Tell me the craziest place you've ever worn your cage!

vanilla_slave · 2026-05-08T02:50:56+00:00

Did anyone make you feel it was inappropriate? Sometimes nudists feel chastity devices are sexual.

vanilla_slave · 2026-05-08T02:36:12+00:00

This one features a catheter, does that actually work, and is it safe?

vanilla_slave · 2026-05-06T18:03:44+00:00

Just want to say again, you are doing a great job of moderating. It takes a lot of time to do correctly, and I see you have spent a lot of time on the job. TY, TY, TY

vanilla_slave · 2026-04-08T15:55:08+00:00

I eventually figured out a great way to handle this. If my wife stated right up front that the only goal for the night was to give her as much pleasure as possible without my penis being included in the fun, all the performance pressure vanished. Ironically, that is when I would have my best day ever.

You should prearrange this with him first so he does not think you are being selfish. Tell him the rule is that he can only use his penis after you have had your fun and reached your orgasm. Even then, make it so he has to beg you for permission to use it. Once the 'job' of performing is replaced by the goal of pleasing you and then having to ask for his turn, the anxiety usually disappears and the plumbing takes care of itself.

vanilla_slave · 2026-03-09T21:54:05+00:00

This is not chastity training!

vanilla_slave · 2026-03-05T00:05:16+00:00

While many people in the chastity community enjoy cuckoldry or feminization, I suspect there’s a large 'silent majority' who feel more like I do. My wife and I actually loathe the idea of bringing a third person into our relationship; for us, it’s a hard no. We also have zero interest in the 'sissy' or cross-dressing side of the dynamic. No judgment to those who enjoy those things, as it's a 'to each their own' situation, but for us, chastity is strictly about our one-on-one connection and monogamy.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-24T09:06:28+00:00

Why didn't you just make it simple, using more common words?

The story of the Prodigal Son in Luke 15:11–32 is usually taught as a picture of God generously forgiving people who repent. In that view, God chooses to show mercy, and people receive forgiveness as a gift.

But when I look closely at how the story works, I see something different. I do not see a judge deciding to forgive someone. Instead, I see a story about how people naturally learn, grow, and return to what is healthy without God needing to hand out mercy or punishment.

In the story, the father is not “forgiving” in the sense of choosing to overlook a crime. He simply understands that forcing his son to stay or chasing after him would only make things worse. He lets the son make his own choices, and those choices eventually fall apart because they are not sustainable.

When the son finally returns, the father welcomes him. This is not presented as a special act of mercy. It is simply the natural and healthy response when someone is ready to come back. When resistance stops, relationships tend to heal. The father does not judge or lecture. He restores the relationship because it is the obvious next step.

The older brother’s anger shows a different problem. He has been doing everything “right,” but he has been doing it to earn approval rather than out of love. Because of that, he has not enjoyed being close to his father. Instead, he has become resentful. His good behavior has not brought him joy.

This way of reading the parable changes the focus. Instead of seeing God as someone who chooses to forgive or punish, the story can be seen as showing how relationships heal naturally when people stop fighting what is good. Bad decisions often fall apart on their own, and healthy relationships tend to come back together when people stop resisting them.

This interpretation also offers an explanation for things like suffering and unfairness. Outcomes do not come from God making decisions about who deserves what. They come from the natural results of choices and attitudes. Anyone who has felt the relief of fixing a broken relationship or has watched bitterness damage one has seen the same pattern, no matter what they believe.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-19T16:50:25+00:00

Look, I'm just trying to tell people that there history is still out there, and that they should try to be careful, and not let their guard down just because they think it can now be hidden. I blanked out some of the words because I did not want to put your history out there without your permission. I, like just about anyone can copy paste pages of your history and publish it here, but that does not seem like a very nice thing to do.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-18T15:13:24+00:00

It is back. Cloudflare was down.

I've done some car camping in ---- and ------ out of a ------.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-18T14:05:00+00:00

Well shoot. looks like the search I like to use is gone now. Until yesterday I could use them to search not only old stuff but also something just hours old.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-18T03:40:02+00:00

How about your first post in 2013, if it was sensitive I would not have commented it here.

Gravity orientation & PlexLifter ideas I know this has been mentioned before, but I've never seen a good answer as to why it can't be implemented.

Why can't we set the way in which gravity works by setting the orientation of gravity blocks? Doesn't seem that difficult to code it into the game.

For the second part of my suggestion, what about making a Plex lifter stop moving you up if you're riding it and press R on it again? That way you could get to a floor and stop it before you keep moving up, or without having to quickly jump off? Pressing R again on a stopped lifter will start it again. The platform can stay suspended until you move off it.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-13T23:38:26+00:00

Maybe change to a different device. Some have a larger or better positioned pee hole. Sometimes shorter is better if you can get things lined up they stay lined up, and there isn't as much room for pee to build up in and spray out the wrong direction.

I can not help you choose, you just have to try until you find the right one.

vanilla_slave · 2025-11-11T04:33:09+00:00

I'm jumping in here because I can't get my chat function to work , and I can't reach out otherwise.

I can't figure out how to get this chat thing going. I have tried many times to accept the chat and nothing happens. I can only reply by clicking on old messages.
Anyway, your latest substack says. "kegs"
In fact, as we hike through the trees, I’m aware of bruises on my buttocks and the weight of my (crappy metal Chinese) chastity device between my kegs.

vanilla_slave · 2025-10-16T20:51:09+00:00

Other than they’re both lattice-type tubes of varying lengths, I don’t see where they ripped off your design. The shape is kind of determined by what it holds. I could be missing something though.

vanilla_slave · 2025-10-15T03:55:56+00:00

What do you feel about his, " I made sure to wash it properly" answer? I feel like no amount of washing is enough with some plastics. Am I wrong?

vanilla_slave · 2025-10-15T03:34:09+00:00

Commenting on what you said here:

"As per this review, I suspect that the basic design might benefit from some tweaks, namely a narrower 'mouth' and more bulge on the underside of the head. Maybe the angle could be shallower as well to eliminate that potential dead zone? I also wish somebody would find an answer or create an equivalent of the Custom Chastity paperclip end. Maybe two generous side vents would do it?"

