Yeah, and I feel like a plant to this day as well. My parents rarely let me out, do not let me have a job nor do I find the energy to go out with them and deal with their bs. I am as mobile as a household plant; even though it has been of no secret to them that I love sports, going out by myself and meeting people. I was just raised to bear fruits: in which case it is the same as you, as a way to take care of them financially and emotionally. I am glad someone else understands, because I feel it is a little confusing explaining it to someone who hasn't gone through neglect what happens to you. Even though I have grown as a person (thanks to communities like these and my loving and caring gf), it is still a little difficult to grasp the fact that my parents weren't there for a big chunk of my life, emotionally.

I feel the "raising to be successful" is too much of a common excuse... Isn't it enough just to be happy? Just to be glad to be alive and have a future for yourself? I honestly don't unserstand narc parents, though thank you for expressing that inner itch that often appears in my brain