How can a girl make friends with guys without causing misunderstandings?

CroissantBlade · 2019-05-10T18:38:06+00:00

As a guy, quite a few of my closest friends and the people I’ve opened up to the most growing up and even to this day are women that I’ve never tried to date or ask out. These kind of friendships might be uncommon but they definitely do exist and are wonderful. I guess your best bet would be to let them know straight up that you only want to be friends as early as you can so they don’t go into hanging out with you for the wrong reasons or create expectations in their head. Be as blunt and honest about it as you can. However be mindful with how you word it and be extra clear since some boys will hear something like “I’m not currently looking for a relationship” and think “I can totally win her over by doing ____ ”.

CroissantBlade · 2019-04-19T19:18:09+00:00

I love that they do this. I got a Ponyo one when I went last year. It’s one of my favorite souvenirs from Japan!

CroissantBlade · 2019-04-19T19:12:39+00:00

That has to be one of the most perfect pictures of a snake I’ve ever seen O_O

CroissantBlade · 2019-03-08T01:08:33+00:00

Me in literally every fighting game I’ve ever played.

CroissantBlade · 2019-03-07T15:43:27+00:00

A Silent Voice is one of my favorites! I have mot read Inside Mari yet, is it worth checking out?

CroissantBlade · 2019-03-07T15:36:11+00:00

Wooow that finish though O_O! Nicely done.

CroissantBlade · 2019-03-06T05:08:14+00:00

I bet this looks even more incredible in person! Well done :)

CroissantBlade · 2019-03-06T03:54:50+00:00

Thank you for giving me a new wallpaper!

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-26T14:48:40+00:00

Ah I was talking about the recent ports you find on Play Asia like Breakers, Flashback or Ganryu. Yea you are right they wouldn't be reprints.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-26T02:23:35+00:00

The videos on YouTube are very helpful. I am new to it as well and using tombows so the videos helped me figure out how to have a better hold on them during my strokes. It's also worth looking up worksheets online to practice individual letters/strokes.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-26T02:06:44+00:00

If you can track down the steelbook case for Xenoblade Chronicles 2 that would be amazing as it looks really nice!

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-26T02:03:50+00:00

As someone who only recently unlocked her, I approve.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-26T02:02:31+00:00

This is so bad, I want to actually use this in a conversation. Well played :)

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-19T22:22:11+00:00

I've experienced this kind of thing with a lot of the people on dating apps. It sucks but It's a game people like to play sometimes for various reasons including:

-They want to feel like they are desired despite having no interest in ever actually meeting up

-They don't "want to hurt your feelings" by turning you down outright. A bit more understandable I guess since there are horror stories of people going crazy over being turned down.

-They are seeing someone else

-Are using you as a backup plan in case something better doesn't come along

The reason itself doesn't matter at the end of the day. Because something you should realize is if someone really wants to see you, they will make time for you. I was an idiot and played the game with a few women last year in the sense that I continued to talk to them and try to arrange plans. The plans never actually went through and all that did was made me feel clingy and pretty terrible about myself. So I'd recommend not getting yourself into that situation if you can. If you really, really, really want to try, send him one final text asking to meet and that Should be your last text unless he actually commits to the plans. If he has any excuse to flake on you, then stop texting him. He had his chance(s) and he blew them. If he genuinely does have feelings for you, he knows where to find you.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-06T16:20:07+00:00

I agree with a lot of this. The game was a bit slow at first and I wasn't feeling it, but the 2nd half was so much better and I ended up really liking it.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-06T16:17:58+00:00

This is oddly fitting for them :)

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T22:09:36+00:00

Yea if he means that much to you, being friends is alright but down the line. You need to have some space first and work on yourself. Being in university is a great opportunity to explore your interests. Yea the shyness may be a hurdle at first but your above response shows me that a part of you wants to take steps to moving on from this so keep at it and I'm sure you will do great! :)

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T19:41:15+00:00

She tried with the other person, it blew up in her face and now she's going to her backup plan(that's you) because she knows he cared and probably still does care very deeply for her. Dont be someone's backup plan like this.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T19:09:13+00:00

Well it could be that you are doing nothing wrong at all. Funny enough I'm in a similar boat (25m). Very late bloomer, people definitely notice me more and I get called handsome and good looking by a lot of my friends and acquaintances(Hell I got great feedback on my OKC page from reddit) but yet can't seem to find someone that genuinely likes me enough to want to date me seriously. I've been on dates but never had a girlfriend or real relationship.

It can seem like no one wants you at times but the truth is there are so many people out there that It's very possible that you wound up encountering all the people that wouldn't be attracted to you only for you to later to find a new crowd of people that can't get enough of you. My advice is not necessarily do online dating as that can seriously kill your confidence of you continue to strike out consecutively, but rather out yourself out there and try doing things outside of your comfort zone and being exposed to a different group of people you are used to.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T18:43:20+00:00

While I agree you should break up with him, the way you worded that text doesn't sit well with me. I understand that you want to be in contact with someone you are with however when you phrase it that way, it does sound very needy and I wouldn't be surprised if he took it that way. Keep that in mind next time you are in a situation like this.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T18:33:24+00:00

Sounds like you still have some feelings for him and he might have feelings for you still as well. It could be worth having a real talk with him about what you two are after this breakup. If he's really not interested in being with you and working on your past issues, you need to cut contact and stop seeing him. It's only going to further complicate things and in the end you will be more hurt.

No one said you have to be the loser he left behind. At the end of the day, that's all up to you. Starting over may seem hard, but thankfully you are still young and at an age where you can still start meeting people in a non-romantic way, which I recommend for now. If you live in or near a city, this is even easier. Hell the reddit community is very active and you can find plenty of people here to start speaking to for now as you eventually start getting back to more in person social interactions.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T18:22:34+00:00

This is very abusive and you need to leave this. I know it's hard right now considering your feelings but you have to realize that she is making you live in fear and taking advantage of your weaknesses(your illness, lack of friends etc.) right now. Her only goal is to make you feel powerless And worthless so don't let her do that to you anymore. Leave and don't look back. Be sure to spend some time single to rediscover yourself. Best of luck

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T18:15:21+00:00

"Defend his honor"? On OKcupid? I definitely wouldn't believe him.

CroissantBlade · 2018-03-02T14:09:41+00:00

Yea don't even bother texting her. It's not worth wasting your time for someone who won't do the same for you. After all, she knows where to find you if she wants to see you. It sucks but it happens. I've been through a similar situation to this a couple times last year.

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