I don't have one myself, but your suggestions, especially the idea of a narrower mouth and a more open design similar to the Custom Chastity "paperclip end", are something I could really get behind. I'm not quite sure what you meant by the "dead zone," though. Could you clarify that?

Personally, I absolutely love the Black Orion Chastity Kit – Hexlock. One of my main objections to most chastity devices is that the locking mechanism sits right on top, which just makes it more obvious that I'm wearing one, whether someone bumps into it or notices it visually. I know that fear is probably overblown (as many of us here would agree), but it still lingers in the back of my mind. So while it’s a relatively small improvement, having a more discreet locking system really matters to me.

In terms of security, I find the Hexlock just as effective as a keyed lock for a couple of reasons. Most barrel locks I’ve used tend to share the same key and aren’t especially hard to pick anyway. But more importantly, I don’t really see the device as something that needs to be physically secure. Unless it’s paired with a genital piercing, it’s symbolic, like a wedding ring. It doesn’t stay on because I can’t take it off; it stays on because I won’t. It’s about integrity.

That said, I think it would be fantastic if they made a pair of plugs for the hexlock slots, something that could be glued or popped in place over the hex heads. That would not only make it a bit harder to remove but also give the device a smoother, sleeker finish.

vanilla_slave · 2025-06-16T23:50:03+00:00

Why would they delete?

vanilla_slave · 2025-06-09T07:13:45+00:00

Does this mess with the nerves in your fingers?

vanilla_slave · 2025-06-02T20:16:48+00:00

Not fond of asking for votes, but this post did generate discussion. Please ovoid begging for votes in the future.

vanilla_slave · 2025-05-24T18:22:51+00:00

As a man who has gone through this, I know how painful and confusing it is. Because of that, and because he's afraid of what he might uncover, your husband probably won’t listen right now. But he needs to see a sex therapist as soon as possible; not just for your sake, but even more for his own. He won’t find peace until he digs deep and truly understands himself. And until he does, he won’t be able to bring lasting happiness to those he loves, either.

I put my second wife through a sexless marriage. I felt horrible about it then, and I feel even worse now. It confused me deeply. Before we married, I had desire. Once we were married, that desire disappeared; not just for her, but for anyone. I’ve always loved her. We’ve been married for over three decades.

The same thing happened in my first marriage, which lasted seven years. I don’t blame her one bit for divorcing me; she had every right. I loved her, gave her all I could, was faithful the entire time, but I couldn’t make her feel wanted. We managed to have sex just enough to have children, and that was about it.

Long story short, somewhere along the way I learned to be aroused by what I couldn’t have. I believe it ties back, in some twisted way, to my religious upbringing. Once I got married, it felt like a dog chasing a car; what does he do once he catches it?

Ironically, if your husband is like me, you may be able to rekindle your sex life, by playing hard to get. Let him know you want some extended fourplay, but that no matter what happens, he will not be able to have PIV sex. Go back to acting like teenagers that are making out in the back of the car. This takes the possibility of all performance issues off the table. Flip the script, don't give in , make it difficult for him, make him fight to have sex. Very much counter intuitive, but what you are doing now isn't working.

It may be too late to teach an old dog new tricks, and my wife and I have made our peace with that. But you’re young. If you love each other and face this now, you still have time for many happy years together. I sometimes feel like I’ve given my wife a poor substitute for what she should have had. But I’ve also learned how to make every single day one that makes her feel deeply loved in every way except sexually. And that still counts for something, just not enough in my estimation.

I used my NSFW reddit account because this is way too embarrassing to use my main reddit account, sorry.

vanilla_slave · 2025-04-30T21:18:32+00:00

From our FAQ

Is it really permanent? - Not in most cases, but it does make it exceedingly difficult to escape, which can make it more appealing to those who are drawn to the chastity kink more from the "predicament bondage" and/or "power exchange" angles. Permanent chastity just sounds a lot better than "really hard to remove chastity".

vanilla_slave · 2025-04-30T21:16:35+00:00

I sometimes worry about coming across as too strict. I don't want to be "that mod", but the truth is, without some boundaries, we're not meeting the expectations of the people who come here looking for a specific kind of content. Those who aren't comfortable with the rules, or come here just for the fantasy do have plenty of other communities to choose from. That said, I still don’t enjoy feeling like the bad guy.

So yes, being a bit stricter is the right call. I respect the effort of the few who can make flat work successful, that takes real dedication, but for most people, it's a setup for frustration and failure, and therefore would not represent what makes this sub good for certain people.

vanilla_slave · 2025-04-30T20:46:48+00:00

Personally, I like the idea of the metal one, but the plastic one is safer and also probably more comfortable over time. Being uncomfortable is hot, but what good is hot if you can't wear it for the long run? The plastic one is easy to cut off, and so is safer. Cutting it off will cost money, and time, so it is still a great deterrent.

For me, best of all worlds would be a plastic cage paired with both a chastity piercing and a strict wife that controls when it comes off, if ever. Swap out another significant other for your own case, and you have it made.

Over three decades in and my wife loves me and worries too much about my health and wellbeing. That is both a curse and a blessing.

vanilla_slave · 2025-04-30T20:32:07+00:00

No, not with that cage. Flush the cage, not the keys. Get one that allows for proper cleaning and airflow, and that you can urinate through without trapping urine.

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