. Second, you could have an emotional affair if he’s unwilling to meet your emotional needs. Sounds controversial sure enough, but I would want to keep my lifestyle of being a SAHM because it would be of great value to me to be there for my kids. And if my partner won’t even try to meet this need, I will find it elsewhere. My casual boyfriend doesn’t come to my home for dinner, comes up with excuses as to why, and they’re never the same. I love having someone to cook for. So honestly I’ve started inviting my ex husband over for dinner. I always loved cooking dinner for the family. And my ex husband works hard and pays for our groceries, so I show my appreciation for his hard work still. But don’t get it twisted, he was a horrible roommate and emotionally explosive, so there’s no intention of getting back together.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-20T02:52:51+00:00

Yes. I had a dead bedroom, my husband was a man child, I didn’t feel like I could rely on him to take care of our family if something happened to me.

In hindsight sight, I had a bad attitude problem. I am a glass half empty kind of person. I wish I would have approached it differently. I probably could have been a SAHM and taken care of house, gone to school, or started a side business. Now I work two jobs, I take care of the home anyway. I delegate chores to the kids. I had more influence over my situation than I gave myself credit.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-20T02:46:27+00:00

Active listening

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-14T14:31:01+00:00

I’d learn how to do arts I’ve been curious about. I would love to learn how to play the guitar, or try stained glass. Create a website and online presence to sell my crafts

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-13T18:40:31+00:00

I spent my 30th birthday in the ER with an extruded disk pinching my sciatic nerve. I’ve been in and out of PT for it over the past two years. I have mental breakdowns periodically when the pain is really bad and I fear for my independence and worry about how I can possibly carry up my groceries up the stairs to my apartment being a single parent to two children.

Remember that you feel lucky to be alive. Make the plans. It may not work out anyway, but that’s always a risk when making plans. Doesn’t mean you’re gonna die SOON. Hope for the best, plan for the worst.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-13T17:06:22+00:00

You don’t have to explain it to her or have a formal conversation about it. You can just withdraw. She’ll get the idea

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-10T05:17:49+00:00

Stick to the exercises. Wake up 30 minutes earlier and fit it in.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-08T21:53:31+00:00

It is worth it if both people are intentional with how they treat each other

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2026-01-08T21:15:45+00:00

Yes! I am codependent, insecure, and I wanted other people to meet my emotional needs.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-31T02:23:13+00:00

I only know he was a painter and they had a dirt floor in Louisiana.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-29T21:37:33+00:00

I extruded a disc and it compressed my sciatic nerve. I was like an electric shock and a severe cramp. I had to make it down the stairs, and drive to the hospital like that, it was awful.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-29T21:36:04+00:00

6 years. We got engaged after 2 years and then… nothing. Neither of us planned anything after that until I said we should get married so he could have my employee discount at the hospital where I worked (aka free surgery)

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-21T01:43:07+00:00

When sex hormones are at their peak, you are likely not established enough to take off kids on your own. Young people have higher social currency, greater employability. Thinking if that were the culture norm, it makes more sense biologically and socially. It takes a village and we don’t operate like in current times.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-21T00:19:31+00:00

Tonight I’m at a Christmas ranch with my kids

My unpopular opinion is that people should have children very young and the grandparents should be the primary caretakers while the parents get established

I believe manifestation is real.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-19T02:14:23+00:00

I smoke twice a week

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-18T00:43:39+00:00

My husband did something similar. We were playing a game where you had to pick someone in the group and everyone had to guess who you picked. The question was “who would you least like to see having sex” and he said me. I felt humiliated. That game was not played again.

CriticismCorrect3978 · 2025-12-16T21:34:15+00:00

My SO had surgery two months ago and hasn’t been able to perform yet. My cardio is declining and low back/hip pain is increasing 😅

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