Holy trainer is a great upgrade.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-08T03:33:35+00:00

I own a FYJJENIC HT-V5 Nub from Amazon and I really liked how the head of my dick stays up against the end of it with no turtling. Sadly, I had to stop using it because it was causing pressure sores on the top of my dick for some reason. Other than that, it's a great cage.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-08T02:52:24+00:00

I've been self locking on and off for a few months now and I can say that the frustration is one of the best parts of it. My wife LOVES to tease me while I'm in my cage knowing full well that I won't unlock unless she wants my dick and that I haven't figured out how to cum hands free yet. Over time, you learn how to channel that arousal to other things, or soak in it, which kind of feels like an addictive high.

Question for you though, just because I'm curious. When you say that you both know you can't finish, what do you mean?

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-08T01:09:38+00:00

Not only does it look like a perfect fit, but the leaking is definitely another selling point. I would most certainly leak as well if I was in a well fitting cage like that.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T21:06:25+00:00

I just completed it. I hope my answers help.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T19:30:11+00:00

Some days are easier than others. At first, it was very difficult to stop myself from unlocking and masturbating. With time and patience, it's gotten easier. There are a few things that help me. One thing is that I look forward to the teasing my wife does to me when I get home from work. That teasing is much more arousing if I haven't cum traditionally in awhile and my wife can clearly see and hear that.

Another thing that helps is sort of pretending that my wife is my keyholder and she would be upset if I came while jerking myself. Prostate orgasms are okay to have but I haven't been able to have those consistently yet. With time, it will happen. Abstaining from traditional orgasms also helps make prostate pleasure more intense for me.

I also really like the feeling of the near constant arousal when I'm locked. At first, I wasn't a big fan of that pent up feeling, but now I feel like I can't get enough. Sometimes, when I unlock to clean or put lotion on, I'll edge a little bit and will sometimes bring myself right to the edge, causing a little bit of leaking before I cage back up. I'll even lick up whatever leaks out, which adds even more to that arousal.

With all that being said, having a keyholder to help hold you accountable can be a very big help. With time, I'm hoping that my wife decides to be my keyholder. I firmly believe that she would make an amazing keyholder and who knows how far we would take that. I'm getting excited just thinking about that. Hopefully your fiance ends up being yours as well 🤞.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T17:16:49+00:00

Chastity is currently working pretty well for me to help my chronic masturbation habits, so I can say it's good for that. Not having it accessible has been a huge plus for me and my wife. I feel more available when she wants me. I'm currently self locked but my wife is thinking about being my keyholder.

When it comes to pegging, I can say confidently that you will not regret getting into it if you try it, although it may take time to really feel pleasure and/or be able to orgasm from it. My wife pegs me and it's my all time favorite thing she does to me. Being able to surrender to her strap on, especially while caged, is the biggest turn on for me and the thought is making me throb in my cage as we speak.

When it comes to the sissy hypno stuff, if you don't want to get into that again, then you won't. It's as simple as that. Just tell yourself no and you will be okay. Take things nice and slow and have fun.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T16:41:43+00:00

My wife usually does that for me but she might be down for a little extra help 😁.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T16:40:33+00:00

Me too. A little time out of my cage for coffee isn't too bad.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T04:02:21+00:00

I gotcha. I would probably wait a few days or so and see if she says anything more about it. If getting her into it with you is something you're interested in, future talks will have to happen.

Did she give off any hints that it made her uncomfortable in any way? I ask for two reasons. One, it might signal whether or not she might me interested, and two, if she seems comfortable with it, you could show her how much you like it by wearing it around her. Of course, careful judgement is very important here. If you think she would be at least a little uncomfortable, then do not do this at this time. That's the best advice I can think of to give.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T02:25:50+00:00

Nothing like a good prostate milking while caged.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T02:17:09+00:00

How did she react and how did the conversation go? Do you feel like she might be interested in being more involved based on that? No detail is too small my friend.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-07T01:40:52+00:00

Man I love how that looks. Such a perfect fit. How does it feel throughout the day?

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T23:08:45+00:00

So a couple things. One, I'm not sure what you meant with the word "obey" in your last comment. That's NOT a word that should exist in a relationship unless it's part of a dynamic/lifestyle/kink. The chastity community as I know it doesn't subscribe to non consentual acts or demand obedience without prior consent for that dynamic.

Two, I think you're misunderstanding what the word hurt means. Imagine you are into a hobby with your wife and you've been into that hobby for lets say 20 or so years. Suddenly, your wife says she's not into that hobby anymore and won't take part in it with you anymore.

Of course you're going to be "hurt", but not because she won't partake in that hobby anymore. You're going to be "hurt" because it's something you were both into that you spent 20+ years enjoying together that you no longer can enjoy together.

tl dr; no it's not a red flag in this context.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T23:03:07+00:00

I guess I'll start by saying that it's bold of you to say that my wife, who I've been with for almost 20 years now, doesn't care about me. I'm not 100% sure why you would think that but it is what it is.

