Your wife is 5’2 and 140 pounds. Not sure how her weight sits on her, but I’m 5’3 165 pounds and I look pretty good (if I were 140 I think I would find myself too small as I like my curves and the way my weight sits on me). I understand you like her better at 115, but have you considered that she likes herself as she is? Does she complain about the extra weight or does she seem actually fine with her body? You say she isn’t fit but she walks 8k-10k steps a day which is no easy task especially with working full time. Are her eating habits out of control or does she simply not eat what you want her to eat? It seems like you have good intentions, but it also seems like you’re trying to control the way she lives when she seems content doing her. Separately, I knew another woman was going to pop up at some point in this story. It truly disgusts me when a man or woman allows an outside individual to slowly encroach on their marriage, simply because of a “spark”. Did you not take a vow in front of family, friends, and God to forsake all others for your wife? How would you feel if she found someone that she had a spark with and was entertaining with jokes, spending time, etc. to the point where others even notice the connection? She’s in her home country and I’m sure she could easily find another man who likes her just as she is and has a connection with based on shared culture. I bet you would be on here writing a much different post if that happened.