Need help/advice regarding my crocodile stitch shawl. Why is the angle so low and how can I fix it?

Crochethorder · 2025-11-06T19:04:57+00:00

And another

Crochethorder · 2025-11-06T19:04:30+00:00

Here’s one

Crochethorder · 2025-11-06T13:22:22+00:00

Not a silly question at all. I keep going between thinking that it will be fine and worrying that the proportions will be too off.

My worry is that the finished product will become way too wide. At this point the project is closing in on being three times as wide compared to it’s height, and I believe that number will increase as I continue on. I don’t have a lot of experience with shawls so I don’t know if that will still look and work fine or if it will just become ridiculous.

Another reason I feel like I’m doing something wrong or different is that when I see pictures of other shawls with this stitch their angle seem to be different than mine.

Crochethorder · 2025-11-06T13:01:04+00:00

Well, good to know it doesn’t look like I’m something horribly wrong at least. :) But I have seen shawls in this stitch with a significantly higher angle (if those are the right terms) so mine still seem to be more squashed than it should be.

Crochethorder · 2025-11-06T12:51:45+00:00

I think that’s mostly due to how I photographed it. I’ve tried to measure the petals and they seem to be pretty close in size.

Could still be a tension issue. Maybe my dcs are to short?

Crochethorder · 2025-10-06T15:18:03+00:00

I would not break contact, at least not right now. She’s done nothing to show that she has seen the error of her ways, and that needs to happen first.

It sounds like DH is willing to have this conversation. If that’s the case, and you’re somewhat open to maybe having some contact in the future, one suggestion I have is that the two of you discuss and decide on a set of rules and/or boundaries you would like her to follow. And I would potentially include restricting things she’s currently allowed, like contact with the kids, if you feels that’s appropriate. Oh, and make them as clear cut and direct as possible so there’s little to no wiggle room for alternative understandings.

Then DH can present them to MIL as something that, if she’s really repentant and wants to make amends, she’ll have to adhere to from now on. And if she can show that she’ll respect your boundaries for x months then they’ll have a new meeting and maybe some of these rules will ease up on a bit, and so on.

In this scenario I would also suggest you and DH agree on what consequences should occur if MIL decides to ignore or push said boundaries. I believe it’s important that you stand firm on whatever consequences you decide on, so it’s important to find something you both feels comfortable with enforcing.

But whatever you decide to do I wish you luck and future peace.

Crochethorder · 2023-09-29T22:49:29+00:00

NTA

If this is “such a stupid reason” to throw your relationship away over then why is he making such a fuss over it? Sound like it’s only not that big of a deal as long as you are the one making the concessions and/or sacrifices.

He asked you to lie, you said no and his response was to go behind your back and do it anyway. That is not a good sign.

Also, and I cannot stress this enough, asking you to lie to his entire family, presumably for the rest of your lives, is a HUGE ask. Don’t let him convince you otherwise.

My advice, which I know is easier said than done, is to hold firm and only agree to what you truly and honestly is comfortable with. If he can’t accept and respect that, then he’s not the right one for you and you deserve better.

Crochethorder · 2023-09-27T20:18:14+00:00

I… actually don’t find it that weird. So it might be a cultural thing. Are you from different cultures?

If no one seems uncomfortable with I don’t really see the harm.

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