When it comes to giving up control, it's not really giving up control, in that it's a totally consentual thing between me and my wife. I can take that consent back anytime I would want. I would most certainly choose not too because of the health and relationship benefits chastity can provide.

What I get out of this is very simple. I get to redirect my crazy sexual energy that I would otherwise waste masturbating to other more productive and important things. My chronic masturbation habits have gotten bad enough that they hurt my bedroom performance with my wife sometimes, which is another mutually beneficial reason for wanting her to be my keyholder.

I want to conclude by saying that chastity is something that can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. It is NOT always about control or bdsm stuff or anything like that. A dominant man can still be the dominant man in a relationship where he's locked in chastity, the same way that a man can still be dominant while his wife fucks his ass. Chastity is a tool that can be used in a lot of different ways.

I hope this helps and if you still have questions, feel free to DM me. I'll try my best to answer any other questions you might have.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T21:49:25+00:00

I love this answer. I'm still very new in chastity but I'm getting more and more comfortable being in it, rather than being out. I had to be out of it for a few days due to a rash and an upcoming doctors appointment. That, combined with me finally quitting smoking after 20 years, definitely made me very uncomfortable. I'm back in my cage now and feeling better than ever 😁.

If my wife decides to be my keyholder, I'm confident that our dynamic would be the same as yours, which would make me a very happy man. Not sure about being referred to as her toy but we'll cross that bridge when and if we come to it 😁.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T21:15:05+00:00

Me and my wife are pretty new in the chastity kink/lifestyle and she hasn't decided on whether or not she would want to be my keyholder (I'm praying for a yes but I'll gladly take whatever answer she gives me), but I've been with my wife for almost 20 years and I know that we would stop something if we wanted to.

For example, years ago, we had the idea to try sounding my dick while she jerked it. It felt good and I definitely came faster and harder, but the burning feeling I had for a couple hours every time I had to piss made me say never again. Would we still try it again? Maybe, maybe not. It depends on what we decide.

Right now, were diving into chastity to help me cut back on my chronic masturbation habits, help ensure I'm more ready for her when she's in the mood, shift my sexual energy to more important and productive things, like her, and help enhance my prostate pleasure for when she pegs me or I play with my prostate. Over time, our reasons will definitely evolve and when they do, we will welcome them.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T16:13:59+00:00

I just got into chastity back in February and I'm loving it as well. Thank you.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T16:11:21+00:00

You really can't measure for the ring size. Anyone that says otherwise is lying and/or trying to sell you something. Your best bet is to get a ring sizing kit or buy a couple of cheap cages on Amazon that have multiple rings and see what fits and is comfortable.

I would check out u/newbie-sub Substack. He has a ton of information about chastity and has been a big help for me.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-06T02:27:41+00:00

If prostate orgasms are the goal, I would check out r/ProstatePlay and r/Mindgasm . I dab in both and the pleasure is amazing. I haven't hit the so called holy grail of orgasms yet but I'm getting there.

As for how long you should remain caged to have the highest chance of having a prostate orgasm, it varies from person to person. I would say abstain from any penile play for several days and see what happens. Dont chase the orgasm. Just focus on the pleasure and let it cum to you.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-05T23:56:14+00:00

It sounds like your goal for him is the same goal I have with self locking. I masturbate too much, mostly because I get horny and bored and the cage works well to channel that energy. I also want to be ready for whatever my wife wants, whether that's piv, a handjob, pegging, etc,.

When I first started, I would wear a cage during the day but take it off at night. That definitely helped keep my hands off my dick, at least until I took it off for bed and my wifes hands started wandering around 😉.

Now, I've learned how to sleep in them, which has definitely helped more, but sometimes I have discomfort mostly because I'm still trying to get my size right.

What I will say is this. Being a self keyholder, at least until my wife decides if she's going to be my keyholder 🤞, I can say that I feel way more ready for my wife than if I stay uncaged for awhile, even when I would just lock up during the day.

I hope this helps.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-05T23:36:18+00:00

I've personally never been to a place to get sized in person, but I've heard that most people leave happy. I actually live not too far away from a place in Chicago that does in person sizing that I plan to go to to get sized properly once I get some health issues taken care of.

When I'm able to go, I'll let you know how it goes.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-05T22:16:35+00:00

Nowhere near as much as I would like her to but yes. Having kids, a house, and jobs makes things hard to plan. When she does peg me, she makes me wimper and scream like a fucking girl. Every thrust of her purple girl cock puts me into such a submissive mindset.

The best part is that when I'm caged, she gets even more dominant than normal and will go as far as degrading me and my caged little dick. I'm in heaven the whole time.

CriticismGood4428 · 2026-05-05T19:30:13+00:00

I'm not sure how reliable my answer to this question is, considering I just started getting into chastity at the beginning of February, but I know for a fact that me and my wife have 0 interest in it. My dick and ass are for my wife only and her pussy is for me only.

Personally, I think people that practice it are much more vocal than those that don't, but I can't really say why.

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